I don't post often, but I have a problem and the anonymity and openness of the site, I suppose I finally feel comfortable asking for advice. I'm an other wise healthy, young, gay male and have many sexual encounters with quite a few men. I have been sexually active for about five years now and I have the problem that topping, bottoming, oral or otherwise I can't ejaculate when I am with someone. It isn't that I'm not turned on or attracted to my partners, it just doesn't happen. Sometimes I can get to a point where it feels like I should come at any moment but it just doesn't happen. It has happened maybe three or four times total and always by hand jobs with lube. My sexual partners have never really complained because other than perhaps a little bit of a scar to their ego (if they are invested enough into the situation to care one way or the other) they get off and all that, I make sure of it. However, it is troublesome to me, I mentioned it to my doctor and she said it was probably just psychological and I should work through it with my partners but that just doesn't seem to help. She assures me everything is fine since I can get off when masturbating and therefore it is strictly psychological. Does anybody else have, or as has anybody else had this problem? Are there any suggestions? It is very embarrassing for me and there is nothing that I would love more than to get off from a blowjob or from fucking somebody.