He was never drawn to her. She hit on him and he felt, as usual, helpless and lonely. She was available, not appealing for any other reason, and his second go-round with her he was reminded of this and wondered how he could have ever fooled himself about her appropriateness for him.
I considered that too.I think the whole situation is merely a cry for help. It is a self inflicted wound so he can binge on the sympathy to fill a bottomless hole.
He was never drawn to her. She hit on him and he felt, as usual, helpless and lonely. She was available, not appealing for any other reason, and his second go-round with her he was reminded of this and wondered how he could have ever fooled himself about her appropriateness for him.
Well. Maybe you will become attracted to the woman you met through the social group. At least you had a good time with her, or am I misremembering your post? If you've had fun, and look forward to spending more time together, maybe attraction will grow from that. If it doesn't, it doesn't, but it might be worth a shot where you're on equal footing, and you have things and associates in common.That's not totally accurate. I'm sorry if that how I made it seem the last time we talked, but I was attracted to her... eventually.
The first time we met, I thought "never seeing her again", but as time went on and we kept on spending time together I did become attracted to her. Loneliness and a desire to have a girlfriend played a big role in that, but I did become attracted to her.
You're are right though. After she who shall not named, I totally didn't understand how that relationship lasted so long.
Well. Maybe you will become attracted to the woman you met through the social group. At least you had a good time with her, or am I misremembering your post? If you've had fun, and look forward to spending more time together, maybe attraction will grow from that. If it doesn't, it doesn't, but it might be worth a shot where you're on equal footing, and you have things and associates in common.
True. I looked into it just before 9/11, and the penalty was 10 years and/or $10,000.not only is marrying someone just so they can obtain residency status unwise, it just might be illegal.
True. I looked into it just before 9/11, and the penalty was 10 years and/or $10,000.
I haven't talked to her recently, so I'm hoping that she's given up.
But a lot of good advice here.
I know that this is a mistake, but... I've been single for so long. I just want to hold someone soft.
Recently I was contacted by a woman I met at a meetup.com. we saw a movie then went for a walk. I'm not attracted to her, but it was nice to go out with someone.
Everyone is right about this situation. Even Phil. Is the best I can do really good for me?
Not to mention that marrying just for citizenship is a jailable offense.
Who are you attempting to make happy wally? You, her, or both of you?
Or is that Whom?
I think it's who.Who are you attempting to make happy wally? You, her, or both of you?
Or is that Whom?