In a mate, mentally stable or financially stable. Which do you choose?

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  1. Principessa

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    Let's say you meet a male or female, who is perfect for you in almost every way. Height, weight, education level, looks, personality, morally, ethically, hobbies/interests, sex drive, but you get to make a choice; they can be either mentally stable or financially stable. Which do you choose, and why?

    As a NAMI member I want to say I would choose financially stable which means he might have mental health issues. But I dated a man with mental health issues which he refused to treat. :mad::rolleyes: Not sure I have the strength to deal with that again.
     
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    i need mentally stable, ill provide the money
     
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    Mentally stable.
     
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    mentally stable
     
  5. Principessa

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    True, I would much rather be with a sane poor man with potential than a rich looney tune. :cool:
     
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    how UNstable are we talking here? i don't want some psychopath whose going to murder my pets, but i also don't want to date a homeless chick. :p
     
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    Hmmm, I thought about specifying an illness but they affect different people, differently. Is it better if she is bi-polar than schizophrenic? :confused: A person with mild schizophrenia who goes to therapy regularly and takes their meds daily may make a better mate than a bi-polar person who won't stay on their meds.
     
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    Mentally. Two crazy people don't mix. Plus I'm young there's time to get financially stable.
     
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    This not only bodes so poorly for you but speaks so poorly of you that I'm really surprised.

    You'd even admit it.
     
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    Mentally stable. Financial instability remediable.
     
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    i guess if the two are in inverse proportion (ie: the more financially stable they are, the crazier they'll be), i'll take a slightly neurotic girl who pays her own bills and can still take a vacation from time to time. ;)
     
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    Since my last GF was neither, I may not be qualified to answer this :eek: :redface:

    However, I would much rather have mentally stable. If they really loved me, I could work with financial difficulties.
     
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    ...oh definitely financially stable...we'll just make sure we get a power of attorney before he does off the deep end.
     
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    I'd remain single. Sorry, but they have to be both or I have zero interest.

    *thanks the sweet lord for my good fortune in mens* ;)
     
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    mentally.

    i have a rule. there's only room for one crazy person in any relationship and it's bloody well going to be me.
     
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    I am not now, nor have I ever been a gold-digger. :irked: If you knew what I had been through with the last man I was with you would understand. :rolleyes:

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    Amen!
     
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    But think of all the amazing sex you can have with a person with multiple personalities.

    :smile:
     
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    If you understood what you went through with the last man you were with, you wouldn't have started this thread.
     
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    the only logical reason for the adoration i receive.
     
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