Important question

[516778]

Is it weird to ask someone to be 'the one' and in this case by the one I mean to the who takes your virginity(for lack of better wording.) Like for instance, I've been talking to this guy for so long I would say years or more. We've talked about anything and everything. I feel closer to him than any other guy I've ever talked too. Is that too weird. I would rather him be that person than some random one night stand....I know him, I trust him and I don't think he would do anything to hurt me. Is it still weird????

 

[badgirl22]

I don't think it's weird at all. I think, even if he says no, he'd be flattered. It's my guess if you're close enough that you trust him for this, he'd say yes. Good luck with it. Hope it's wonderful for you!

 

[killerb]

nope...not weird at all
seriously

 

[516778]

does it make a difference that he's in a different state!?!?

 

[petite]

No, I wouldn't think it would make a difference. I think it sounds sweet and I'd be flattered if he told me what you said in your OP about what the reasons are for why you want him to be the one who does it.

 

[True_Blue]

Do you know his sexual orientation or, at least, his vies on homosexuality? I'm only asking because when you say "...I've been this guy...", I'm not sure if you mean just as friends or something more.

 

[516778]

oh. Sorry. True_Blue he's gay. completely gay. Oh and his response is this...."It's not weird but why would you want your first to be with someone you are going to leave(he lives in Illinois and I live in SC)?? My first turned out to be just a one night stand and I'd be lying if I said I did not regret it and that it didn't hurt. "

 

[Countryguy63]

Well, I can see how you would be attracted. Seems like a very caring guy. What do you think of his response?

 

[516778]

I didn't know what to make of his response. I told him that I trust him and I know that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me. And I told him that if we meet up and connect that perhaps I wouldn't leave or that we could meet halfway. And from there I felt like he really didn't want to be that person.....or that if he wanted to be that person that he didn't want me to leave. -- so from there I stated that I didn't want to complicate our friendship and that I was just asking because I didn't want my first time to be with some complete stranger.

 

[Countryguy63]

I think that you both are looking at it from a caring perspective. Keep talking it out, and don't assume intentions. Get everything clearly out in the open. You would hate to miss an opportunity because of misinterpreted feelings :smile:

Good Luck

 

[516778]

I'm suppose to be going up to Illinois in like May or so with a friend hopefully the two of us can talk it out then.