In a mate, mentally stable or financially stable. Which do you choose?

[NCbear]

i need mentally stable, ill provide the money

Mentally stable.

mentally stable

True, I would much rather be with a sane poor man with potential than a rich looney tune.

Mentally. Two crazy people don't mix. Plus I'm young there's time to get financially stable.

Mentally stable. Financial instability remediable.

. . . DELETED . . .

. . . . I would much rather have mentally stable. If they really loved me, I could work with financial difficulties.

Ditto to the above.

NCbear (who's with someone now who's mentally stable but not financially stable :biggrin1

 

[nudeyorker]

I'll take mentally stable; with that he can easily get a good job. You can't buy sanity.

 

[invisibleman]

I'll take mentally stable; with that he can easily get a good job. You can't buy sanity.

If he is financially stable, he can get good p$ychotherapy.

 

[NCbear]

Ditto to the above.

NCbear (who's with someone now who's mentally stable but not financially stable :biggrin1

I'll take mentally stable; with that he can easily get a good job. You can't buy sanity.

Still on the "mentally stable" side of this question.

NCbear (who thinks there's a corollary to nudeyorker's statement above: Ron White's "You can't fix stupid" :biggrin1

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

I want the one who has the hottest chest hair pattern.

YEAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! I am getting so tired of waxed fruits! Glad hair is coming back.

Seriously though -- mentally stable. With that, given time he will become financially stable as he moves up the ladder.

 

[helgaleena]

The key to most financial instability is underlying mental instability. I should know. That is why so many artists starve; It's nature's way of weeding out the ones who are not attractive enough to be parasites or savvy enough to make salable products.

I am speaking as an artist, mind you...

When it comes to longterm relationships with the mentally unstable, they always hold danger. Financial stability might mitigate against it harming the partner, but even that is not guaranteed. Nope, mental stability is better for longevity.

OTOH how can you truly guarantee that anyone is mentally stable? The very definitions of that are highly subjective and vary in every culture. I was extremely hurt by my ex's constant hounding of me to do things the 'normal' way. What he really meant was HIS way. My ways to address envelopes, do dishes, or a hundred other things broke no laws and did the job. Until we met I had never even had a parking ticket...six years in i was a chronic liar and in therapy.

Hard to say which of us should have been judged less mentally stable. All one can say for certain is that we did not fit each other.

 

[beachbum1971]

I'll take mentally stable; with that he can easily get a good job. You can't buy sanity.

I endorse this response! A mentally stable person can figure out how to be financially stable.

 

[AbeFroman]

My mate pretty much has to have both. Non-negotiable IMO.

 

[D_Maurice Mountlilly]

mentally stable.............. all day,every day.

 

[BigLittleMan]

mentally stable, obviously.

however, it's mind boggling even today how many women still want/expect a wealthy man to take care of them. what ever happened to equality?

 

[TheRob]

how UNstable are we talking here? i don't want some psychopath whose going to murder my pets, but i also don't want to date a homeless chick.

this is a good question
if the mental instability is like she's got some Obsessive Compulsive Behavior or is a real neat freak but is perfectly SAFE then that's a different story
the mental instability needs to be defined

 

[TheRob]

the only logical reason for the adoration i receive.

your tits are probubly on the list to

 

[D_Anton_Pavlovich_Jerkhov]

Mentally stable, but with a good heart as well.

 

[Principessa]

If he is financially stable, he can get good p$ychotherapy.

Only if he wants to. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

If you understood what you went through with the last man you were with, you wouldn't have started this thread.

Big & bossy words from someone who only has a few tidbits of information. :irked: Actually I started this thread based on a comment Rommette made in another thread. I can understand your being touchy on this topic though, what with you being a trustfund baby and all. You've probably had to kick your share of golddiggers to the curb. :frown1: But don't take it out on me.

 

[Principessa]

Hmmm, I thought about specifying an illness but they affect different people, differently. Is it better if she is bi-polar than schizophrenic? A person with mild schizophrenia who goes to therapy regularly and takes their meds daily may make a better mate than a bi-polar person who won't stay on their meds.

this is a good question
if the mental instability is like she's got some Obsessive Compulsive Behavior or is a real neat freak but is perfectly SAFE then that's a different story
the mental instability needs to be defined

Good point, which I thought I clearly stated above; but which some people like Nick8 seem set on ignoring. :headache: :irked: I know of a few marriages that broke up because of major financial issues; but only one which broke up due to a known mental illness which he refused to treat. :frown1:

 

[nedly32]

I'll take mentally stable; with that he can easily get a good job. You can't buy sanity.

so right on that 1.500 a mo in meds and im still broken

 

[dolfette]

actually, the ''mentally unstable'' tag doesn't really suit me. i'm actually perfectly stable!
...it's just that you don't want to know exactly what state i'm stable at.

 

[Viking_UK]

I'd rather have mentally stable. I have known people with mental health issues and no way would I want to be involved with them in any way, either emotionally, physically or financially.

It's bad enough being involvd with an archetypal Virgo!

 

[dolfette]

gotta point out...

'they' estimate 1/3 of people will suffer mental illness at some point in their lives. lots of people suffer a bout of depression, recover within a year and never suffer from it again.
the image of everyone who suffers from mental illness being some gibbering, ranting lunatic who never improves is about as valid as the image of black men as hip hopping drug dealers...it happens but it's not the norm.

 

[Ethyl]

mentally stable, obviously.

however, it's mind boggling even today how many women still want/expect a wealthy man to take care of them. what ever happened to equality?

While I think it's irresponsible for a woman to expect a man to be her financial foundation there are also men who want/expect a woman to take care of his emotional needs and coddle him as his parents did during his formative years. No equality there either.