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Yes I know it’s a cliche. I’m into my friend that I have known for about a year now. We know each other through a mutual friend and we are co-workers. In the last year, our friendship has grown rapidly and it kinda has that “Unnatural closeness” to it. Our friends and co-workers see it and one time a co-worker called me out on my feelings for him, even tho she thinks I’m straight and said: “Yup, I think he likes him.” To which my crush replied, “I like what she’s thinking.” I was too embarrassed to say anything and let the conversation drop.

My feelings got to the point I came out to him. He smiled and said it’s okay nothing will change. So far nothing has. Except lately he has been texting more, which is unusual because everyone that knows him knows he sucks at texting. However, he has been texting me around midnight and we’ll text about work or common shows until 4 am.

When we first met and started to become friends I felt that magnetic look in his eyes a few times when we made eye contact. One time at the bar I even put on a fancy button-up shirt to see his reaction and he kinda stared at me and looked stargazed.

Here is the worst part I even saw under one of his common gay friends pics he comments “Wow, look at that ass!” And likes all and only his ass pics. My crush also uses a lot of gay terms sometimes, such as “thicck” or He’ll joke and say Thor or the Hulk is sexy or daddy. He’s not too feminine but he is kinda the pretty boy type.

So, it makes me wonder if he is into to me too. I want to confess my feelings, but I really don’t want to risk losing a friend. Do you guys think there is a chance?
 
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There's always a chance.
There's also the chance he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
Looking at it like this the odds are 50/50.

Go for it.
Be bold.
Be as hot, sexy, loveable and hot as you can be and charm the pants of this guy. :cool:

As long as you're in love this is not a balanced friendship. Pursuing a romantic or sexual relationship will end that one way or the other.
 
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There's always a chance.
There's also the chance he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
Looking at it like this the odds are 50/50.

Go for it.
Be bold.
Be as hot, sexy, loveable and hot as you can be and charm the pants of this guy. :cool:

As long as you're in love this is not a balanced friendship. Pursuing a romantic or sexual relationship will end that one way or the other.
Thanks for the advice. I really hope he does.
 
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Thanks for the response. That also what I was thinking.

He hasn't done anything that a good straight friend wouldn't do. Perhaps you confiding in him has made you closer in his mind because you showed trust in him, but I can't say it's anything sexual.

Unless he shows some kind of gay sexual feelings, I'd avoid making it weird/uncomfortable and lose him as a friend.
 
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He hasn't done anything that a good straight friend wouldn't do. Perhaps you confiding in him has made you closer in his mind because you showed trust in him, but I can't say it's anything sexual.

Unless he shows some kind of gay sexual feelings, I'd avoid making it weird/uncomfortable and lose him as a friend.

I disagree.
In the end it's not our call. Still a 50/50 situation IMO.
 
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I disagree.
In the end it's not our call. Still a 50/50 situation IMO.
I also agree with both of you and that’s why this situation is hard. I thought by telling him I was gay he would open up about his sexuality if he was interested in guys as gay or bi. But he never has so I kinda feel like maybe he is just being a good straight friend. However, maybe because our friendship is kinda new he doesn’t want to rock the boat or is just scared to say anything. Everybody comes out in their own time.
 
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What do you think about his habit of him texting me late at night?

I'm not a mind reader so I think you should ask him.
Preferably with your cock down his throat so you can remind him it's not polite to talk with his mouth full... Sorry. I'm wicked :imp:

Seriously though:
Talking about this to anyone else won't solve your dilemma.
There's only one way to find out what his motivation is and that's by making a move. Even if you would ask him his answer might not be that clear because. A lot of guys are not 100% gay, or even 100% bi you know. Thinks can be fluid.
He might love you back or not... And that's what this is about, not if he's gay, bi or straight.

@Brodie888 has got a point though, like you already said and know you could lose a friendship.

But on the other hand perhaps the friendship can withstand a bit of boat rocking.
And how true a friend are you, when you want him romantically?
If you want to be his friend, you'll have to get this crush out of your system. So I still say: make your best move and may the Gods be with you.

Even when he breaks your heart, it wil heal... :broken_heart:
It might not feel like it, but trust me when I say it will. Only hearts made of stone break beyond all hope of healing. (And even then there's probably a metaphorical glue to put it back together again).

And after the healing you still might end up with him as en even better friend with no lies that stand in between the two of you.

 
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That would suck. But honestly I think I would just be happy telling him how I really feel about him.
Are you sure that'd do it?
To make you happy?

Wouldn't you want to hear him say he's in love with you too?
Or better still: hold you in his undoubtedly strong arms, pulling your body against his...?
 

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Are you sure that'd do it?
To make you happy?

Wouldn't you want to hear him say he's in love with you too?
Or better still: hold you in his undoubtedly strong arms, pulling your body against his...?
Hell yes that would make me ten times happier. But I just meant I would be okay with just telling him how I feel and just getting it off my chest.
 
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Hell yes that would make me ten times happier. But I just meant I would be okay with just telling him how I feel and just getting it off my chest.
I lied earlier.
Actually I can read minds. ;)

Seems like you made a choice. Good for you!
 

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Are you sure that'd do it?
To make you happy?

Wouldn't you want to hear him say he's in love with you too?
Or better still: hold you in his undoubtedly strong arms, pulling your body against his...?
Me and him never actually had a conversation about me being gay. It was in the middle of work and he smiled and told me nothing will change. Thing is he never brought it up. We have talked about gays in general and he says what they do doesn’t bother him. But I never got the in-depth conversation about it to feel out that maybe he has feelings for guys too.