In gay bar...how to tell who is top/bottom before you get home?

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I've always been curious...let's say you are at a gay bar (or anywhere really) and you find a guy you like, how do you know if the guy you are interested in is a top or bottom? I imagine you want to know this before you get back to your place (assuming you are a pure top or bottom)?

Have you ever run into a situation where you were both a top or both a bottom and didn't figure that out ahead of time?
 

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There's not a for sure way to tell without them saying something to you about it. Some men will say that they can based on one thing or another but it's all pretty much based on stereotypes.

A guy can have an image that some may label "feminine" but the guy can still be a top. and the vice versa for "masculine" looking guys. I personally am versatile so leaving a club with me doesn't necessarily require a conversation, but if you made some preconceived notion about what I was, you'd miss out on some quality fun.
 

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I've always been curious...let's say you are at a gay bar (or anywhere really) and you find a guy you like, how do you know if the guy you are interested in is a top or bottom? I imagine you want to know this before you get back to your place (assuming you are a pure top or bottom)?

Have you ever run into a situation where you were both a top or both a bottom and didn't figure that out ahead of time?


Hopefully you talk about what things you are interested in doing before going.

 

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Seems that bottom guys tend to try and showcase their butts with the clothing they choose. Not always the case but helps with educated guess. Or try finding a dark corner for a make out session and look for submissive behavior or just ask!!
 

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I'll be honest there really isn't a tell for either

Some of the butchest men I have met were submissive bottoms

And some of the queeniest twinkiest guys hard dominant tops ;)

The best way is your flirting is to ask ;) lucky for me being versatile both answers suit me fine

Closest I came to your scenario is both guys being versatile and both being in the mood to top or bottom but even in that case you just take turns ;)
 
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As previously mentioned you just ask.

However People telling you they are top or bottom and them actually being a top or a bottom are two different things.

Don't assume they are 100% top because that's what they say. They might have had a terrible experience previously that that led them to decide this.