How you stand, with your head held high and your shoulders back
How you make eye contact
Your tone of voice should be strong and unwaivering, your laugh unstiffled.
Never apologise, unless its for a really good reason
Stick to your guns in discussions, and don't be afraid to volunteer your ideas or opinions.
Dont be afraid to tell stories that show your strong points
Like yourself. He who has confidence in himself gains it from others
Basically, dont be afraid to steal the stage every now and then, and make things about you. If you are out with friends, tell a story about you or something that happened to you, and make everyone else think about you. All of the really confident appearing guys that get a LOT of women, are always taking center stage and want the attention on them in social settings. You are putting yourself out there more than others, and it takes balls to do that. More often than not, these guys are as insecure or more than everyone else. But, unless you really know them, you dont see that. All most people see is someone with the balls to put themselves out there.
Hey I like how you said that. Hmm, I guess that makes sense, how you hold your head and stuff. Like when I go to the bad parts of NY I stand tall and look tough so the damn pimps and drug dealers will leave me alone if I say no to them, and other people who look hard wont want to bother with me because they generally pick on the weak looking. I guess I should kinda be like that?
I do make eye contact, but I tend to look away after a couple seconds. I know that I should look into their eyes, but then again, I don't want them to think that I'm an oggling freak, just staring at them ya know? Or do they like you to look unwaivering into thier eyes? I would think it would get a little weird in excess.
I have learned to no apologize kinda, so I have refrained from that, even saying sorry in as a joke I wont do anymore.
Not sure how I laugh.
I'm really laid back about most things so I generally and honestly have no opinion about most things. I just go with the flow. People always ask me what I want to do, I always say I don't care because I don't care. Maybe I should make up some opinions? lol.
As for story telling, I suck at story telling, and I have lived an extremely boring life so I don't have any stories to tell. lol. Guess theres not much I can do in that case huh?
So I have to steal the show. I think maybe I could do that, my friends are wierd and I could probably use that to my advantage.
I have noticed lately some changes. Before, when I was with any other guy, and we were talking to some ladies, I would never get so much as a glance. Females would never, ever, look at me. They would meet me and then thier eyes stayed glued my friends. Now when we meet girls, my friends do all the talking, but the girls look at me while talking quite often. Very often I would even say.I won't be in the conversation at all, they are just talking to my friend and im standing next to him listening and they keep looking at me. I thought that was wierd, I didnt know if they were like "wtf u lookin at ugly?" or what.
BUT, there is a difference here. When I could never get looks, I lived in new jersey. Now my friends in new jersey are hot. I know this, because they get hot girlfriends, and I have heard alot of girls saying they were hot. One friend is like a sculpted peice of art this and that. Most of my NJ friends are attractive. Maybe they just looked way better than me and girls just wanted to look at them?
But now I live in texas, the guys I hang out with now, I think I can confidently say I look better than them, even if by a little bit. Could that be the reason why they never used to look at me before. I mean I do act differently than I used to, I have been working on eye contact for a while now, and just trying to not be absolutly terrified. I think I stay quietly reserved and I just listen to the conversation and laugh at whatever. Maybe Its my better attitude than I had before, or maybe women just always look at the better looking guy.
