In Defense of Size

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jjdov26: Don’t know how I missed this thread. It is pretty interesting.

One thing I'll say first is -- this idea that if guys who are hung are happy about it and take pride in their endowment, little guys will be devastated strikes me as very condescending. As an average guy myself, I am don't need other guy's "looking out for me" by lying or minimizing their pride in what nature gave them. In fact, that is a more offensive idea than a big guy bragging about his size. We are all adults here. And if a guy with a small dick is upset or offended by a comment, that is life. Since they can't change their size, they should look to the benefits of their size--not force others to be shy in recognizing the benefits of their larger tools.

Now, on to my comment:

I am really intrigued by the idea that sex actually feels better when you have a bigger dick. I know that went I have sex, my penis usually only rubs two of the four sides of the pussy (if that description makes sense). To get a lot of stimulation, I usually have to fuck at an angle or I don’t feel much. One of my greatest wishes is that I could "feel all" -- sort of be enveloped by the pussy rather than having to find a good angle to feel its flesh.

Also, do you guys think that having a very large head on the end of your dicks makes sex more pleasurable? My own glans is not flared very much over my shaft. I was wondering if that might also be a reason I don't feel I get as good stimulation from fucking a pussy. If so, why do you guys think having a big helmet would make sex feel better?

John

 

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FunGirl: [quote author=Me_Likey link=board=sex;num=1044604201;start=0#5 date=02/07/03 at 06:22:48]Personally speaking, if you have sex with one guy with a small dick and do it a gain the exact same way with the same guy but this time with a large dick, the man with the large cock wins in a landslide (I know, physicaly impossible but I'm trying to make a point).   Point is, if you have basic run-of-the-mill sex, I'd much rather the guy have a big cock, it just feels better.  

Having said all that, if you're small but know your way around a women and are able to pleasure her in many other ways (not just intercouse) you have nothing to worry about.  I, on the other hand, want to get the basic anatomy part of the equation first (ie. a big cock!) and then, if required, I'll turn him into Romeo later.   :-*[/quote]

Couldn't have said it better myself Me_Likey!

 

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View_From_Below: [quote author=jjdov26 link=board=sex;num=1044604201;start=15#20 date=02/10/03 at 11:00:24]
Since they can't change their size, they should look to the benefits of their size--

John,
hey, great idea.. umm, but what the heck are they?
VFB

 

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fanjo: A tight fit might be good,but I think it can sometimes be too tight. I remember this one girl was so tight I could hardly feel the normal sensations we expect. Worse yet she only wanted me to thrust in and out half an inch or so. And she had the nerve to act like she was experienced. Worst root of my life.

 

[Max]

[quote author=View_From_Below link=board=sex;num=1044604201;start=15#19 date=02/10/03 at 10:39:40] So in the end, I guess the mark of mutual respect and real manhood for all of us is that you pretend to small men that your large size has serious drawbacks, and small men pretend to believe you.  And we all try to act with dignity with regard to our inexplicably and vastly unequal conditions....[/quote]

VFB

I can see what you mean. But just to make what I said a little more clear. The 'serious drawbacks' aren't a pretence, but a reality. The enormous care a truly oversized guy has to take, the need for lengthy preparation, the exercise of restraint, the inevitability of causing some hurt, however careful he is.

And that is quite aside from the day to day issues, especially clothing, support etc. Because I happen to be very highly charged as well as oversized, I have always found it difficult to cope with.

But as I think you will have guessed .. when you weigh it all up, I wouldn't want to swap. I suppose in my slightly complex attitude to my size I think of my penis as very 'high maintenance' ... but worth it. But I stick by what I said ... there are two sides, and a small guy needs to know about both of them if he is to get a true picture.

 

[Max]

[quote author=jjdov26 link=board=sex;num=1044604201;start=15#20 date=02/10/03 at 11:00:24]
I am really intrigued by the idea that sex actually feels better when you have a bigger dick.  I know that went I have sex, my penis usually only rubs two of the four sides of the pussy (if that description makes sense).  To get a lot of stimulation, I usually have to fuck at an angle or I don’t feel much.  One of my greatest wishes is that I could "feel all" -- sort of be enveloped by the pussy rather than having to find a good angle to feel its flesh.  

