Okay so me and a pal have both been in straight relationships (marriage) but have both recently separated from partners. 'Discovered' each other after many beers and I now have feelings for this guy which won't go away. We are both hiding stuff from everyone but he is more dismissive of me and stuff afterwards like not acknowledging what happened the night before, then coming round using my PC to look up birds on various websites. Both of us like the lady bits but can't get our hands of each other on a Friday night! I am close to his family and any revelation would be devestating to him and his family but we both know what we like. Should we keep our stuff secret and keep having happy nights or do I knock it on the head and spend the rest of my (our) lives in secret?