I had a phase where I liked men who were either always or sometimes sexually submissive. Now, I could play with a sexually submissive man, but only if he is NEVER socially submissive, which means he has to be able to navigate the controlling aspects of my personality and come out on top or equal. I'm a steamrolling sort by nature, but I want my partner to step up and be my equal. I don't want to be his boss, and I can't be his mother. I also want to be led most of the time, sexually. My dude wants to experiment with BDSM, and with D/s (sexual context only) from the perspective of a submissive male with a dominant female. I look forward to exploring that with him.
With me, a submissive playmate can expect to be made to feel like his desires are secondary to my own agenda which always takes top priority. This is an illusion, one I can manufacture skillfully. The truth is this type of play requires mutual respect, trust, and a lot of discussion to discern what a sven diagram of our sexual interests and kinks would look like. I start with the overlap as the practical foundation, and encourage the stretching and pressing of boundaries toward activities that primarily entertain me. My own boundaries get challenged as I see fit, dabbling into areas where he has a heightened interest, where my level of interest is either completely absent, or merely curiousity, or even only clinical curiosity.
So, for me, what is typical? I like bondage, sensory deprivation, sense-play (hot vs. cold, pleasure vs. pain, wet vs. dry, soft vs. hard, gentle vs. rough, etc.), inflicting pain, humiliation (verbal and practical), and teasing and orgasm denial. I can be cold, distant, an untouchable goddess, or I can be sweet, playful, warm, but in control. It has in the past depended upon the personality of my partner. Despite illusion to the contrary, my goal is mutual pleasure and joint growth. So, while I project an unwillingness to bend, I'm actually quite flexible.
Having said that, I have NO tolerance for bratty behavior, nor its big brother, topping from the bottom. I've heard in munches that topping from the bottom is a myth, and a failing on my part to respect the desires of a partner, but I strongly disagree. The time for a sub to make his desires known is while we are discussing the matter, not during a scene. If I'm too close to a boundary, use the safewords. If he was wrong about where his boundaries lie, he should use the safewords. If there is a potential safety issue, he should use the safewords. If I'm well within bounds, and he just is excited and wants to skip ahead to some other aspect of play, that's too bad. Honestly, a sub controls literally everything else. Ordination is my call. Always. And a painslut being naughty just to earn discipline is boring. Too boring. So, these things are dealbreakers. Always. I won't do that kind of play with a partner who cannot learn to control the urge to top from the bottom.