Also, do you guys think that having a very large head on the end of your dicks makes sex more pleasurable?  My own glans is not flared very much over my shaft.  I was wondering if that might also be a reason I don't feel I get as good stimulation from fucking a pussy.  If so, why do you guys think having a big helmet would make sex feel better?[/quote]

John,

I couldn't put it better, the good thing is that your partner is always tight, always stretched to accommodate you if you are well endowed, even if it takes you a lot longer to gain entrance in the first place.

As I have a very big flared head I can also comment on your other question, maybe. I find that I always cause some discomfort to my partner (wife of 25 plus years!!) on initial entry ... but it always feels great to me.

There is a sort of barb effect with a pronounced rim, once in, you stay in. LOL. But it also gives a lot of stimulation when it gets deeper, or so I am told.

 

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jjdov26: thanks for your reply.

your comments about the head were very interesting.
It is a major aspect of my respect/jealously for hung guys with big heads.

The idea of having a large flared head thusting deep into a woman -- that seems to me would be the ultimate pleasure for a female. I have always wondered whether they could "feel" thehead trusting deep inside (as oposed to just a general feeling of something thrusting in there.)

The psycological and pleasurable benefits of actually stretching a pussy with your dick, as oposed to tring to find a good wall to trust against inside, is the main feeling that I wish I could feel during sex, but cant because of my girth.

John

 

[jay_too]

jhon..

a flared head presents problems during and sometimes after making love...a guy has to be careful inserting and extracting the penis. it can cause pain to both of you...

yeeow! let me assure there are a few less than 10 jillion nerve endings in the corona and a guy does not want to get them upset. if you do, mr. johnson is gonna sit in your briefs and hurt for a few days. a girlfriend never believed me when i said it hurt too much to have sex...[i guess she thought i was using the old headache excuse.] until she offered a bj and i turned ashen.

if you are not careful coming out, you are gonna cause pain and have a really sore chick to deal with....i never have been with a woman who could discern a flared corona once in the vagina.

in my next life i'm going for a helmet head.

jay

 

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BIGBOYDAVE: a flared head presents problems during and sometimes after making love...a guy has to be careful inserting and extracting the penis. it can cause pain to both of you...

I don't have a flared head but my penis is thicker mid way down Its the hardest part to get in and after a person cum's the hardest part to get out. Usually after they cum they want it out right away . I have to explain to them to wait a few minuites while I go a bit soft otherwise it will hurt them . I have had experiences with bottoms that have pulled off right away and it has done dammage . :'(

 

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jjdov26: thanks for you reply Jay.

Ok, the big mushroom head might not be all it is cracked up to be.

Still, being able to actually fill up a pussy and feel all its walls at once. No one will ever be able to convince me that has a drawback.

Damn, I wish I was thick like you guys. Oh well. Better learn to thrust sideways........

 

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SpeedoGuy: I've got a pretty wide flared mushroom/hemet head. Its wider than the shaft when flaccid and becomes even wider at max erection

I can't say if having a large head contributes to greater physical sensation for me than otherwise but what I do get a supreme thrill out of is seeing my gf's reactions to it...especially when I reveal it for the first time. It really adds to my rush they stare wide-eyed and mutter "...oh my god..." or some such. I've been through this enough times to know such reactions are not an act.

To date, I've never been refused because of a large unit. In fact, they've been overwhelmingly eager to give it a go. Gf's of all sizes have accomodated me on the first or second try with proper care and lubrication.

I can sure feel all the walls of the pussy during full penetration and they say they can feel it to. I find it easier to achieve this effect during doggy style which is what I favor and most of my gf's eventually favor.

