In your opinion...

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  1. Symphonic

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    In your opinion does cunnilingus, or "eating pussy", take immense amounts of skill? I've heard many tales of males who can't do it right, but it doesn't seem all that difficult to me.
     
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    I've never done it myself but I have had enough men who were quite adept in that area to assume it must be easy. That one guy that sucked at it though, he really sucked at it. :mad: I guess like anything else some people are good at it and others aren't.
     
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    Some don't know what they are doing, and it shows.

    I've been the recipient and the giver. I think the main thing is to be consistent. If your lady is reacting pleasurably to what you are doing, the motion, the rhythm, the force/intensity, don't stop! And hold on really tight when she's going to cum. I know when I start bucking, I can't help it and if a guy loses me, the orgasm is not as intense.

    So...consistency is not hard.
     
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    I've had good and not so good. Have a friend that didn't really want sex, he just wanted to eat pussy. He was so good at it that I considered marriage to him just so that he could do that to me all the time. He was the first one to get me to let go of the fear of peeing and made me squirt - for about 2 days straight (with breaks for naps and food).

    Had another man that I really liked start to go down on me and flip my legs around like they were in the way. He paid no attention to my body's response or how what he was doing affected me in anyway. I got up and went home.

    Some are good at it - and it's usually the men that can't get enough of it.
     
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    To be fair, when a girl starts to buck you either have to pin her down or really shakje your head around like a fool. She could easily break your teeth!
     
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    This is true I had 2 central incisors and my tonsils knocked out from the bucking rampage of a very excitable dowager from Monmouth County, NJ.
    I hate that when it happens.
     
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    I honestly think there are quite a few men who wouldn't know what a clitoris looked like if it literally slapped them in the face.

    Also, the sensitivity of the clit varies dramatically, so what works for one women doesn't for another. Men need to be sensitive to that or they're either going to be unable to get their woman off because they don't do enough or cause a lot of pain when they go too hard.
     
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    Gotta agree with Jennuine73. If she starts to moan, don't switch it up on her. Stay the coarse and hold on tight! I think we guys sometimes think that we need to perform like a porn star when all we need to do is to KISS – Keep It Simple Stupid!
     
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    The love button is the only hard thing down there (hopefully). It's hard to believe that you can't find it! Maybe it's higher up than many guys realize. I think that many guys assume that it's just above the vagina, or actually in the vagina.

    Here's a trick: stick your finger in the vagina when she's on her back. The clit is about an inch North of that.

    Also, you don't need to open the labia major to get to the clit. It should be right there for the taking. Just rub it and you can tell from her reaction that you've found it.

    One more note: the clitoris is actually much bigger than was previously thought. The part that resembles a penis and becomes erect is only part of the clitoris. The clitoral nerves extent out much farther than just that area. So, again, it's really hard to miss it.
     
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    I once did an informal survey of all the women I knew around age 30 and up...

    It shocked me to find that 70% of them were married to men who could not give them an orgasm.

    I was shocked because- these were mostly people in my general age group... children of the sexual revolution who had access to innumerable articles and exposes, growing up, about women's sexual response, the clitoris, female orgasm, G-spots and the like.

    When all this info came out I guess I just assumed every other guy my age was boning up on this stuff as voraciously as I was...
    I had to come to the conclusion that a LOT of men are just plain lazy and self centered in bed.

    OF course... it doesn't help that many of the women I asked admitted to faking orgasms ... which is simply rewarding a guy for doing it wrong.


    You can be bad at easting pussy...
    IT requires the ability to sense the response of the woman you are with... there is a lot of variety in what feels good, from one womn to the next... different frequencies, pressures, and even positions... I have known women who could not stand DIRECT clitoral stimulation.... and others who wanted you to practically chew on them. I have known women who needed a brief refractory period between orgasms... and others who prefer non-stop stimulation until they hare having just one unending rolling orgasm...

    So the trick with any new lover is to be willing to pay attention, and if what you're doing doesn't seem to be getting them there, to experiment and vary and play until you chance upon the the thing that works for them.

    But that requires sensitivity to their physical cues... and determination.
     
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    Good god, man. You asked all the women you knew whether they were having regular orgasms with their husbands?

    What is wrong with you?
     
  12. Phil Ayesho

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    Women who know me tend to trust me.

    They talk about everything with me...
     
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    Fair enough.

    I'm certainly not asking the women I know from work how many orgasms their husbands are giving them, but maybe you live in a very different world from me.
     
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    When she grabs the back of your head and tries to shove your face inside her.. you know you're doing it right :biggrin1:
     
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    I've gotten compliments on my pussy-eating abilities before, and I start by treating my tongue as a feather, and then getting more regular and firmer with the strokes, especially on her clit. You can even growl or moan in such a way as to make your tongue vibrate against her, which can feel really good, too.
     
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    it seems like it would be alot more work than sucking a cock.
     
  17. Penis Aficionado

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    Maybe, but you don't have to worry about choking.
     
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    Oral sex on women is physically easier than sucking (not that I have ever sucked), because you lick and rub, which is not too strenuous. Every woman is different, some like it soft, some medium, some hard, some on different parts of their clits and so on. With a new partner you have to experiment a bit and read her body language to get it right. With a long-term partner, you should know exactly what to do.

    I suspect the 30-something women who don't orgasm may be married to men who haven't had so many prior partners, and don't really know what to do! The other thing that women CAN do is show and tell. Don't expect inexperienced men to know, because we all gotta start somewhere. I had a woman show me with her finger what she wanted me to do, and I duplicated that with my tongue and it worked. From then on, I had success with almost every girl I had sex with.
     
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    I find the guys who really enjoy doing it are the best.
    (btw, I really enjoy giving head :wink:)
     
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    I have given a lesbian and a straight girl their first orgasms from sex, including oral sex. Both had numerous male partners before me. I like going down on a girl, but yes, it helps to be in the mood for it. I know blowjobs suck when the other person is not into it, although my best blowjob was from a working lady over 15 years ago. (Best $20 I ever spent.) That said, I think sucking dick is easier than licking pussy, because I've done both. And it always helps if there is an emotional connection on both sides. Cause I'm a romantic. I've had sex with about 10 people, and even today I still have feelings for all of them, with the exception of the older boy who molested me.
     
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