I'm sick of takers

[B_New End]

Men aren't even as likely to be faithful with a woman who makes the exact same amount of money as him as with a woman who makes 75% as much as him, and if he's financially dependent on her, he's 5 times more likely to cheat:

Men more likely to cheat if they are economically dependent on their female partners, study finds

I'm going to guess this is because men who will live off a woman are womanizers anyways. I am always surprised how such successful women always have such dirt bags as boyfriends.

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Frankly, every time I hear about someone being abused by their S.O. in the manner many here are talking about, I just get angry. At both people. people who do it, and their partners that put up with that shit.

 

[B_quietguy]

I've found that the "taker mentality" is a symptom of sociopathology: they care little about anyone else, least of all your feelings. How can s/he possibly understand yours when s/he's got so many of his/her own to focus on?

I attract 'em like honey

Right on! I've learned to recognize certain symptoms of sociopaths. If I suspect somebody is one, I stay clear of them, and don't do them any favors!

Sociopaths learn to recognize which people are easy marks - subtle and not so subtle signals which say the person is easy prey. I've learned not to give off certain signals.

 

[ConstantComment]

Right on! I've learned to recognize certain symptoms of sociopaths. If I suspect somebody is one, I stay clear of them, and don't do them any favors!

Sociopaths learn to recognize which people are easy marks - subtle and not so subtle signals which say the person is easy prey. I've learned not to give off certain signals.

What indicates a sociopath? And what indicates an easy mark?

 

[mexdude]

How refreshing. In my experience, you're in the minority as a lot of guys I've met are put off when a women earns more money than they do. I've never understood this.

I know, its just the old way men think, a sucessful woman that loves u its more a blessing than an issue

 

[helgaleena]

im thinking to end my relationship too

imagine that two days ago I found in History of Mozilla searches from google about teens,gays, and his ex-boyfriend name and pictures, so I presume he miss him.....

but I need a job to get a room and live my life , Im feeling alone here in Uk, im not english and its my first time in a foreign country, so I fear to be alone, at this moment I have a part time job but its not enough, I need a proper job where I can pay my taxes.....

dont know what to do.....

and for the ones who are sick of takers, why you give?? as I know when you give something without being asked for, you dont have to wait to receive anything back, if you want to give , give it then its up to the other person to feedback something to you.......
I hate when people thinks of receiving something back when they give by their own will.....

Tell your boyfriend that you found these things. If I were you this would not trouble me anyhow, but if it troubles you you had better discuss it, whether you are ready to move out or not.

Ideally all giving is selfless, but if a person accidentally gives more than they can afford, things will get cranky. And if they deliberately give more than they can afford, they have problems. Solution to the problems depends on whether they are in a situation where they can receive what they need in some other way.

What do you give? What does he give? Do they match up pretty well or not? Both of you need to take stock of this.

 

[dongalong]

I'm a generous person but as soon as I discover that my girl is a taker, I become as generous/stingy as her.

Givers and takers just aren't compatible - escape if you are the giver!

Since I found a generous lady, everything is great!

 

[michael_3165]

I believe in being equal. I don't let people take the piss and I feel that an assertive manner in whcih you approach this is better than passive acceptance. Don't moan about something unless you are willing to change it

 

[B_quietguy]

What indicates a sociopath? And what indicates an easy mark?

There are several traits of sociopaths. If you see an abundance of these, stay away.

1. Lies
2. Impulsiveness
3. Parasitic behavior
4. Emotionally shallow
5. No remorse or guilt
6. Glibness
7. Superficial charm
8. Failure to accept responsibility for actions
9. Callous
10. Cruelty to others or animals
11. Aggressive
12. Passive-aggressive
13. Violent
14. Disregard for safety
15. Lack of empathy
16. Irresponsible
17. Manipulative

I'm convinced many of them prey on people who are:

• Gullible
• Naive
• Too eager to help others
• Given to pity others
• Idealistic
• Narcissistic
• Desperate for attention, validation, or reassurance
• Needy

 

[AlteredEgo]

Even now, I'd check with TheBF about borrowing or using something of his that I've never used or borrowed before, not because I assume that he would say no, but because that just seems respectful.


http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/08/100816095617.htm

Wow. I do think of everything in this apartment as belonging to both of us. I feel totally entitled to use anything I can lay my hands on. And I STILL ask to use his things. I never thought about it before. This week I borrowed his razor, shoe polish, computer, check book, and I gave his t-shirt to the dog because I accidentally got bleach on it while doing laundry. I asked him first, even though I always borrow his computer, even though I've signed every check ever written out of that account, and even though the generic blue t-shirt was ruined and he has perhaps 15 more (because he routinely damages them at work). I don;t think he'd care if I didn;t ask, and with the exception of my sex toys (no anal use of my vaginal toys!) I wouldn't even probably notice if he took, moved, or used my things without asking. He asks first too though, if I'm awake.

I've never been in a relationship with anyone who was just a user. I hope that doesn't prove to mean I'm the user!

 

[B_curiousme01]

im thinking to end my relationship too

imagine that two days ago I found in History of Mozilla searches from google about teens,gays, and his ex-boyfriend name and pictures, so I presume he miss him.....

but I need a job to get a room and live my life , Im feeling alone here in Uk, im not english and its my first time in a foreign country, so I fear to be alone, at this moment I have a part time job but its not enough, I need a proper job where I can pay my taxes.....

dont know what to do.....

and for the ones who are sick of takers, why you give?? as I know when you give something without being asked for, you dont have to wait to receive anything back, if you want to give , give it then its up to the other person to feedback something to you.......
I hate when people thinks of receiving something back when they give by their own will.....

Living in a foreign country can be intimidating for anyone. I think you are on the right track by looking at life and deciding what is best for YOU. Keep the faith and make your life happen. Happy trails.

 

[Drifterwood]

This week I borrowed his razor, ..........

Lady, I'm assuming you wanted a thorough spanking :smile:.

 

[petite]

I've never been in a relationship with anyone who was just a user. I hope that doesn't prove to mean I'm the user!

I had this exact same thought! I hope I'm not the user!

I do feel like that guy whom I supported was a taker, not because I supported him, but because he literally took my things on a regular basis and lied to me.