Inches don't mean anything!

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  1. D_flc01hbx

    D_flc01hbx New Member

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    Hi - have loved reading the posts on the site, this is my first contribution.

    Inches don't mean anything!

    Let me explain. Like lots of guys I have always had a bit of a hang-up about my size (probably not helped by not having my first experiences until my 20s for religious reasons - things were just left to be analysed and over analysed in my head).

    Like lots of you I did my reseach on the internet, average seems to be about 5.5-5.75 in length and about 5inches in girth - and then my research at home! I was about 7.5inches long and 6 around (at the widest part, 5 around at the base). All good so far.

    Had a few relationships, they both made unsolicited comments about my penis. One said "nothing to worry about there!" - in a complimentary tone and the other said that it was "thick in her experience". All good so far.

    I then started a long term relationship with a girl who never made any comment about my penis ever - and I didn't think very much of it (at the) time.

    About 6 months ago we had a very horny (and jocular) conversation about sex and we both started fishing around a bit for information about each other's ex's. Basically I wanted to know how I ranked in her experience size wise and tried to get the conversation round to that topic (I'm sure I'm not alone in doing this?).

    I explained my theory that women don't carry tape measures around with them haven't spent hours reseaching on the internet and that they are completely informed by their personal experiences. I said that if a woman's first partner or few partners are average sized if her next boyfriend had a 7inch penis she would probably think this was pretty big. On the flip side if her first boyfriend had a massive penis the next few would probably seem small.

    I joking said that knowing my luck (i had just scratched my car on a wall and damaged my shoulder in the gym - for background) her first boyfriend was probably hung like a donkey (fishing for details at this point!).

    She laughed and said that this was exactly her experience. Her first boyfriend was significantly bigger than any of the other 7 partners she has had (and he was over 10 years ago). She said that over the next few years at university she though that both of her boyfriends from that time seemed small (later she came to realise they were about average and what she could expect to find in most guy's tousers!).

    It all seemed to make sense - she hadn't commented becuase it probably seemed pretty normal to her. My precious 2 extra inches meant nothing!! because her perceptions were based on the frame of reference which started with Mr Big (not his real name!). The numbers meant nothing to her.

    I tried to find out how big Mr Big was, she couldn't say in inches but she said he was significantly bigger than all her next partners (including me) and that at first she though it would "split her sides" - which I took to mean that it was very thick indeed. The whole conversation was quite funny and this seemed to help on the honesty front (at times since then I think she has regretted being quite so candid - and I have told her that if we ever split up she shouldn't be too graphic if a future boyfriend asks her the same question!).

    Out of her 8 partners she said she thought that I was probably 3rd biggest. Ignoring Mr Bigg there was another guy who was "very thick" and maybe a "bit longer". However, she mentioned that her immediately previous boyfriend was quite a bit smaller than me (and she said had absolutely no hang-ups with it at all - good for him).

    We joked that it was better for my ego to be following her last boyfriend than Mr Bigg!

    Since we had the conversation the whole thing has been analysed in minute detail in my head and every time we talk about sex I end up almost involuntarily trying to fish for details about Mr Bigg and whether size matters to her.

    The closest I have got to any details is that she said it felt "different". In particular that her vagina (i think she meant her lips) would grip it more and be "sort of pushed in then pulled out" which she said "felt good".

    When pressed she has said that she thinks she was "quite pleased" when she saw mine for the first time.

    Here are my conclusions so far on the whole size thing:

    1. Unless you are above 9inches your wife or girfriend has probably had a bigger penis that you have (and for most of us she will have had a much bigger penis).

    2. Because of point 1 inches don't mean anything (but it is nice to know the stats even though her experience is the key thing).

    3. Bigger penises feel "different" and this different feeling is probably pleasurable for most women (to a point). This means I can take a bit of an ego boost from knowing that mine probably feels better than an average penis even if I have to live with the fact that a Mr Big might feel even better (conundrum is - I actually want size to matter because I am above average!).

    4. Despite point 3, penetration is only part of sex so keep things in perspective.

    I do have a question arising out of the conundrum at point 3, how sensitive to size differences is the vagina. i.e does a 5 and 6 inch penis pretty much feel the same? Does there need to be a significant difference in size for a woman to feel the difference (likely to be a different answer for every woman I imagine).

