So this is going to be a long one and I'll sum it up as quickly as possible, but here goes.
About two years ago my best friend at the time (I had known the guy for over ten years, we first met when we were 10) came on to me. I had known he was bisexual and had no problem with it whatsoever, then one day I get this e-mail from him basically saying he is attracted to me and so on. I was not interested whatsoever, I'm just not into guys, and I was diplomatic about the whole thing, just wanted to forget about it and ignore the elephant in the living room so to speak. A few days later he and I were hanging out and apparently it was still on his mind and he starts begging me to let him suck my dick and how he'll make me cum and how much he loves my big dick and so on. I was completely horrified. I am a very prudish person in general and frankly it was bad form what he did. I didn't know how to react, I wasn't going to call him a faggot and kick his ass, I just don't think like that. I just got up, left the house and got in my car and drove away, all the while he is begging me to fuck him and let him suck me off.
Well it was pretty much impossible to not hang out with him. We shared a lot of the same friends, went to a lot of the same restaurants/clubs etc and it was impossible for me not to run into him. I still thought of him as a "friend", but I felt very betrayed. I've known him since I was 10, how long was he thinking about sleeping with me? It creeped me out. So we still hung out, none of our friends in common had any idea what had happened between us.
I eventually joined the military less than a year later, I just had to get away from all the bullshit, and I never really said "bye" to him. Basically I told all my friends that I was leaving a few weeks later than when I actually was, in effect I just vanished. I've been gone from home now for a couple of years and haven't spoken with this person since I've been gone. When I was home on leave before I kept running into people that the both of us knew and they were all like, "yeah he's really been wondering about you, you should give him a call and hang out, or we're having a party you should come by, so and so will be there" and basically I have to blow all of them off because they don't know what happened between us.
Now I'm going home on leave very soon and I don't really know what I should do. I really miss hanging out with some of these people but I can't really hang out with them without seeing my "friend". Then at the same time I really miss the friendship I had with this person, but I also felt very, very hurt by what he did and very betrayed. The chances of me running into him or other people we have in common is very good when I'm home on leave, I just don't know what I should do. I really do miss hanging out with a lot of them, also I ask myself if my feelings towards the actions of my "friend" are unreasonable. I really don't know. Any advice on the matter would be greatly appreciated, I need some different perspectives on this. Thanks.
About two years ago my best friend at the time (I had known the guy for over ten years, we first met when we were 10) came on to me. I had known he was bisexual and had no problem with it whatsoever, then one day I get this e-mail from him basically saying he is attracted to me and so on. I was not interested whatsoever, I'm just not into guys, and I was diplomatic about the whole thing, just wanted to forget about it and ignore the elephant in the living room so to speak. A few days later he and I were hanging out and apparently it was still on his mind and he starts begging me to let him suck my dick and how he'll make me cum and how much he loves my big dick and so on. I was completely horrified. I am a very prudish person in general and frankly it was bad form what he did. I didn't know how to react, I wasn't going to call him a faggot and kick his ass, I just don't think like that. I just got up, left the house and got in my car and drove away, all the while he is begging me to fuck him and let him suck me off.
Well it was pretty much impossible to not hang out with him. We shared a lot of the same friends, went to a lot of the same restaurants/clubs etc and it was impossible for me not to run into him. I still thought of him as a "friend", but I felt very betrayed. I've known him since I was 10, how long was he thinking about sleeping with me? It creeped me out. So we still hung out, none of our friends in common had any idea what had happened between us.
I eventually joined the military less than a year later, I just had to get away from all the bullshit, and I never really said "bye" to him. Basically I told all my friends that I was leaving a few weeks later than when I actually was, in effect I just vanished. I've been gone from home now for a couple of years and haven't spoken with this person since I've been gone. When I was home on leave before I kept running into people that the both of us knew and they were all like, "yeah he's really been wondering about you, you should give him a call and hang out, or we're having a party you should come by, so and so will be there" and basically I have to blow all of them off because they don't know what happened between us.
Now I'm going home on leave very soon and I don't really know what I should do. I really miss hanging out with some of these people but I can't really hang out with them without seeing my "friend". Then at the same time I really miss the friendship I had with this person, but I also felt very, very hurt by what he did and very betrayed. The chances of me running into him or other people we have in common is very good when I'm home on leave, I just don't know what I should do. I really do miss hanging out with a lot of them, also I ask myself if my feelings towards the actions of my "friend" are unreasonable. I really don't know. Any advice on the matter would be greatly appreciated, I need some different perspectives on this. Thanks.