I'm on the verge of making a huge mistake...

[wallyj84]

But I can't seem to stop myself.

I broke up with this girl about four years ago. We weren't a good match, but we dated for 2 years.

After we broke up, I unfriended her on FB and moved on with my life. I thought about her sometimes, but I was totally over her. About 8 months ago she contacts me out of the blue and we start talking again. There was no spark anymore though. I was totally over her and kinda wondered how we dated for so long to begin with.

Well, to make a long story short, I recently asked her to move in with me. And she's considering it.

I don't want to live with her, I'm just really, really lonely. I know this is a really bad decision, but I can't stop myself. I'm just so lonely.

 

[malakos]

I'm sorry. You could instead try putting out ads for a roommate.

 

[PoisonousBrain]

If you can afford to let someone live with you (for free I'm guessing, or for some amount of rent you'll probably be too pathetic to ever collect) then you can afford a fucking therapist. And stop posting about your problems online, it will just give you a brief moment of catharsis without giving you the insight or resolve to solve your problems. Stop wallowing in self pity on an internet fetish website and seek the professional help you desperately need. All the time you spend here just relieves the pressure to actually take real concrete steps to fix your problems.

 

[Exbiker]

Wally.

You ought not to be lonely.

Trust me. I'm something of an expert on people. A connoisseur if you will.

You are one of the handful of most worthwhile people on this site. You have very much to give. I mean that.

Deep down, you are intelligent, kind. And you're imaginative and very funny. You dream.

Clearly, your particular way of indulging your obsession isn't your best feature. But I'm sure you keep that in check better in real life than you do here.

I really do wish you well.

You only need to
(a) find some new ways to interact. Relaxed, casual. Low key, low pressure. In sexual/ romantic ways, but also in terms of friendship, with both men and women ... Walk step by step. Build brick by brick.
(b) let go of your feeling of inadequacy ...penises just DO NOT matter that much to most people. Find ways to overcome that concern. Maybe counselling or whatever, but I think for you it could just be about being more open, more brazen. For example, wear some speedos to your local swimming pool and ROCK THEM ...

Wally. Time marches on. One second, per second - forever.

Do not let too much of it slip by. You know what you want and need. You can find help, you can find new ways of working with your life.

You can make somebody very happy.

Just get out there and start something - see how it goes. Maybe not with this particular person - that's ok. Just interact with people, with no agenda...

I know this to be the case.

 

[wavejock]

You think youll be lonely alone...youll feel more "lonely" and angry if you let someone move in with you. horrible idea

 

[Notaes]

Think of how hard it will be to get this person out of your house if things turn badly!

 

[deleted871301]

I recently asked her to move in with me. I don't want to live with her.

I'm so confused!

 

[Auggiecakes]

But I can't seem to stop myself.

I broke up with this girl about four years ago. We weren't a good match, but we dated for 2 years.

After we broke up, I unfriended her on FB and moved on with my life. I thought about her sometimes, but I was totally over her. About 8 months ago she contacts me out of the blue and we start talking again. There was no spark anymore though. I was totally over her and kinda wondered how we dated for so long to begin with.

Well, to make a long story short, I recently asked her to move in with me. And she's considering it.

I don't want to live with her, I'm just really, really lonely. I know this is a really bad decision, but I can't stop myself. I'm just so lonely.

get a cat.

 

[Alex22876]

But I can't seem to stop myself.

I broke up with this girl about four years ago. We weren't a good match, but we dated for 2 years.

After we broke up, I unfriended her on FB and moved on with my life. I thought about her sometimes, but I was totally over her. About 8 months ago she contacts me out of the blue and we start talking again. There was no spark anymore though. I was totally over her and kinda wondered how we dated for so long to begin with.

Well, to make a long story short, I recently asked her to move in with me. And she's considering it.

I don't want to live with her, I'm just really, really lonely. I know this is a really bad decision, but I can't stop myself. I'm just so lonely.

What are you going to do when she starts fucking dudes from the bar in your apartment.
This is not a good idea. Tell her no over text. Over email. Anything if you can't face it but don't get yourself in this mess.

Next thing you know you will end up marrying here because someone suggests it at a dinner

 

[palakaorion]

I don't want to live with her, I'm just really, really lonely.

Don't.

My best bud was in this situation, in a relationship with a woman who loved her habit far more than him. He would call me (lived halfway across the country from me) and rant about her latest antics. "But, I'm just so lonely." Sigh.

The last straw was when she went missing, on his birthday. He found her two days later crashed at her dealer's place. She had the nerve to threaten my bud if he left her. So he went home, packed her shit, delivered it to her. Minus some really nice clothing he had bought her that still had the tags on; he returned that, which really really set her off.

To this day he still wonders what it would have been like if they could have worked it out. Which never would have happened; one or both would be dead by now.

Moral of the story: DON'T.

 

[Serpentlike]

Get a dog, save yourself the heartache.

 

[950483]

You've already asked her to move in. How the hell are you going to worm your way out of it now?! I'm sorry, I can't help thinking that this is going to become a much bigger problem when she's in your house irritating the hell out of you. If there is genuinely no spark there, and she is living in your house trying to kiss you with her disgusting mouth, and do a relationship, that will become truly unbearable.

 

[950483]

hahaha seriously Wally, what are you going to say to her?

 

[wallyj84]

If you can afford to let someone live with you (for free I'm guessing, or for some amount of rent you'll probably be too pathetic to ever collect) then you can afford a fucking therapist. And stop posting about your problems online, it will just give you a brief moment of catharsis without giving you the insight or resolve to solve your problems. Stop wallowing in self pity on an internet fetish website and seek the professional help you desperately need. All the time you spend here just relieves the pressure to actually take real concrete steps to fix your problems.

We've actually talked about that before. She will have to quit her job to come and live with me. She asked if I could support and I said yes.

Oh my god. Saying it out loud just makes me want to cry.

 

[wallyj84]

What are you going to do when she starts fucking dudes from the bar in your apartment.
This is not a good idea. Tell her no over text. Over email. Anything if you can't face it but don't get yourself in this mess.

Next thing you know you will end up marrying here because someone suggests it at a dinner

I'll kick her out if she starts fucking other guys. This isn't a friendly thing and she knows that.

 

[wallyj84]

hahaha seriously Wally, what are you going to say to her?

I don't know. I have no idea what to say. I've worked myself into this bizarre, horrible corner. It really sucks.

 

[ronin001]

Wally, do not become this guy

 

[wallyj84]

So, my best friend thinks it's a good idea. But I don't know if she's being serious or just wants to see me fail so she can laugh at my misery.

 

[deleted936015]

Just imAgin she may bring home a dude with a massive dick..

He will assert his alphamale-ness all over your place...
And you will have to move out...
Because his big dicks so superior you will be forced to leave

 

[Brodie888]

The only thing more lonely than being alone is being stuck in a bad relationship with no prospect of meeting someone new.