    My second question arises from the fact that my girfriend gets very (very) wet during sex - to the point of sometimes having to dry herself a little bit. It seems to me that this is bound to affect the sensation of me in her which might also be a factor in her considering me to be average size? (I really do slide in very easily due to her lubrication and this makes me wonder about the comments that Mr Big was very thick even more - when dry she seems reasonably tight). I was hoping some female posters might be able to help on this question - I assume it is not unique but mu girlfriend is a little sensistive about it.

    Thanks for reading.

    Stataboveav (for what it's worth!)








     
  2. D_Takensomme Thistlewhistle

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    Size doesn't really matter to most women during sex; however, they love to gaze at a large bulging cock bigger than most. I am 7" in length and 5.25 in girth and my wife takes it good. But during anal sex, it hurts her and sometimes I can't get it all in.

    I wish she would go down on me though.
     
  3. D_flc01hbx

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    Fireguy - have you ever had the fateful "how do I compare" conversation with your wife?
     
  4. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    I would like to raise the following issues:

    1. You say inches don't matter, yet you ask partners about their ex partners.


    Regarding your 'conclusions':

    1. Unless you are above 9inches your wife or girfriend has probably had a bigger penis that you have (and for most of us she will have had a much bigger penis).

    Not true. Given that most girls have 1-10 sexual partners.

    2. Because of point 1 inches don't mean anything (but it is nice to know the stats even though her experience is the key thing).

    The vagina is a small space. The more tightly 'packed' it is, the more sensation and feeling of 'fullness' a woman has. Therefore, inches do matter. But moreso girth inches than length inches.

    3. Bigger penises feel "different" and this different feeling is probably pleasurable for most women (to a point). This means I can take a bit of an ego boost from knowing that mine probably feels better than an average penis even if I have to live with the fact that a Mr Big might feel even better (conundrum is - I actually want size to matter because I am above average!).

    So you're saying inches do matter?

    4. Despite point 3, penetration is only part of sex so keep things in perspective.

    But still, penetration is the main event. And a "big" attraction makes it a better experience.

    I think you worry about this "Mr. Big" too much. I don't ask girls about their ex's. Although I enjoy what I have and I make sure my partners do too. Inches matter.

    Although I will say, people can only know (whether they like/dislike, love/hate) something that is within their experience; if a woman has only experienced average penises then obviously inches don't matter. But I think for a woman who has crossed over to the Large Side, inches will matter.

    It's Volume & Capacity...school all over again...
     
  5. Mule

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    You might want to look at the known statistics of penis size and revise that conclusion a little. Somewhere between 80% and 90% of guys fall into the 5" - 6" erect length range, meaning that unless you are within or close to that range yourself, the chances are that your partner has not been with a male that is larger than you. The larger you are, the less likely she is to have experienced a bigger one.

    From my own experience, every woman that I have been intimate with has said that I am the largest she has been with. These were unsolicited comments brought on by the first time they saw or felt me hard. Even though I'm not enormous (especially by LPSG standards), I remember reading somewhere that my size puts me at larger than 93% of the world population, so that result is not unexpected.

    Bear in mind that extremely large cocks (9" to 10" measured accurately) are very, VERY rare.
     
  6. B_andyo

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    Dude, a penis of only .5" bigger than urs and a bit more girth putted aside your will look at least 3 inches in your mind. :) The same thing happens if a penis is .5" smaller. Dont but that he was 9, 10 or 11 inches. I am not saying it wasn't possible it was 9 inches but to tell you the truth her first bf could had been only 7.5" or 8" at most with decent girth... it will look massive besides a 7" penis if u are bone pressing then u are 6's inches. but half an inch idoes make a big different !!!
     
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    and the posibilities ( noted by armymule) are very rare and been with only 7 guys makes it even more harder to believe since there are women with 25 experiences and non have bigger than 8"

    Now, some women, men the entire world population lies about it. She doesn't have it right there to compare in front of you and she may exaggerate because at that moment it was the biggest and then she only saw smaller ones whcih makes her exaggerate more!

    I would bet my dick and 2 balls that it wasn't bigger than 8" if you are really 7" think about it where other women ranked you.
     
  8. D_flc01hbx

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    You misunderstand me - I think that size matters - I am saying that inches are a meaningless number to my girlfriend.

    It doesn't make a difference that I am 7.5 inches - she doesn't think this is big because of the number she thinks this is average in her experience because her frame of reference is a much bigger penis.



     
  9. B_Think_Kink

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    Size matters in the sense that reading your font has become impossible. Way to turn off a potential reader.
     
