I'm possibly the horniest woman on earth: help!

[RawDog]

Several of my partners (basically, all those with experience) have told me I'm the only one they've come across who gets as much out of it as they do. So either they're lying, or it isn't terribly common. It does seem to be a bit more common amongst the women on here. Think yourself lucky you have MrsR !:smile:.!

You have no idea how fortunate I feel I am.

I spent years thinking it was my fault my ex didn't want sex and feeling bad every time he rejected me. I think people should come with a sign around their neck saying how high their sex drive is.

I think as I get older, I care less and less about people's opinion of me IRL which makes talking about sex easier and easier. I think being more upfront about how important sex is would be a great start.

There are a lot more women out there than you know who do things for the pleasure of others that way. Remember that the return on the investment may come from someone other than the actual man with whom the woman has invested.

Talk is a form of foreplay and a form of debt collection for us verbose women.

That's a beautiful sentiment, but because of baggage from my past relationship debt collection is always on the back of my mind.

 

[koshamo]

Work as a porn star? would fulfil your needs and youd be a good performer if thats all you ever think about, I can imagine what your going through! it sounds not so good but i would think about going into the industry! x

 

[B_subgirrl]

Talk is a form of foreplay and a form of debt collection for us verbose women.

This is soooo true. Although talk that is directly related to sex applies more to my FB talking at me, than me talking at him. He is particularly skilled with words.

However being able to talk to them and having good communication with them is really important for me. I guess it IS a form of foreplay, because the sex wouldn't be as good if I wasn't comfortable, and I get comfortable by talking.

You have no idea how fortunate I feel I am.

And in so many ways. She sounds pretty special, and just the right person for you.

I think as I get older, I care less and less about people's opinion of me IRL which makes talking about sex easier and easier. I think being more upfront about how important sex is would be a great start.

I think I've gone the other way! I never used to care what other people thought when I was younger. Now I'm much more aware of societies expectations that you be polite and behave yourself in public.

 

[RawDog]

This is soooo true. Although talk that is directly related to sex applies more to my FB talking at me, than me talking at him. He is particularly skilled with words.

A kind of Pussy Whisperer maybe? :biggrin1:

I think I've gone the other way! I never used to care what other people thought when I was younger. Now I'm much more aware of societies expectations that you be polite and behave yourself in public.

I used to live in L.A. and now in a small town, and hopefully soon up in the mountains with just my wife, our animals, a high speed internet connection and satellite TV. My main goal is to be able to access information and not have to deal with normal society in the process. Overall, I'd like to be less aware of society's expectations.

 

[Empathizer]

Getting out of L.A. is always the best of all the 37 paths (the ancient Koreans never figured on L.A. in their cosmology).

 

[B_subgirrl]

A kind of Pussy Whisperer maybe? :biggrin1:

He's definitely that :tongue:. In fact all he has to do is whisper . . .

I used to live in L.A. and now in a small town, and hopefully soon up in the mountains with just my wife, our animals, a high speed internet connection and satellite TV. My main goal is to be able to access information and not have to deal with normal society in the process. Overall, I'd like to be less aware of society's expectations.

What a lovely idea. I would love to live somewhere isolated, but I do like being able to go to the shops and back in under 10 minutes.

I actually came out of my polite shell the other week when having lunch with some acquaintances from uni. I think they thought they were imagining things. They kept stuttering 'I had no idea you thought like this'. Fuck knows what they think now :biggrin1:

Getting out of L.A. is always the best of all the 37 paths (the ancient Koreans never figured on L.A. in their cosmology).

ROFL :biggrin1:

 

[RawDog]

Getting out of L.A. is always the best of all the 37 paths (the ancient Koreans never figured on L.A. in their cosmology).

Not familiar with the reference, but after survivng the Rodney King Riots, I'm done with big cities.

I actually came out of my polite shell the other week when having lunch with some acquaintances from uni. I think they thought they were imagining things. They kept stuttering 'I had no idea you thought like this'. Fuck knows what they think now :biggrin1:

Atta girl!

 

[RawDog]

It's all right for us - our brains seem to agree with our bodies. If I want sex, my head wants it as much as my body does. As you so aptly said - what if you want it to BE your daily life? I think there might be a different disorder out there for people like us.

I saw a new Discovery Health program about PGAD last night and it does seem more and more apparent this body-mind incongruity is the root of their issue. The women seemed very repressed and didn't know how to deal with their sex drive in the interviews.

One had it so bad she had to sleep in a seperate bedroom from her husband because she couldn't stand the sexual contact. It makes sense on one level and doesn't on another.

Another one had to divorce her husband because she didn't know how to tell him she had this problem.

