I'm not just my cock.

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by D_Billy_Buttram, Mar 26, 2011.

  1. D_Billy_Buttram

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    Dear lpsg-ers,

    Sorry in advance for what I hope is not too cynical or inappropriate for a forum devoted to penises.

    Recently I have become perturbed by the amount of c2c solicits I have been requested to partake in. I know what you're thinking, "sounds like a pretty awesome problem," and it was for a while. Maybe I've changed or matured or been scarred to many times but it has recently become an issue for me.

    No, not the camming itself. But the fact that the first thing typed on skype or yahoo is, "asl?" or "are you hung?" Yes I suppose those are relevant questions to the issue at hand (hehe) but it is extremely rare to get a "hey how're you?" Which brings me to my second point and main issue.

    Yeah, I might be signed on, but that does not mean that I am waiting around to show someone my cock. Occasionally I actually am doing work or chatting with a friend and am not boned and ready for someone, waiting for what has turned out to be mostly disappointing cocks, bodies, and people.

    I am 21 years old, a slightly fit college student (with actual pics of me and my cock posted here), and I have yet to have sex with a guy. I've been with a girl and liked it but would like to try out my gay side as well. This is honest. When someone tells me their asl and sexual preference, and then acts or appears obviously different (older, fatter, more gay/straight than he claimed, or smaller cock sized), I will lose interest rapidly. It doesn't bother me if someone tells me originally that they're a slightly overweight 30 or 40 something year old. I know not everyone is in their 20s. But please don't lie to me because I've got news for you. I have eyes that are watching your cam and I can tell the difference between a "slightly fit 27 year old" and a "slightly fat 40 year old." And the let down and lies are more of a turn off than the idea of jerking with an older guy. Promise.

    Also, if I don't immediately jump to c2c with someone, it doesn't mean I'm not interested in the idea. I actually probably am. So please don't flip out or be rude. I've had guys continuously call on skype-even before saying "hey" or "c2c?". Guys who once I turned the cam on claimed they were "bored" and left. Guys who have just been plain rude about it. Sorry me and my penis aren't on your jack off schedule. I happen to have a life of my own outside of masturbation.

    And I do like to chat with some of you. Some of you who have become good friends. If you'd like to be a friend, the more the merrier. But I might not like you so much after you switch over from being a friend to only ever talking about my cock and jerking off with me. Occasionally, sure. Nonstop, just look at porn and stop bothering me please. I'm not your guy.


    Thanks for listening to my rant. I doubt this will actually change anything. But hopefully people, when camming from here at least, will at least keep in mind that we are actual people on the other end too. While sex and getting off can be a priority, I'm a guy too, not just a penis waiting to cum for you.


    -Collegeguy1223
     
  2. D_HQ9jn2x

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    Speak the word man... because its all so true.
     
  3. atlas23

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    Well said :)
     
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    Now you know what it feels like to be a woman on LPSG. x.x Lol. I say that slightly in jest, but it's very true as well! Great post. :)
     
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    You know what's even more bothering when someone on here starts their pm to you saying that they like you, have same intrests, that they like your looks.
    You say thanks and then you get the message: "asl?" , but on here you have a full profile that says it...(at least I have) So then you know how much effort someone took to get an idea of the person that they have the same intrests with or want to cam with :rolleyes:
     
  7. B_Hung Jon

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    I agree with you but at the same time I'm very aware of what sex sites are about. People (especially guys) are looking for some visual stimulation to get off to. For instance I've had guys on LPSG ask the same "asl" when there are a bunch of naked photos already posted in my profile. I'm thinking that maybe they're not paying much attention to details because they're so horny they can't see. ;-) I also think some guys want to connect so badly that they lose any sense of respect for others. At the same time if you're not what the guy wants in terms of immediate gratification, he'll move on to the next person. This is also about respect. Maybe it's about the old maximum "A hard dick has no conscience". I'm not making excuses for people's behavior but I am very conscious that we men can be rude, cruel and dismissive without any deliberate malice on our part.
     
  8. SprinkleMe69

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    Amen! I felt this way for a while as well. You can only talk about someones schlong for a little while, but damn, it doesn't have to be the only way you get to know a person. I've weeded those people out. Good for you on voicing how you feel about it. :)
     
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    Amen brotha.
     