 

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meathose10: Size matters to me because I have a great big cock and I like it. I'm the one weilding it , so I'm glad to have the perfect tool for the job...I think Michael5094 is right , though , when he says it matters to men. More volume for nerve endings does bring more pleasure - I mean , stimulus along 10 inches would logically feel better than stimulus along 5 , no? Women might be fearful and flinch at the sight of mammoth meat - which is where a practiced and considerate technique comes in - I'm all for that , and pride myself on helping them "make room for daddy." And yes, jjdov, the two sides of a pussy thing makes sense. Believe me , when I'm pushed up and in her all 4 walls of the vagina slip up and down my cock like velvet. I'm fucking clamped sometimes! Glad to see a lot of you know to ease out slow after you climax. I always go at least half soft before pulling out - otherwise a very painful tug can happen for both of you. Just don't wait til your load dries - ouch!
As usual VFW summed it up beautifully : "bigger is absolutely better "

 

[txquis]

my personal experience is that i've had hot times with large, midsize/average ones alike. what you do with it is the make or break part of it for me.

 

[BobLeeSwagger]

As a straight guy, I can't say that I care much about other guys' size, but maybe that's because, at 8x6, I can be pretty sure that any given guy is smaller than I am. (Although that's not really true here.) It DOES instill some confidence.

Women have told me various things regarding penis size. I really believe some of them when they say it doesn't matter to them. One partner told me that her arousal for big ones was mostly psychological, that after the initial, enjoyable penetration, her vagina would just stretch a bit more, and most of them feel about the same. But she did say that she was still very turned on by how a bigger one looks and feels in her hand and mouth. Needless to say, we got along fine! ;D

One woman did tell me an interesting theory though. She insisted that technique and generosity were far more important in a lover, but she thought that the women who said size didn't matter weren't being totally honest. All other things equal, she said, a woman would rather have average over smaller than average. And she would rather have larger than average over average. She was also sure that the ones who were so adamant about not caring about size had never had a really, really small one. She used to be one of them until she dated a guy who was literally only three inches long fully erect and she was completely unsatisfied by him.

I think that the bottom line is that the range that 99% of guys fall under is probably OK. And the guys who worry about their size should care more about technique, which is something they CAN improve, unlike their size.

 

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fastfastr: The bottom line is this:

Quality without Quantity is better then...
Quantity without Quality BUT

Quality AND Quantity is best.

Just remember, unless you have a purely sexual relationship, you have to deal with this person in and OUT of bed.

Just my 2 cents.

 

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missvelvet03: thought i'd throw my opinion in here...

a couple people have mentioned the word confidence, and i think that's an important concept -- in my experience, smaller guys are less confident than larger guys, in bed and in general. and confidence is the sexiest quality any man can possess.

for me personally, i think it's partly a matter of physical compatibility. my first couple lovers were pretty small (5" or less), and although they both seemed to have pretty good technique, i just didn't feel much going on down there. honestly, i didn't have my first (non-solo ;-) ) orgasm until i met a guy with substantially more -- the sensation of feeling totally full, that's what really puts me over the top (again, and again, and again...). i think i'm just built that way...

missv

 

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Mark_S: Hi missvelvet,

i think a lot of women have made this experience.

The "full feeling" - the result of the rhythmical stretching of the vagina due to a large penis - is something which many women have found to be a requirement for their vaginal orgasms.

There are no real scientific data available. But i think it would be interesting to have the following data:

ability of a woman to climax during penetration vs.
penis size of her partner

Would there be a correlation or not?

regards

Mark

 

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monster: let me say this SIze doES matter to most women. I've been turned down by some because im too big and others said im perfect(im 12in x 6in). although some of the girls i knew that i turned down were rather loose and i wouldnt touch them with a ten foot pole.

 

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grantstephens: When I first started dating my wife, she would be sore for a day or two after a good long session. She didn't complain because she said it was worth it.

She was with 4 guys before me and they were all around 4.5 - 6 inches and they never gave her that "I've been beat up feeling" which she loves.

Now it's 4 kids later. She's a bit looser and doesn't deal with the pain quite as much anymore, and she's very happy I have what is considered a big member. So to her size does matter.

 

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pwrtrip: A girl I used to date told me that a row boat, and a cruise ship can both get you from Houston to Honalulu, but the cruise ship is more fun.