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Me and my g/f split up about 6 weeks ago. She almost straight after started dating another guy. She apparently split up with him last week. Last week I got a few texts from her asking to meet up for sex. We had a healthy sex life. I didn't meet up with her. Now she has un friended me on Facebook and has left me a screwed up. One minute she wants to meet up, then she doesn't and now she doesn't even want to speak to me.

It's left my head messed up and I don't know what to do for the best?

What would you do?

Many Thanks.
 

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Drop her. No need to be getting stressed. Give yourself a positive free mind. Remove negativity from your life that'd drag you down.
 

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Agreed!... Forget about her. Negitive energy will only keep fou feeling like shit. Move on to bigger and better things. Dont ever let anyone bring you down. No one has the right to make you feel bad or poorly. I know its easier said than done but you have to try and forget about her and try to move forward with your life and be happy doing so!
 

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Not to mention you never deserve to be second in anyone's life. You two break up, she starts up with someone else immediately, that ends, and now she wants you available at her beckon call? To be frank- FUCK THAT. Especially when she plays the five year-old card(if you don't play my way then I'm taking my ball and going home!) after you decline. Those, my friend, are the actions of a user. Stay as far away from that as you can. Unless you want to find yourself in this same situation six weeks down the road...

You know what you need to do; now do it.
 

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These guys are right. You're better off without her.

I'm no mind reader, but here's my best guess on how things went for her.

Dump nes.

Don't like being alone.

Find other guy.

Dump/get dumped by him.

Either:

A) Miss nes. Try to get back with him. Get (justifiably) ignored by him. Feel bad about self; turn that into anger at nes for being an asshole rather than continue to feel bad about self. Unfriend him and cut him off.

or (slightly more cynical, but equally plausible)

B) Don't like being alone. Need to feel validated and beautiful. Maybe I could get nes to fuck me and make me feel good.

Try to use nes for personal gain, get (rightly) ignored. Feel un-validated and unattractive. Feel ashamed. Get angry, blame nes, punish him for being an asshole by unfriending him and cutting him off. Feel no better about self.

I'm sure there are other interpretations, but in my experience, these are the most common lines of thought for ex-gfs/bfs who impulsively get into relationships and try to get back with their exes.

Don't let her mess with your head, dude. It's not about you. It's about her. Keep moving on.
 

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She has no regard for you, but thought she could use you as and when wanted. You didn't do what she wanted, so she dumped you a second time.

Stay well away, she's bad news.
 

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She almost straight after started dating another guy. She apparently split up with him last week.

What would you do?

every posters comments, plus
above is selective i know but
i would never have contemplated getting back with her despite having had a healthy sex life
be thankful she has dropped you from fb, i reckon ..
 

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When she unfriended you she really did you a favor cause you clearly aren't friends.
Keep on going and don't look back
She likely will try further swings from nasty to nice but just color her nasty and move on
Not to be trusted so don't give her the opportunity to mess with your mind
 

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Don't continue having sex with her, especially if you still have feelings. She left you for somebody else and now she wants sex that they're split up? Bullshit. Now is your time to seek your revenge and drop her like she did you.
 

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You dfinately did the right thing by turning her down, the way she acted. Remember, you broke up for a reason, and that reason(s) likely still exist. Like others said, she did you a favor by getting pissy and unfreinding you and all. Lets you move on without some psycho ex stalker ruining your life.
 

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Been there been used like that. LISTEN to what everyone is telling you. Let her go. There are many, many more fish in the sea. You do not need this one. Poison. YES, it will be hard, but in a few days you will feel better, in a few weeks better yet, and in a few months you will be banging someone else and she will not matter. If you let someone continue to pull your strings, you become their puppet and they are in control. Cut the strings and do what YOU want. Ex sex is NOT EVER a good thing unless you parted friends. THAT does not happen often.