In my first Gay relationship, need advice!

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Roderick Beresford Stiffington IV, Nov 7, 2007.

  1. D_Roderick Beresford Stiffington IV

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    So I was in a Yahoo chat room one night just to get my rocks off I guess, and I had a nice talk with a guy who lived in CA and told me a site called adam4adam.com, so I joined it...made a profile, I got a lot of responses mainly from people looking for NSA sex, which I wasn't interested in. Ever since I broke up with my exgf I knew I wanted my next relationship to be with a guy. It's been almost a year so I was waiting for the right person, not rushing to find anyone.

    So I met this really cute korean guy, he's only been in this country 9 months and only speaking english for about a year, but he speaks it well enough. He's extremely nice, generous, gentle, etc. The interesting thing is he has only had one boyfriend himself, and was cheated on also like my exgf did to me, so I guess we have an understanding of the pain associated with that. After a lot of talks we also both like sex but realize it isn't the most important thing in a relationship, neither of us was looking for a fuck buddy.

    So anyway, I've fooled around with only one guy in my life, and it never went past oral. I know I saw the posts somewhere about the proper way to uh...clean yourself, down below. I tried searching but failed (Sad for an ex-mod, I know). Also from the things I read, properly preparing for anal involves watching what you eat the day before or so? So how does a couple spontaneously have sex?

    Lastly, my boyfriend of about 5 days now has pretty much taken the lead on everything since I guess he knows I'm nervous and unexperienced when it comes to guys. He's the one who asked me out, he kissed me first knowing I was nervous, etc. I kind of wanted to surprise him taking the initiative sexually, but what should I do and when? I personally hated my exgf because I had to take the lead on everything, but I don't want to do anything too soon.
     
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    B_Hung Jon New Member

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    Hey bro
    Tell your boyfriend what you're feeling about not knowing what's up. The honesty will bring you closer together. Trust me.
     
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    Just relax with your boyfriend. Have fun, laugh, find humor in everything in the world (including sex).

    Remember guys are always horny, sex is for fun! Have a lot of fun with your boyfriend.

    I've found if you're not sexually compatible you're not socially compatible.

    My relations with my wife and my boy friends all began because we enjoyed having sex together very much! OUr mutual enjoyment of having sex with each other led to all the wonderful growth in our relationships as mates, lovers and friends.

    Don't let the puritans tell you emotional commitment equals a satisfying
    sexual relationship. Hot bodies on hot people equal great sex. Go for it!

    Go for it on every level, and relax and enjoy it. That will help you boyfriend do the same.
     
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    Hey Orbitz...just to parrot what others have already said...take it as it comes. Don't be hard on yourself...good relationships are based on good communication. He might be just as nervous as you.

    Good luck with the relationship and do keep us informed!!
     
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    How awesome! I vaguely remember the thread but not where it lies. Good luck and I want to hear all about it... luv yah
     
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    I totally agree. It will ease any nervous tension if you talk to him. He'll probably laugh and say he feels the same way. Another thought: You don't have to start out with the most intimate sex the first time. Work up to it. You can do some great things with mutual masturbation and oral. Save fucking as the grand prize and let the anticipation build.

    You're a really cute guy and I hope that your new friend and you hit it off famously! Good luck!
     
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