im so tired of women:(

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Snakebyte said:
thank god there is no 3rd gender...
Well, that's debatable actually.

Back to the point, if you choose a partner primarily based on their appearance, how can you be mad if they turn out to be shallow?
 

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wonderland said:
It is the type of women you are attracting that is the problem. Are you looking for a good person or a just good looking person? I know beautiful women that treat men right and they have been in good relationships for a long time. But it amazing what a man will put up with from a hot chick. Look for a decent person who isn't into playing games. There are women out there like that.

I agree with most of this comment, except I know girls who are not only cool but who are attractive also. I think you can have both if you're an open enough guy.
 

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naughty said:
I may be seen as Pollyanna but regardless of one's goal we should approach others honestly and without hidden agendas. Sometimes this means that perhaps you may not get that "hot" person you have been drooling over but it does mean you may have a better chance to find the kind of long term benefits you are seeking.

Naughty

Preach it yourself woman! You and Jana are always on top of the situation. As most of you already know, I am a pretty blunt person. I have always gotten along better with men, than women. I think that it is because I am a very honest person and I don't play games. When single, I refused to "cock-tease" and never lead a guy on intensionally. Funny that the one time I hopped in the sack for the pure pleasure of sleeping with a stud-muffin (he was 40 something and I was 19) he is the one that felt used. This, I assure you, was not my plan and I never did it again because I felt like crap.

I'm sorry some of you are having women trouble right now. I can ony say that there are "good" ones out there looking for the same thing you are.

CokecanBen9 - It sounds like you tried to "strong-arm" a relationship and she no longer feels safe with you. I agree with the recommendation to forget her and move on. I don't think this sounds like a respect problem, but one of trust. Trust is very hard to regain without A LOT of time passing.

Hungboy - I don't know how to help without some elaboration of what you mean by girls messing with your head.

The one thing I have observed over the last decade is the "new breed" of woman is very aware of their sexual power and they aren't afraid to use it. Nor are they afraid of the labeling associated with promiscuous behaviour. I am flabbergasted myself, so have not words of wisdom. Does the girl next door still exist?

All I know is that I have warned my 20 year old son to stay away from users, vipers and the high-maintance women. But who am I to talk. He broke up with "the pretty, smart, girl-next-door, type" in October. Two weeks after they had a lovely weekend getaway in Savannah. She broke his heart and there was nothing I or his father could do but tell him we found each other after we each had our first bad "real love" relationship. And we've been happily married a very long time.

Group Hug!
 

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Funny, I was just thinking about this on the way home.

In the last year, I've dated (and slept with) 6 women. Now, that isn't a lot by some standards, but that's a 300% increase over my previous life experience. In other words, a lot for me.

And on one hand, I am pleased that my self esteem has improved to the point where I can (successfully) approach 6 women in a year... but on the other hand, it's also a sign of failure. Obviously, there's something wrong if none of the 6 were worth having a longer-term relationship with, or in the alternate (yes, I have been dumped!) didn't see me that way.

I have run across women who are looking for an ego boost, the ones out for the free dinners, the ones looking to make someone jealous. I've run across one who was just looking for sex with someone new for the excitement (and was honest enough to admit that) and that's fine for a while.

I love being in a relationship. It's the number of false starts in the course of getting to "being in a relationship" that's discouraging.

I would never say I'm tired of women. But I am tired of this process. It's emotionally wearying.
 

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Jana and Naughty speak so eloquently...

While reading this, I thought about so many different things on so many different levels. At some juncture, I am sure that we all have been guilty of playing these "games." These "games" were not intended to hurt, manipulate or scheme against the male populace, however. Rather, they are an unconscious device or mechanism we inadvertantly turn on to ensue our safety (emotional, mental, spiritual and physical) and stability.

Women are vulnerable in many ways, yet we sometimes fail to see that men are equally vulnerable, especially when they allow themselves to open up to us. There are many boundaries we explicity set for men to follow and sometimes, unfortunately, do not hold those same boundaries for ourselves. Too many times we hold ourselves in esteem without regard for men, their feelings or the decisions we inflict or usher into the relationship. I suppose we think they are looking after self-interest; with that imbedded in our psyche, one would think, "are not we, too?"

I offer sincere apologies for all those men who've endured the torturous barrels madness some women inflict. It is not our intensions, I contend, to drum up the "madness," yet it is the madness that seems to win...
 
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I too am getting sick of woman (and im only 19) its in my nature not to let anyone get too close to me untill im sure i can trust them thats why ive had so few relationships, but even this approach has failed me with my best chick friend, at the start she was amazing but somewhere she changed now she thinks she hates me, this kinda thing seems to happen alot to me i think i just bring the worst out in woman, mabey i should move to tibet and become a monk or something, one other thing is that in my experience when you get dumped, for some reason you become the bad guy and alot of mutual friends end up hating you. mabey its just me
 

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A good quote I heard from a gay commedian:

"All women think about is relationships, all men think about is sex - thats why I'm gay."

Obviously it's not 100% spot on, but in a wider sense it is often the same problem - the "Handbag Problem".

The Handbag Problem i've observed is this-
A girl asks her boyfriend to open her handbag and retreive her purse. Now, in her mind, the girl is thinking of the pink purse in the second pocket, but she doesnt say that, she simply asks for her purse. The boyfriend then searches for around several minutes, trying every pocket and then produces a black purse, at which point the woman wails loudly "GOD! You men, are SOOOO useless!" and proceeds to immediatly find the purse she is looking for. The boyfriend then goes all quiet and feels crap about himself for a few minutes.

