In The Closet

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by readytocum, May 19, 2009.

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How many married, knowing they we're gay or bi

  1. Knew, but had to married because of family

    38.9%
  2. Knew after been married

    16.7%
  3. Always been bi, and partners knew it

    38.9%
  4. How many split because of that situation

    11.1%
  1. readytocum

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    Hi been gay all my life, with the exception of one sex realation with a female.

    Wondering, how many married and found out after
    married knowing it.
     
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    I don't think your poll quite covers all the options.

    I always new I was gay/bi/whatever but fell in love with a woman. While she was not my prefered gender, we had a great life (including sex) for almost 30 years. While I always knew, she did not find out until the last 3 years of our marriage.

    (And yeah, I realize I am far from the norm. Most gay married men did it becuase "it was the right thing to do")
     
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    Since I don't qualify, I'm answering for my bf who married his wife in his late 20s having never had sex with a man and claiming he had no idea he was gay. For reasons particular to him (not the least of which is that he had also only had sex with one woman, twice, prior to his wife despite being a very good looking, popular guy) I find it difficult to believe he wasn't in a lot of sexual denial.

    However, he believes he didn't know he was gay until 10 years later and would have stayed married to his wife if she hadn't disliked sex so much, which he had come to like a lot. Once it was clear they were incompatible, however, and he was ready to move on, it wasn't women he realized he wanted to move on to. And the rest is history.
     
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    Nick, get out of the closet. You are messing up my clothes.
     
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    Oh, hoots, don't be silly. You know I don't wear dresses.
     
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    I've always been out to my partners or whoever I got into a relationship with and I am out to friends and family.
     
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    Never been married and love to stay as a single.
     
  8. D_Bob_Crotchitch

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    Don't make me post that photo of you in the black leather halter and denim mini-skirt.
     
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    I said dresses.

    I think I look fetching in that pic.
     
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    I'll fetch you my pretty. Hmm fetch, should we do it doggie style?
     
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    Knew when I married. Marriage lasted 15 years, then I came out. Now with partner 23 years this month.
     
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