Granted, it's not as simple as they have high sex drives. Medically their clitorises did have abnormally high bloodflow, and they had physical evidence of something unusual going on (as in constant girlie wood).

I guess I don't feel as bad downplaying their issue as I was earlier in this thread. It's a shame too because all of them had pictures of their younger years when they looked like they had life in their eyes and years later when they gave in and said they had a problem, they all seemed old and resigned to live the rest of their lives unhappy.

 

[Nekoman]

Here's what you should do. Put on an outfit that's somewhat revealing and makes you feel really sexy. Next, go dancing at a club. Dance alone if you have to. Have fun dancing, don't care what anyone thinks, just have fun. Someone will approach you and you will get laid. You're welcome.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I saw a new Discovery Health program about PGAD last night and it does seem more and more apparent this body-mind incongruity is the root of their issue. The women seemed very repressed and didn't know how to deal with their sex drive in the interviews.

The body-mind thing makes sense to me. It would be interesting to hear about the experience of women who have the same physical symptoms, but are happy with it psychologically.

One had it so bad she had to sleep in a seperate bedroom from her husband because she couldn't stand the sexual contact. It makes sense on one level and doesn't on another.

This seems bizarre to me. It wasn't physically painful or anything was it? I mean, extra blood flow could mean being engorged to the point of pain. Maybe.

I guess I don't feel as bad downplaying their issue as I was earlier in this thread. It's a shame too because all of them had pictures of their younger years when they looked like they had life in their eyes and years later when they gave in and said they had a problem, they all seemed old and resigned to live the rest of their lives unhappy.

It's really very sad isn't it? I wonder if therapy would help them at all. If there ARE women with PGAD who are comfortable with their condition, it would indicate that the problems are more about mind/body incongruity than anything else, and maybe therapy could help.

 

[RawDog]

The body-mind thing makes sense to me. It would be interesting to hear about the experience of women who have the same physical symptoms, but are happy with it psychologically.

I think those women (I should say, "you women") have just adjusted to the physical manifestations and don't see it as a problem, therefore don't interpret them as symptoms at all.

This seems bizarre to me. It wasn't physically painful or anything was it? I mean, extra blood flow could mean being engorged to the point of pain. Maybe.

Maybe, I didn't see that. It was just an overwhelming desire to rub out the arousal only to have it come back 10 minutes later. The title of the show was "100 orggasms", meaning they needed that much in a day just to cope.

It's really very sad isn't it? I wonder if therapy would help them at all. If there ARE women with PGAD who are comfortable with their condition, it would indicate that the problems are more about mind/body incongruity than anything else, and maybe therapy could help.

This is such a new "disorder" that the surface has barely been scratched.

Here are some more links:
YouTube - ALWAYS AROUSED - A GOOD THING GONE AWRY
PSAS Support

 

[gunnaknow]

As a man, the only thing that I have found that significantly reduces my libido is high dose fish oil, that is high in EPA but low in DHA. If the fish oil is high in DHA, like cod liver oil, then it does the complete opposite and drastically increases my libido. If you want to decrease your libido, you may therefore want to try taking a high dose of fish oil that is high in EPA but low in DHA. Try a few brands to see which, if any, decrease your libido. Carlsons fish oil might be a good brand to start with, as it's of high quality and comes in liquid form for taking higher doses. If that brand doesn't work, then try one with a different EPA/DHA ratio and test at different doses.

 

[deleted621284]

Shit where can I find you I need a girl like you.

 

[badgirl22]

PGAD

I'm possibly right up there with you in terms of being the horniest woman on earth. Have discussed PGAD with both my gyno and endorinologist. Neither of them know a lot about it but both wanted to study me. It's a real problem and it's awful. I don't have it all the time and it's gotten a lot better. But, when it does happen, I can be engorged for days or longer at a time. It's actually painful. I feel it from the bottom of my buttocks up into the middle of my ribcage - only on one side though...my left side. I never feel it on the right side which had us wondering if it weren't some sort of pinched nerve or something...course that doesn't cause blood flow. One of the problems with this is that an orgasm doesn't necessarily relieve it. It gets to the point where I can think of nothing else. And, it's not even necessarily brought on by anything sexual.

People think it's probably exaggerated or something that can be controlled mentally but they are wrong. Sometimes exercising can help but it doesn't stay away for long. I love that I love sex and have a high sex drive but this is something else entirely. Because mine is so intermittent I can clearly tell the difference between just being horny and having this issue. I experience both and they are NOT the same. Very little is known about this but as my Drs. said...if we could figure you out maybe we could help those women who can't become arroused...

