Here’s the deal:
- I’m in a relationship of 5 years. I love him, but I don’t think I’m IN LOVE with him.
- I have a crush on my best friend, whom I work with.
- He has a boyfriend that he’s very committed to.
- His boyfriend is insanely jealous, and told me that I’m the only other person he texts all the time.
- My read is that he really values our friendship, but isn’t interested. He’s definitely sent mixed signals, but I don’t know how much of it is me reading into things.
- I thought I could compartmentalize my feelings.
- He and I are on a trip to Europe together, and it’s been WAY harder than I thought…to the point where I don’t know if I’m going to be able to just be his friend. I’m seriously considering telling him how I feel.
- If I don’t tell him how I feel, I’ll always wonder “what if?” And maybe go crazy from the angst.
- If I do tell him how I feel, he could tell his BF who may tell mine…I don’t know if he’d keep it from his BF.
- If I do tell him it might also help me get over him, or at least put some space between us without him thinking I’m giving him the cold shoulder for some reason.
- I don’t think he would be likely to end our friendship, but it would definitely change things…and maybe complicate work (but probably not, he’s super mature). We talked about a previous friend he had who had a crush on him that he wasn’t into, so I know he’s been okay with something similar before