  10. B_Demention

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    Yeah, I too think size is overrated. I mean, if she's a virgin she'll not know what to expect so it doesn't matter what you pull out. If she's had a few partners then the chances are quite high she's had a big one before. If she's had a lot of partners the chances are extremely high, and if nothing else she's no doubt seen porn and deemed those cocks to be reasonably normal-sized. Add to that guys everywhere and their bullshit size claims coming onto women and spouting their stupid hyperbole about what's in their pants to any woman who'll listen, and the whole thing starts to feel really trite. There's always someone richer, better looking, more hung. It never ends. Incidentally, you'd be surprised how many couples break up over stupid shit like this - ie. that she's had someone bigger in the past and the guy can't drop it. We need to just let dick size go. It's a plus, no more, no less.
     
  11. D_Keziah Binbanger

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    Absolutely right Kink!

    What I have to say about your long analysis on "Does size matters?" is that, everything depends on the size of both the penis and the vagina. I seriously think that, some people are just sexually incompatible. All penises are not made for all vaginas and all vaginas are not made for all penises. It's not a matter of "big" or "small". As iPods are coming in various sizes, colors and shapes, we come in various sizes, colors and shapes. We have to find the right size, color and shape that will fit with us.
     
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    fonts size matters more here... :)
     
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    I just thought : does anyone like my avatar? :( I havent received props.. :) lol
     
  14. D_Beatrice Bedpan

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    phew! that post took a long time to read...
    and I do think you have some valid points there...

    but to me size (length) does matter slightly...
    I like the feeling of a penis hitting the 'back' plus when it's on the thicker side, it feels great :biggrin1:
    other than that, a larger penis is only more aesthetically pleasing than a smaller one...

    my first couple of experiences were with 'bigger' guys (I'm talking 9 & 10inches) and this did skew my vision for future partners...
    but I think I did get lucky cos being a small chick, any size will work for me!
     
  15. uncut1234

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    what a stupid thread lol..
    so your saying every girl out there has had a 9-10 inch dick?!?!? HAHAHAH YEA RIGHT... this is a "big penis site" and there are BARELY ANY 9-10 inch dicks on here..ive seen a few that llook like they could be 9 uinches, but very very very very rarley, most girls will gawk at a 7-8 inch dick and say WOW HOLY SHIT THATS BIG... the fact is 9"+ dicks are extremely rare if you are measuring right... if i pull my balls back and measure along the bottom of my dick i too can get a close to 9" measurment, but what does that prove?... i have only seen a handfull of guys in my time that can truly prove it and measure up and show they are 9 inches...for mosxt people 7-8 inches is as big as they will ever see
     
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    My wifes ex had 11" measured on the top of the shaft. She has had two 9" guys and many 7" to 8". It's not uncommon to see 7 to 8 ". Just the facts, some can not deal with it.
     
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    While I think your story is bullshit, and I think you have issues, I will agree. Length alone is more common.
     
  18. Mule

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    While I'm not doubting your wife's account, that is just one person's experience, and is not representative of the wider population.

    It's not a matter of "some can not deal with it". The medical research on the subject states that, in general, somewhere around 90% of all penises are smaller than 7" in length.
     
  19. transformer_99

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    That may or may not be true just the same. If 10% are 7+, word of mouth spreads and even if the ladies haven't actually done those bigger ones, chances are they've pursued a glimpse of that portion of the male population. Then there's using a dildo or other object of larger dimensions, the internet makes it very easy to see bigger whether photoshopped or not. My personal opinion, a woman is not going to go out and tell you she's done everyone in town, but there's also a reason a lot of married women are strippers, even if they just sat on a bigger one for $ 20 bucks a grind, they've not only sampled the local selection, but every one that's flown in on a business trip or vacation. They have a good idea of what's available out there. The question is, are they ever going to tell you accurately, candidly or honestly ? Don't ask, don't tell, don't volunteer ? On the other hand, some women have it just as difficult to get action as their male counterparts. There are a lot of frustrated people wandering this planet.
     
  20. uncut1234

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    the way you guys talk about measurements, youd think every woman on the earth pulled out a ruler before sex and asked to take a measurement and log the results in her journal... lmfao... ive been with a good amount of girls, ive had blowjobs from at least 25-30 girls,.,, and not ONE has asked "can ii measure it?"// its more like... wow nice dick,, and thats that... aside from the few REAL woman that you might find on here. most girls dont give a fuck how many inches long your penis is, they just care if you are fucking them right and making them cum... i have a friend with a real , verified, 10 inches, yet his ex gf would cheat on him every pother week with a new guy... and the one she left him for has a below average dick from what ive heard from girls who have hooked up with h im...
     
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