 

[RawDog]

PGAD

I'm possibly right up there with you in terms of being the horniest woman on earth. Have discussed PGAD with both my gyno and endorinologist. Neither of them know a lot about it but both wanted to study me. It's a real problem and it's awful. I don't have it all the time and it's gotten a lot better. But, when it does happen, I can be engorged for days or longer at a time. It's actually painful. I feel it from the bottom of my buttocks up into the middle of my ribcage - only on one side though...my left side. I never feel it on the right side which had us wondering if it weren't some sort of pinched nerve or something...course that doesn't cause blood flow. One of the problems with this is that an orgasm doesn't necessarily relieve it. It gets to the point where I can think of nothing else. And, it's not even necessarily brought on by anything sexual.

People think it's probably exaggerated or something that can be controlled mentally but they are wrong. Sometimes exercising can help but it doesn't stay away for long. I love that I love sex and have a high sex drive but this is something else entirely. Because mine is so intermittent I can clearly tell the difference between just being horny and having this issue. I experience both and they are NOT the same. Very little is known about this but as my Drs. said...if we could figure you out maybe we could help those women who can't become arroused...

A few questions:

1) Have you been to the PGAD forum I linked to earlier? If so, where they of any help?

2) When you say it's intermittent, can you feel it coming on before the onset? Have you noticed any common activity or foods before the recurrence? Do you have a journal? My wife didn't realize she had an allergy to sulfites until she kept a journal and compared notes on when her stomach would flare up against her.

3) Have you tried going to an accupuncturist?

4) ...and I hope you don't think this is wank fodder when I ask this, but if you had a guy that could keep up sexually with your "attcks" would it be worse, better, or make no difference? From the program I watched, and what little else I know about PGAD/PSAS, the women sufferred emotionally for thinking they were freaks by their partners.

 

[mexdude]

Ive experienced something similar to what badgirl22 comments, not at the same level, but enough to make think what happens to me those days, yea the fact that orgasm doesnt relieve and u have to do it, again, and again, until u just get tired of feeling like that, when it happens its something that last about 20 hours, and yea can be annoying

 

[B_subgirrl]

PGAD

I'm possibly right up there with you in terms of being the horniest woman on earth. Have discussed PGAD with both my gyno and endorinologist. Neither of them know a lot about it but both wanted to study me. It's a real problem and it's awful. I don't have it all the time and it's gotten a lot better. But, when it does happen, I can be engorged for days or longer at a time. It's actually painful. I feel it from the bottom of my buttocks up into the middle of my ribcage - only on one side though...my left side. I never feel it on the right side which had us wondering if it weren't some sort of pinched nerve or something...course that doesn't cause blood flow. One of the problems with this is that an orgasm doesn't necessarily relieve it. It gets to the point where I can think of nothing else. And, it's not even necessarily brought on by anything sexual.

People think it's probably exaggerated or something that can be controlled mentally but they are wrong. Sometimes exercising can help but it doesn't stay away for long. I love that I love sex and have a high sex drive but this is something else entirely. Because mine is so intermittent I can clearly tell the difference between just being horny and having this issue. I experience both and they are NOT the same. Very little is known about this but as my Drs. said...if we could figure you out maybe we could help those women who can't become arroused...

Thanks for the input. It's interesting to hear from someone who has actually experienced this.

I had suspected it might be painful.

From your description it sounds as though the condition is more about excessive blood flow, than arousal as such. Or am I misinterpreting what you meant?

 

[yesitsbig]

I'm convinced I'm either as horny as guys or even hornier. Ok, I'm actually convinced that I'm hornier.

Is there something wrong with me? Or better yet, is there a way to control this? Also is there a chance someone else is going through pretty much the same thing?:frown1:[/QUOTE]

Damn, you sound like me! We are a perfect match.

 

[badgirl22]

Thanks for the input. It's interesting to hear from someone who has actually experienced this.

I had suspected it might be painful.

From your description it sounds as though the condition is more about excessive blood flow, than arousal as such. Or am I misinterpreting what you meant?

Not misinterpreting - you got it right. The blood flow to the sexual organs and the associated aroused feelings is exactly what it is. It's maddening.

 

[B_subgirrl]

Not misinterpreting - you got it right. The blood flow to the sexual organs and the associated aroused feelings is exactly what it is. It's maddening.

Sooo . . . it's kind of like a cramp you can't get rid of? And there's nothing enjoyable about it because it's just excess blood flow? And you could have all the sex in the world and it would still feel painful? Does sex relieve it while you are in the act?

Sorry for all the questions. Just trying to understand the condition, and in what ways it is different from chronic horniness.