roedhunt: Exactly my point. There again, it is trying to show us what we SHOULD do. I am not a feminist (that word has become a four-letter-word), but I
AM a firm believer in self-love and self-belief So many of my girlfriends I know, cannot
live without a man in their life. We women always look to others for approval. It started with our parents examples, gone to our peers, then to our bf/husbands...
As for what to do... Boy, it is easier said than done.
First, I highly recommend self-evaluation. Do you like yourself? Do you enjoy your own company or do you HAVE to be around someone? Start doing things on your own. I dont mean going in public to a movie.. but time at home alone.. If you live with someone, go to a park... Examine your life and where you are now.. Are you happy with yourself and your choices? Also, demand at LEAST an hour to yourself.. Men do it and no one says anything...Ie gym, a night out with guys..etc.. So, take a bubble bath, masturbate, read a book, do your nails, or get all gussied up for YOU..ie: do something for YOU.
Dont look at this as being selfish..... you're self-loving yourself.
The thing that I recommend the most.... Learn to say "fuck them". That is the hardest thing to do.. I know... "I don't need anyone to make myself complete. I dont need constant approval..I approve of myself.."
What men REALLY want in a woman is independence. That means not needy. Women who are self-reliant and self-confident. Women who wont crumble when they leave you. And to become this way, (as Yoda once said
you must unlearn what you have learned.
I hope this will give you a start and encouragement to make yourself happy. It can happen. And I have complete confidence in you to do it. ;D