Well, that's debatable actually.Snakebyte said:thank god there is no 3rd gender...
Back to the point, if you choose a partner primarily based on their appearance, how can you be mad if they turn out to be shallow?
Well, that's debatable actually.Snakebyte said:thank god there is no 3rd gender...
wonderland said:It is the type of women you are attracting that is the problem. Are you looking for a good person or a just good looking person? I know beautiful women that treat men right and they have been in good relationships for a long time. But it amazing what a man will put up with from a hot chick. Look for a decent person who isn't into playing games. There are women out there like that.
naughty said:I may be seen as Pollyanna but regardless of one's goal we should approach others honestly and without hidden agendas. Sometimes this means that perhaps you may not get that "hot" person you have been drooling over but it does mean you may have a better chance to find the kind of long term benefits you are seeking.
Naughty
Dr. Bubbles said:Jana and Naughty speak so eloquently...
While reading this, I thought about so many different things on so many different levels. At some juncture, I am sure that we all have been guilty of playing these "games." These "games" were not intended to hurt, manipulate or scheme against the male populace, however. Rather, they are an unconscious device or mechanism we inadvertantly turn on to ensue our safety (emotional, mental, spiritual and physical) and stability.
Women are vulnerable in many ways, yet we sometimes fail to see that men are equally vulnerable, especially when they allow themselves to open up to us. There are many boundaries we explicity set for men to follow and sometimes, unfortunately, do not hold those same boundaries for ourselves. Too many times we hold ourselves in esteem without regard for men, their feelings or the decisions we inflict or usher into the relationship. I suppose we think they are looking after self-interest; with that imbedded in our psyche, one would think, "are not we, too?"
I offer sincere apologies for all those men who've endured the torturous barrels madness some women inflict. It is not our intensions, I contend, to drum up the "madness," yet it is the madness that seems to win...
SomeGuyOverThere said:A good quote I heard from a gay commedian:
"All women think about is relationships, all men think about is sex - thats why I'm gay."
Obviously it's not 100% spot on, but in a wider sense it is often the same problem - the "Handbag Problem".
The Handbag Problem i've observed is this-
A girl asks her boyfriend to open her handbag and retreive her purse. Now, in her mind, the girl is thinking of the pink purse in the second pocket, but she doesnt say that, she simply asks for her purse. The boyfriend then searches for around several minutes, trying every pocket and then produces a black purse, at which point the woman wails loudly "GOD! You men, are SOOOO useless!" and proceeds to immediatly find the purse she is looking for. The boyfriend then goes all quiet and feels crap about himself for a few minutes.
What I'm saying is that its a communication and mind thing - the girl knows exacty where it is and which one it is, but doesnt communicate it, she assumes the guy knowns what she is on about. The guy doesnt know, so gets it wrong and the girl shoots him down in flames for not understanding her.
Yeah - its a metaphor...
Ah who am I kidding? I think my train of thought just died.
HickBoy said:*snif*
That was beautiful, dearie. now, would you come over here and help the healing begin?![]()
HickBoy said:Yeah, but it reached the station before doing so. It's all about communication, innit?
hungboy said:they never know what they want
and i know they are really not worth me (the ones i get to deal with)...
iono wtf to do
i know im very good looking, open person, challenging but still. no sex problems at all... (8.5 x 7)...
girls just seem to fuck with my head and nothing else
grrrrr
wellhungcamboy said:Personally, I adore women. As for mind games, I find that if I'm straightforward with someone, she'll be straightforward with me. If someone plays games, I move on.
mfoley said:Amen! There are plenty of women who don't want to play mind games. There are more average looking diamonds out there then there are gorgeous diamonds. Don't go for the gorgeous ones. Someone who loves you and would give the world for you will always be more beautiful than someone who has beauty and an ego.
Just keep looking. Ms. Right is out there. It just takes some...![]()