I need help. I have worked with a black guy for about 10 years, and have always had a crush on him. I am white, gay (he doesn't know) and he is straight. I own the company so he is my employee. I really like him and care about him so I have learned to keep my feelings private, not wanting to complicate things. Plus, don't want to harass an employee. Now the company is being sold and he is going to stay on and I am going to leave. I am really sad that I can't take my relationship with him to another level and that we really aren't friends outside of work. He has never had a girlfriend and is a real loner, so I imagine myself with him in bed, I would only be the gay fuck buddy or something, but he would hold on to his straight identity. Maybe he is bi? Black guys help me out here, is it possible he is just incredibly discrete? What should I do? Should I tell him? Should I invite him out to dinner and get him drunk? HELP!