in love with a friend

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  1. buddy7706

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    any body ever fall in love with a friend or best friend straight or gay or bi :wink:... what happened...or how did it end ???? did u tell them ?? just want to hear some reall life stories
     
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    I'll try my hand at this one. As far as guys go, I fell in love with my best buddy when I was about 14 years old. He also fell in love with me. I think our parents knew we had something going on, but pretty much stayed out of our way. It wasn't all that heavy actually. We just hung out together, listened to music, went body surfing because we live close to the beach, and spent time with our friends. The most physical it got during that time was we'd make out quite a bit when we had some time alone, cuddled and laid in each other's arms. Did some mutual massage too. We also experimented sexually but that was a minor part of our relationship. Then we ended up going to the same university, and were and are roommates. So we're still the best of friends but we also both date girls, and have all along. Any questions?
     
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    Not fallen in love with any but fucked many of em. (chicks only) :wink:
     
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    so you guys still date girls and fool around??
     
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    (a) does he post on here? and/or
    (b) does he know YOU post on here?
     
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    He's aware of this site. I don't think he's a member though.
    :biggrin1:
     
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    Hot story, Jon.
     
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    No, it's a beautiful story.

    I fell in love with a best friend of mine in boarding school only I didn't realize it at the time. I never felt anything sexual for him though yet I envied the girl he lost his virginity to and wished I could have been there to see it. Not in a pervy way, just to share something really intimate. He was one of those friends who always made you feel like you could do anything when you were in his presence. He made you want to be at your best and, for someone with low self-esteem like me, that was a huge boost which, I guess, I got addicted to. We had a falling out which left me devastated to the point it seriously crippled me, but 22 years later he emailed me asking to get together. Seems he was rich now and had lots of fake friends but too few real friends who loved him for just being him.

    He greeted me with a hug and for those few seconds I just lost all sense of time and melted into him just like used to. 22 years of pain n' shame just fell away and for the first time in a very long time, I felt completely happy and content.

    I'm not in love with him any more but I do love him as I love very few and that includes my family.
     
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    I fell in love with a girl from my school, we were very close and all. She's got a kid (had a child very young), and a very jealous boyfriend. But she put 2 and 2 together and asked me if I was in love with her, I said yes and she said she liked me a lot too, but she can't leave her boyfriend because of their kid. We still hang out, it hasn't gotten awkward, she still hugs me a lot and sits all over me, just not when her boyfriend is around lol.
     
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    I was really good friends with this one girl in highschool and quickly fell in love with her as most 16 year olds do. I made the mistake of being shy. When I only was infatuated with girls I never hesitate to move on it, but I didn't know what to do. I turned to goo when she looked at me. She had a crush on me at the same time which made it harder. I waited to late and she eventually started to look at other guys. When i did try and make moves it always seemed to be the wrong day and things failed. I missed my chance and she ended up with a guy who appeared to be perfect for her. I was extremely depressed but happy for her. After a high school I met my current girlfriend who I greatly love and can't picture my life with out her. She is the greatest piece of my life, it really wouldn't work without her and I don't wish to be without her. I have always stayed friends with the old friend and recently her relationship has come to a horrible end and was inappropriately treated. I have noticed I really don't feel any different about her than I did almost 7 years ago. I am in love with her and I am pretty sure I always will be but I won't ever be with her. I love the girl I am with and dream of the day i have children with her and grow old. i believe there is only one person you should be with but have come to realize I fall in love easily even if nothing will come of it. I Love my girlfriend and i can never tell her that I am in love with someone else.
     
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    Yeah I'm working on it. Pain in the ass if you ask me. We've been friends for 4 years and absolutely no feelings between us. She's always had b/fs, I've always had g/fs. We get along great, can talk about anything, lots in common, she makes me laugh and vice versa, both of us are attractive. I mean literally no reason for us not to have dated before but somehow neither of us was feeling it.

    Low and behold, a few months ago i see her for the first time in over a year and realize I reeeeeeeally missed this girl. Wasn't sure why at first, all I knew was I missed her. That's not to say I wasn't happy to see some of my other friends but it was different. It was deeper. Anyway, I was cutting the grass one day when it hit me: I've got feelings for her. Never ever ever have I fallen for a friend before. Ever. That's why we're friends! Cuz I feel nothing. Unlike all my past relationships, I know everything about this girl already and know we would be amazing together.

    Why didn't I see it before? 4 years of being friends and talking her through all the bad relationships. Now, when she has what seems to be a good b/f for the first time ever, I gotta have more than friendly thoughts about her. I can't tell her what's up cuz it'll risk the good relationship she's currently in. I care about the girl soooooo much and I don't want that to happen. Don't want to not be friends with her, either. If she knew what I was yearning for (tired of using the word "feeling"), things between us would invariably become awkward. No avoiding that. If she wasn't a best friend I could chance it but that's not the case. I don't have a problem with getting shot down. Losing the girl I would normally talk to after getting shot down, however, is a big gamble.
     
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    That's lovely, Jon ... especially the fact that you're still great friends. (These things, as you know, often have tricky endings.)
    Sounds almost like a soul mate thing.
    Maybe this experience explains your apparent openness to so many kinds of people.
     
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    I have a female friend that everyone (including her) thinks I'm in love with
    I don't know if I am but I don't think I am
    but I know that I do love her and care deeply for her
    but one thing, she dosn't give a damn what people think, EXCEPT it bothers her when she hears people say they think we have something going on

    now, she tends to get really mad when someone says something that is 'a little too close to home'

    so I'm wondering if maybe she has a feeling or two she hasn't admitted
    wondering, or am I hoping lol
     
  14. B_Hung Jon

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    Sounds like she's afraid to think about you two being intimate physically or sexually. She maybe has some idea of your "pure" friendship and that doesn't include getting into bed with each other.
     
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    i'm in love with two of my friends. one is the boy next door who's been my friend since time, even though we don't get to talk alot, and the other one is my dream girl from high school. i had a crush on her in high school, and recently we've started talking again...she's away in school though and i really don't get to talk to her much....
     
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    some many think I am in love with my best friend and sometimes I question myself about it, but I do adore him out of all the guys in my life that are friends he is the one I could go to no matter what
     
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    That's cuz you looooooooooove him :07:
     
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    I adore him and love him as a friend lol if I was in love well I would act on it
     
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