Im too young to have erection problems

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morethanamouthfull: Hi everyone. First of all I'm 26 and have had problems off and on getting it up or keeping it up for the past ten years. A lot of it was performance anxiety and nerves but it still happens now more often than I like, even in a 2 year plus relationship, I can't understand why I would be nervous...

So I'm looking for theories as to why I may have problems at such a young age, I have been to the doctor but all he did was run testosterone tests which he said came back normal.

Here are some factors to consider...
...I used to smoke cigarettes, just quit for good on November 11, 2004
...I have a history of high blood pressure but it is in check
...I take no medications
...I don't really eat healthy
...I am not fat but my bodyfat % is not good either
...I have depression from time to time
...I smoke weed often but not a ton, just a hit at a time every hour or so
...I have homosexual curiosities but I LOVE sex with women
...I still get nervous sometimes before sex because of past problems
...I don't exercise

So I'm thinking some or all of these things probably factor in but I would like to hear any input you have to offer. I really wanna do something about this, it's gone on for long enough...

Some other facts...
...I tried a cockring and it helps when I'm tired or nervous but I don't like wearing it EVERY time
...I have tried Viagra and 1/4 dose would get me going strong
...I get morning wood hard as a rock

 

[Pappy]

There are many factors that affect your erection. Many of the things you listed are factors, just to name a few:
...I used to smoke cigarettes, just quit for good on November 11, 2004
...I have a history of high blood pressure but it is in check
...I don't really eat healthy
...I am not fat but my bodyfat % is not good either
...I have depression from time to time
...I smoke weed often but not a ton, just a hit at a time every hour or so

Change you lifestyle and do it quickly. Erection difficulties are most times an indicator of deeper rooted health problems. See a doctor and get a complete physical.

 

[Freddie53]

Originally posted by morethanamouthfull@Jan 4 2005, 10:31 PM
Hi everyone. First of all I'm 26 and have had problems off and on getting it up or keeping it up for the past ten years. A lot of it was performance anxiety and nerves but it still happens now more often than I like, even in a 2 year plus relationship, I can't understand why I would be nervous...

Some other facts...
...I tried a cockring and it helps when I'm tired or nervous but I don't like wearing it EVERY time
...I have tried Viagra and 1/4 dose would get me going strong
...I get morning wood hard as a rock

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I delieted some of your concerns as Pappy has covered them. The thing that really tellss a lot is that only a 1/4 pill of Viagra will work and you get a morning wood as hard as a rock.

First, if anyone could completely understand how the penis works they could bottle it and be a billionaire.

Second, there is nothing too wrong with you or a 1/4 tablet wouldn't fix the problem.

Third, viagra wouldn't help in getting you aroused to begin with, so you are still romantically involved with your partner.

So, I would conclude that emotional issues may be factors here. Once you fail anxiety can set in and that really upsets things. Certainly alcohol and weed have been proven to interfere with erections and ejaculations. I would try leaving off the weed for a day or two and see what happens.

If changes like that don't work, see a doctor. Tell him EVERYTHING. Be sure to see a doctor that has time to listen and is open minded about such things. Going to a doctor who primarily gives care to the dying and treats sore throats and such may not be the best. A urologist would be your best bet for a doctor.

Good luck
Freddie

 

[jonb]

Yeah, the penis is the first to go for some reason. My best advice is to get plenty of exercise, cut the weed, and eat properly. Exercise will also help with the depression.

 

[madame_zora]

Okay, I picked up on a few things.

You have homosexual curiousities and erectile problems in having sex with women. Hmmm.

You don't call a hit of weed an hour a ton??? Are you serious? You're on a maintainence high at all times- THAT'S a problem.

Bad eating/body fat are likely signs of depression, which you say you suffer from from time to time. Depression is sneaky- sometimes it's more due to a chemical imbalance, but sometimes it's a natural reaction to unpleasant circumstnaces. I think it would be wise to investigate what your true feelings are in regard to gender preference. Perhaps you are depressed because your body does not want the same things your mouth is saying it does. I have very often found that a man who says he is "curious about men but still looooooves to have sex with women" is really trying too hard to convince himself. If this is not you, great, but take some time to consider it at least. I also know a lot of men who have erectile issues when they're with a partner IN their gender preference that they are not attracted to.

General health, fitness, smoking all play into healthy penile functioning, but at your young age, even given these circumstances I find it somewhat unnerving. Many young people abuse their bodies, (I did it too&#33 without sex being dramatically affected. If I were to guess, I would think the reasons to be more psychological than physical, especially if your doc could find no physical abnormalities.

Your post shows that you are clearly looking for answers, I hope you find them.
We're always here for hugs when needed.

 

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morethanamouthfull:

Originally posted by Freddie53@Jan 4 2005, 11:39 PM

So, I would conclude that emotional issues may be factors here. Once you fail anxiety can set in and that really upsets things.

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Yes I imagine that is 95% of my problem, I know I "think too much" and end up sabatoging myself with my own thought processes. I tend to be a negative thinker and I can never seem to put aside the thought of "what if" I can't get it up this time...

 

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morethanamouthfull:

Originally posted by madame_zora@Jan 5 2005, 06:41 AM

You have homosexual curiousities and erectile problems in having sex with women. Hmmm.

You don't call a hit of weed an hour a ton??? Are you serious? You're on a maintainence high at all times- THAT'S a problem.

Perhaps you are depressed because your body does not want the same things your mouth is saying it does. I have very often found that a man who says he is "curious about men but still looooooves to have sex with women" is really trying too hard to convince himself.

