I do have to admit that I still have issues...when she goes out of her way to make me...have fulfilling experiences. I guess it's a weird mentality I've developed over the years, and part of the reasons why I avoided this for so long. I don't feel like I deserve that extra attention, I don't feel like I'm obliged to anything from another person and I hate...when people feel obligated to me or feel like I 'deserve' something, I don't like gifts, I don't like compliments, I don't find myself wholly comfortable with what I feel is unearned pleasure.
Like I can appreciate it in situ, and it does feel...good. But after the fact, especially if she doesn't allow me to reciprocate (Which has happened) or if I feel like her attention on me was far too extravagant...I feel uncomfortable. I just don't see the point of her thinking she needs to go out of her way. Me having a climax or an orgasm is going to be a participation trophy at any event we engage in...I am male...achieving an orgasm is two jiggles and a tense standoff followed by a 'and there it is'...if necessary it can take seconds...it's not difficult, there's no need for it...and honestly I'm not super motivated by it.
Like she'll succeed in getting me to orgasm by just being there...many times too early. I'm the one that'll fail to impress, or satisfy; me. I'm the one that needs to do all this extra work just make it worthwhile for her. I get so frustrated when she treats the situation differently....because I feel like I'm accruing this debt...
So if/when she does things that focus on me exclusively...I don't know what to do with myself. And afterwards I feel...crummy because I just...don't think I can appreciate the effort as much as she clearly thinks I should, which makes me feel worse, because I feel like I'm insulting her by feeling bad...about her attentions.
I just feel obligated to provide for her a satisfactory conclusion...but I have a hard time feeling obliged to one in return, because her success is such a foregone conclusion and mine is not.