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    something happened when I first joined also, I was getting sick of being bugged every day.

    The last message I got was over 3 weeks ago.
     
  11. conan

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    I'm on your side dear friend. We weren't that close before but I think we are getting there. I'm glad we also had time to talk about other things. You are a friend to me and I hope it will not last.. I'm right on your back buddy!
     
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    well i've talked to a lot of ladies a few from here. and they have to deal with this every day .... its sad to thing we go for a persons body part b4 them but at one time or the other we have done it. i try to know the person but if your on a site like this most of the time its the hot pics or video thats got you going
     
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    You're saying that you're not your cock, but you're on a cock site showing off your cock via both pictures and web-caming?
     
  14. D_Billy_Buttram

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    Yes, Willy that's what I'm saying. While I love camming and showing off some, it is not the only thing I do during my day. I'm speaking more about some of the rude comments I've gotten when I'm not up for camming. For example, I'm not super horny when talking long distance to my mother and I will definitely not stop that call to cam with someone. This happened the other day when a guy repeatedly video called me during my conversation with my mother. The reaction from the guy when he finally asked if I wanted to c2c and I said I couldn't right then was less than favorable, and if he would have only waited a while or tried again another time I would have been ready to show off.

    So yes, I'm not just my cock, but I'm on a cock site showing off your cock via both pictures and web-caming.
     
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    I'm new and have never done the camming thing. What's asl? I'd much rather talk/type that turn a camera on myself. I'm shy and older so you understand. How do you find the chat room here? I mean the old fashioned style with text only. I've only found a "chat room" that has a big blank video field in it with no place to type.
     
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    Collegeguy,

    You do realize that you have the opportunity to state your intentions in your profile. This should help with your particular situation. Profiles with "unsure" as the sexual preference, and other vague information are open to interpretation.
     
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    This is precisely why I haven't placed a single naked or even a shirtless photo of myself on the internet since I first started using it in 1990. It's not due to shyness or anything, but to cut communication from those who would only speak to you because you have the physical attributes they lust for. Let's face it, if we're on LPSG it's obvious that we love to look at other people's naked photos and videos... and I'm certain that this isn't the one and only site where this happens. With that said, if you want people to know that you're more than just your cock it's better to not let people who you may be interested in see it until they actually get to know you. And even then, you may want to make that a personal experience and not an internet one. Part of me envies anyone who is comfortable enough to let the whole world see them in their most intimate of moments. But I also know that if a person doesn't care about you by the things you say, how on Earth are they going to really give a damn if they find out you have a big dick? In the end, they'll just pander to your good side to get what they want and then leave when they're through. And many instances, you'll always have to wonder whether or not the people being nice to you really like you for who you are or for what's underneath those jeans.

    I don't respond to those who start off discussions with "What are you into," or, "How big are you?". Despite having the few G-Rated photos of me on my LPSG profile, I usually don't bother with having any private pics either because if I ever get to the point where I want to see you naked (or vice versa), we've already gotten together personally at a bar, a club, or having dinner somewhere after several weeks of talking online. And once you post something online, it's like announcing it on every television network, in real time, with every person recording it on DVR. It becomes harder and harder to correct it the longer it stays up and circulating.

    But that's just me. :wink:
     
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  18. Magnus_Phallus

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    Ok I do detect some genuine issues in the original post;
    (like other resonders here, I've had similar ones myself)
    however, I can't help but notice the not so subtle
    advertising as well; I wager I am not alone in this.
    Perhaps those you've encountered in cyberspace have
    picked up on that mixed message and are reacting to
    your ambivalence... just a thought. :redface:

    Maybe you'd want to express your thoughts on
    how alienated you feel about the calibre of
    individuals who have cyber solicited you without
    so much self promotion;
    Or maybe you'd just like to tell me to "go bake a cake":15:
     
  19. D_Billy_Buttram

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    I'm kinda confused. What do you mean by my ambivalence and advertising? And also, I love cake. So if you're going to go bake a cake, could you come back and share please?
     
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    mmmmm. cake. Just because I am not interested in cam or chat does not mean that those who do are necessarily shallow. Magnus, we have an excellent recipe thread here too!

    Perhaps the caliber of those who interact here via chat and cam is less polite?
     
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