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Well I guess I don't "feel" like I smoke that much because I know people who go through a bag way sooner than I do.
I understand my curiosities may be a factor, thats why I mentioned it. But honestly it is just something I want to try someday and not a lifelong goal or anything. What I'm saying is I would never in a million years be in a "relationship" with another guy, I just like kinky and taboo things.

 

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morethanamouthfull: I am definately starting an exercise problem soon, I hope that will aide the depression which I know is a factor. Thanks everyone for the input.

 

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Mikef: I highly recommend you to try ZuPro. After taking these pills I had rock hard erections and intense sexual drive. It's very effective.

 

[DadsAreUs]

Well, Madame Zora, no enabler are you. thanks for cutting to the core issues with so little unsentimentality.

MTMF, just because you know people who go through a bag faster doesn't mean anything. You are all smoking way too much pot. and since pot isn't physically addictive look elsewhere for the cause of this dependence. If you knew someone who drank one beer an hour all day or had one cocktail an hour all day wouldn't you think that person had an alcohol problem.

I also second Zora's advice regarding sexuality. You know, years before Elton John said he was gay he used to claim to be bisexual, bragging "I draw the line at sheep." The implication was not that his attraction for men was some kind of failing or short coming but just a part of being an incredible sexual animal, even more of a man than someone who just has lots of sex with women.

 

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morethanamouthfull: Well I have cut back smoking imensly, I take a few hits saturday and sunday nights but none during the week. Big step for me

 

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carolinacurious:

What I'm saying is I would never in a million years be in a "relationship" with another guy, I just like kinky and taboo things.

Yeah, a lot of gay people say this.

That said, don't let anybody convince you that there is no such thing as bi-sexuality. Also, it's perfectly normal for a hetero guy to be curious. It probably wouldn't hurt to have a bit of introspection as mentioned by Zora but I don't think that this is where your problem is.

The nervousness you mention of being able to perform making the problem worse is basically a textbook example.

Pot smoking, first, I make no judgements. I may not have the biggest dick here but I'll put my pot-head credentials up against anyones. Pot can lower your blood pressure (it does this worse to some people than others it seems), which can give you erection problems and I don't think that is the only way that pot may be able to cause you sexual trouble. Cutting back should help, you've definitely been smoking at a level that will cause some people trouble.

 

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remotehypnosis: I dont think there is any reason anything should do anything necessarily unless you believe it to be so. I've got a file on my website for free download to help with erection problems. And personally smoking weed puts me on heat! :lol:

 

[someone2004uk]

Originally posted by morethanamouthfull@Jan 6 2005, 02:34 AM
Yes I imagine that is 95% of my problem, I know I "think too much" and end up sabatoging myself with my own thought processes. I tend to be a negative thinker and I can never seem to put aside the thought of "what if" I can't get it up this time...

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Personally, I think this is the weed. I used to smoke, albiet a bit more than you maybe about an 8th but normally shared between 5-10 people.

It always used to make my thought process go awol, paranoia, aggitation etc. I would find if i stopped for too long, depression would set in.

Seems like a lot of the symtoms you've discribed. Some people just can't handle it, i know i can't, it plays with my head to much, makes me paranoid and stupid.

My personal suggestion, is you try and give it up for good, no occasional hits no nothing. I will warm you though if you have the same reactions to weed I did, it won't be easy, but by the end of it, most of your axniety and negativity should vanish.

I hope this help, good luck.

 

[madame_zora]

Everyone's reactions to chemicals can be so different, so that's why I would suggest trying to cut it back for a while, to see if it improves anything. When a person has allergies, a doctor will try to isolate what they are exposed to in order to figure out what is causing the bad reaction. If you cut back severely (as it seems you have) for a few months, and don't notice an imporvement, them you'll know it wasn't that, but if it does help, problem solved.

Also, I agree that it's normal for str8 guys to be curious about dicks, but there again, I would give yourself the opportunity to discover if this is a mild curiousity or something deeper. It may help answer some of your questions about the cause of your erectile concerns and it may not, but it will most likely give you a clearer understanding of yourself, which should surely help with depression. All that being said, performance anxiety can be just exactly that- fear of performing. Here I will have to back out, as I am not a man and can't really grasp what men go through here, as a woman I have not found a good way to help a partner who has issues here, as their need for so much encouragement is troubling to me. Sex is a weird mix of needing to be excited and relaxed at the same time, and being young perhaps you just haven't found your groove there yet. Like many things, I would concentrate on your successes more than you failed attempts, and this will give you more courage to try again.

 

[cypher13]

I think your problems are related to a combination of the smoking (tobacco or marijuana), not eating right and the emotional stress/depression. You also say you "think too much," and that could be a large part of the problem.

A suggestion.

Find someone who can teach you the basics, that is, the VERY basics of meditation. Get into a relaxed state prior to making love. You will free yourself of the problems of the day - which I am almost certain are what occupy your mind - and you can concentrate on the act itself. The biggest superstud in the world can't get a good erection if he is thinking about the chewing out his boss gave him earlier than day. There are those here who might argue this point, but, if they are honest with themselves, they will know that this is true.

You need study meditation no longer than a few hours to get good enough to accomplish this feat; a weekend or evening seminar at your local community college or adult learning center will be more than adequate. If you are comfortable with the instructor, tell this person your problem and you will probably get good advice. I will point out that you should NOT try to learn how to do this from reading a book at first. Go to a class. I know whereof I speak on this matter.

No, you won't be able to levitate or anything like that, but you should be able to get, and keep, good erections.

 

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spoolworm: I smoked alot of ganja in my last year of school, and besides slight man breasts, the THC did make my erections less good.

My advice: keep it for weekends, and buy good weed instead of crap which makes you smoke more to get high.