What I'm saying is that its a communication and mind thing - the girl knows exacty where it is and which one it is, but doesnt communicate it, she assumes the guy knowns what she is on about. The guy doesnt know, so gets it wrong and the girl shoots him down in flames for not understanding her.

Yeah - its a metaphor...

Ah who am I kidding? I think my train of thought just died.
 

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Dr. Bubbles said:
Jana and Naughty speak so eloquently...

While reading this, I thought about so many different things on so many different levels. At some juncture, I am sure that we all have been guilty of playing these "games." These "games" were not intended to hurt, manipulate or scheme against the male populace, however. Rather, they are an unconscious device or mechanism we inadvertantly turn on to ensue our safety (emotional, mental, spiritual and physical) and stability.

Women are vulnerable in many ways, yet we sometimes fail to see that men are equally vulnerable, especially when they allow themselves to open up to us. There are many boundaries we explicity set for men to follow and sometimes, unfortunately, do not hold those same boundaries for ourselves. Too many times we hold ourselves in esteem without regard for men, their feelings or the decisions we inflict or usher into the relationship. I suppose we think they are looking after self-interest; with that imbedded in our psyche, one would think, "are not we, too?"

I offer sincere apologies for all those men who've endured the torturous barrels madness some women inflict. It is not our intensions, I contend, to drum up the "madness," yet it is the madness that seems to win...

*snif*

That was beautiful, dearie. now, would you come over here and help the healing begin? :eek:
 

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SomeGuyOverThere said:
A good quote I heard from a gay commedian:

"All women think about is relationships, all men think about is sex - thats why I'm gay."

Obviously it's not 100% spot on, but in a wider sense it is often the same problem - the "Handbag Problem".

The Handbag Problem i've observed is this-
A girl asks her boyfriend to open her handbag and retreive her purse. Now, in her mind, the girl is thinking of the pink purse in the second pocket, but she doesnt say that, she simply asks for her purse. The boyfriend then searches for around several minutes, trying every pocket and then produces a black purse, at which point the woman wails loudly "GOD! You men, are SOOOO useless!" and proceeds to immediatly find the purse she is looking for. The boyfriend then goes all quiet and feels crap about himself for a few minutes.

What I'm saying is that its a communication and mind thing - the girl knows exacty where it is and which one it is, but doesnt communicate it, she assumes the guy knowns what she is on about. The guy doesnt know, so gets it wrong and the girl shoots him down in flames for not understanding her.

Yeah - its a metaphor...

Ah who am I kidding? I think my train of thought just died.

Yeah, but it reached the station before doing so. It's all about communication, innit?
 

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Let me ask you a question: are these "girls" in their 20's? It takes a startling amount of maturity to get beyond the 20-something mindset for women. I've seen a few on this board who you would never guess were in their 20's because they speak with eloquence and a wisdom beyond their years.

They are a rare breed.

Not all women will be manipulative, bitchy, snatchy and otherwise borderline (socially and sexually) retarded. Some are and I honestly think you've just had yourself a bout of bad luck. Don't give up. There are plenty of good ones out there, you may just need to look a little harder to find one.

=)

Hang in there.
 

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HickBoy said:
*snif*

That was beautiful, dearie. now, would you come over here and help the healing begin? :eek:

Hick, honey... I do not accept MC, VISA, AE, or DC... CASH only and my rates are high ($500/hour per counseling session). Now, if you are in dire need, I can do a rush to get you in sooner, but your rate will increase substantially... just so you know........

Dr. Bubbles. ;)
 

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hungboy said:
they never know what they want

and i know they are really not worth me (the ones i get to deal with)...

iono wtf to do

i know im very good looking, open person, challenging but still. no sex problems at all... (8.5 x 7)...

girls just seem to fuck with my head and nothing else

grrrrr

"Men they never know what they want
and I know they are really not worth me (the ones I get to deal with)....
I am good looking and an open person with no problems with my sexuality
men just seem to fuck with my head and nothing else."

Would you belive it?

The grass is always greener. In the whole realm of things most are searching for that one person who seems to understand our core. The only way they can do this is to open up and in a way that could allow hurt to happen. It is a risk we have to take in order not to be alone.

Like me I hope you find your way.

To Ben never try to prove your size to a woman. You like her and if she likes you it will happen. It sounds like she is in her 20's or not sexually experienced. Not all people are comfortable with their sexuality and it might take time with others. By wanting to show off your cock you might be giving her the message that you just want to sleep with her. Something like that. From what you have written here it sounds like you truly do like her and want to see where the possibilities lay as far as relationship. Good luck!
 

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Personally, I adore women. As for mind games, I find that if I'm straightforward with someone, she'll be straightforward with me. If someone plays games, I move on.
 

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Excellent response, Mr. Camboy, and very, very true. :)

wellhungcamboy said:
Personally, I adore women. As for mind games, I find that if I'm straightforward with someone, she'll be straightforward with me. If someone plays games, I move on.
 

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Amen! There are plenty of women who don't want to play mind games. There are more average looking diamonds out there then there are gorgeous diamonds. Don't go for the gorgeous ones. Someone who loves you and would give the world for you will always be more beautiful than someone who has beauty and an ego.
Just keep looking. Ms. Right is out there. It just takes some... :D:D:D:D
 

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mfoley said:
Amen! There are plenty of women who don't want to play mind games. There are more average looking diamonds out there then there are gorgeous diamonds. Don't go for the gorgeous ones. Someone who loves you and would give the world for you will always be more beautiful than someone who has beauty and an ego.
Just keep looking. Ms. Right is out there. It just takes some... :D:D:D:D

True, but not all pretty women are self-righteous, egotisitical and hung up on themselves. I know many beautiful women who share those same qualities that "average looking diamonds" possess. ;)

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