Just a quick one and I'm sure there's a ton of backyard psychiatrists out there ... I'm married. I like guys. Have a best mate I stay over withnow and thenand we sleep together, as well as an obliging good friend who mutually enjoys kissing and BJs. I keep this a monster secret ... To protect my family. If it wasn't for the kids I'd be my true self. It busts me some times having to pretend. I have a really good Neighbour and have thought about telling him. For the sole reason to have some one I can talk to and be myself around. But I'm scared - what if he hates gays, what if he hates me doing this to my family (I take care of them first, not my urges), what if he then avoids me and I'm stuck living next door to a stranger who stares blazingly at me. Any opinions? How have others handled it? Confirming to a hetro society is hard!