Inability to Maintain Erections

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  1. jimmyboy1012

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    I am twenty-seven years old an have been having difficulty maintaining an erection once I begin intercourse (with my girlfriend). I have no trouble whatsoever getting an erection during foreplay but once we begin intercourse I usually lose my erection within five to ten minutes. This includes oral stimulation as well. This is really irritating to me and occurs at least three out of four times. I do usually manage to maintain but it is usually after three or four attempts and a good two hours after we start. I really don't know what the cause is or what to do. I would appreciate any advice or possible explanations or solutions.
     
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    well i don't really have any experience with this but i would suggest you see your urologist
     
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    I can see yer problem mate, all the blood is going to your balls when you get an erection
    Get a cock ring man.. look what it does for me............

    Mike
     
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    Are your Girlfriend new because I had the same problem due to Nerves... Try so Relax, ore just go into the intercourse at once not so much foreplay. after you have preformed once you will relax and you can have longer Foreplay :smile:
    Good Luck :smile:
     
  5. jimmyboy1012

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    We have only been seeing each other like 5 weeks and sexually active about 2 weeks
     
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    Don't concern yourself about it, Jimmy. Once you are more relaxed and at ease with each other your erections will be OK. "Pressure to perform or impress or to be a great lover" is a powerful challenge to maintaining erections.
     
  7. jimmyboy1012

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    I hope that it is just nerves. I will admit that I have been under some stress about meeting her needs. Since it has happened a couple times now, it really puts some pressure on me. She has been more than understanding about it though.
     
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    How is your health? I used to be in very poor shape and even at a young age wasn't happy with my erections. Maybe losing a couple pounds, introducing some cardio exercises to your routine or just eating healthier will have a positive effect on your sex life. It worked very well for me, and even if the cause is something not related to those things you'll still be doing yourself a favor and find that you have more energy.
     
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    Stress and the pressure to perform, especially with a new gf, can really
    take a toll on the ole libido.... That happens to us all.

    If you were having problems ALL the time, and unable to get it up and
    perform at all, I would be worried, but since that is not the case, I would
    say it is stress that is your problem. I am glad your gf is understanding,
    and that will be a big help. She sounds like a keeper.....

    However, if your problem continues or gets worse, I would see a doctor.
    It might be diabetes, and if it is, you will want to take care of it.

    Good Luck...and good, strong, and long erections! :biggrin1:
     
  10. FuzzyKen

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    OK,
    The best of odds are with a situation commonly referred to as "performance anxiety". This will be especially true if you have not had a great deal of sexual experience.

    You need to take stock of your health because there is a very small chance that your minor bouts with E.D. can be a tip-off for some other condition such as blood pressure or borderline diabetes. This is a long-shot and odds are against it for the most part at age 27.

    One of the things that often happens these days with performance anxiety is that MD's hand one some sample packets of 50mg Viagra or some other really light duty ED drug. There is some controversy over these drugs, but their BEST usage is in fact situations like yours. If one really has ED, the orals are not all that great. They ARE great for situations like yours as an aid to get you past the anxiety point.

    Good Luck,

     
  11. jimmyboy1012

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    Just out of curiosity how much does viagra or cialis cost?
     
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    jimmy, when i was 21, i dated a 34 year old beautiful redhead lady.
    i am from a missionary family, so the guilt was THICK AND HEAVY!! GRIN>
    the nerves caused me a more than a few floppies, and she was GREAT about it. when one muscle did not work, she commandeered my fingers and my tongue!! hearing her orgasm from cunnilingus (eating her out) made me so fucking hard that i could get back in the saddle.
    funny part is, even today, as a bi man, i prefer to use the tongue and finger in foreplay, just to get the message to my nether muscle. and he wakes up, when that first shriek and shudder of a tongue induced female/male orgasm happens......
    remember, the penis is ONE of the god provided organs we have for joyful sexual encounters!!
     
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    These days most MD's have drawers full of the stuff and they give away free samples. Viagra and Cialis are not available in"generic" as yet. Viagra should be transferred over within the next couple of years as it was the first.

    There is no way to get you an exact price because it depends a great deal on what access you have to whom with regards to pharmaceuticals. If you belong to COSTCO it is about the cheapest on these meds. Viagra currently is averaging (last I heard) between $10-$12 dollars per pill. Most MD's get sample packets with either 2-3 pills in them. When it comes to this stuff you really have to shop if you get it with an Rx. The prices vary a great deal.
     
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    The same thing happened to me. It was psychological after a while. The worrying about whether it would happen brought it about. The only thing that helped me was an understanding girlfriend who was very good at giving head (and liked it also). Gradually, I stopped worrying about it because I knew she could help me get back up.
     
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    There is the rub, its probably just nerves. But since its happened once you have it in the back of your head and keep wondering, what if it happens again, and again?

    Just calm down and relax.
     
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    man I had this problem recently, my erection would go away 90% of the time.

    cut down the wanking and only ejaculate when your with her, you'll soon get so horny when your with her she wont know what hit her!
     
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    I think it's probably nerves too. Worst thing about nerves is that they compound the problem--you're already nervous, then your dick goes less-than-rigid and you get more nervous about not being able to satisfy her, and as a result it gets even more flaccid. It's probably just going to take some time for you to get fully comfortable with her. Hopefully she's understanding and it won't take long.
     
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