Hi - have loved reading the posts on the site, this is my first contribution.
Inches don't mean anything!
Let me explain. Like lots of guys I have always had a bit of a hang-up about my size (probably not helped by not having my first experiences until my 20s for religious reasons - things were just left to be analysed and over analysed in my head).
Like lots of you I did my reseach on the internet, average seems to be about 5.5-5.75 in length and about 5inches in girth - and then my research at home! I was about 7.5inches long and 6 around (at the widest part, 5 around at the base). All good so far.
Had a few relationships, they both made unsolicited comments about my penis. One said "nothing to worry about there!" - in a complimentary tone and the other said that it was "thick in her experience". All good so far.
I then started a long term relationship with a girl who never made any comment about my penis ever - and I didn't think very much of it (at the) time.
About 6 months ago we had a very horny (and jocular) conversation about sex and we both started fishing around a bit for information about each other's ex's. Basically I wanted to know how I ranked in her experience size wise and tried to get the conversation round to that topic (I'm sure I'm not alone in doing this?).
I explained my theory that women don't carry tape measures around with them haven't spent hours reseaching on the internet and that they are completely informed by their personal experiences. I said that if a woman's first partner or few partners are average sized if her next boyfriend had a 7inch penis she would probably think this was pretty big. On the flip side if her first boyfriend had a massive penis the next few would probably seem small.
I joking said that knowing my luck (i had just scratched my car on a wall and damaged my shoulder in the gym - for background) her first boyfriend was probably hung like a donkey (fishing for details at this point!).
She laughed and said that this was exactly her experience. Her first boyfriend was significantly bigger than any of the other 7 partners she has had (and he was over 10 years ago). She said that over the next few years at university she though that both of her boyfriends from that time seemed small (later she came to realise they were about average and what she could expect to find in most guy's tousers!).
It all seemed to make sense - she hadn't commented becuase it probably seemed pretty normal to her. My precious 2 extra inches meant nothing!! because her perceptions were based on the frame of reference which started with Mr Big (not his real name!). The numbers meant nothing to her.
I tried to find out how big Mr Big was, she couldn't say in inches but she said he was significantly bigger than all her next partners (including me) and that at first she though it would "split her sides" - which I took to mean that it was very thick indeed. The whole conversation was quite funny and this seemed to help on the honesty front (at times since then I think she has regretted being quite so candid - and I have told her that if we ever split up she shouldn't be too graphic if a future boyfriend asks her the same question!).
Out of her 8 partners she said she thought that I was probably 3rd biggest. Ignoring Mr Bigg there was another guy who was "very thick" and maybe a "bit longer". However, she mentioned that her immediately previous boyfriend was quite a bit smaller than me (and she said had absolutely no hang-ups with it at all - good for him).
We joked that it was better for my ego to be following her last boyfriend than Mr Bigg!
Since we had the conversation the whole thing has been analysed in minute detail in my head and every time we talk about sex I end up almost involuntarily trying to fish for details about Mr Bigg and whether size matters to her.
The closest I have got to any details is that she said it felt "different". In particular that her vagina (i think she meant her lips) would grip it more and be "sort of pushed in then pulled out" which she said "felt good".
When pressed she has said that she thinks she was "quite pleased" when she saw mine for the first time.
Here are my conclusions so far on the whole size thing:
1. Unless you are above 9inches your wife or girfriend has probably had a bigger penis that you have (and for most of us she will have had a much bigger penis).
2. Because of point 1 inches don't mean anything (but it is nice to know the stats even though her experience is the key thing).
3. Bigger penises feel "different" and this different feeling is probably pleasurable for most women (to a point). This means I can take a bit of an ego boost from knowing that mine probably feels better than an average penis even if I have to live with the fact that a Mr Big might feel even better (conundrum is - I actually want size to matter because I am above average!).
4. Despite point 3, penetration is only part of sex so keep things in perspective.
I do have a question arising out of the conundrum at point 3, how sensitive to size differences is the vagina. i.e does a 5 and 6 inch penis pretty much feel the same? Does there need to be a significant difference in size for a woman to feel the difference (likely to be a different answer for every woman I imagine).
My second question arises from the fact that my girfriend gets very (very) wet during sex - to the point of sometimes having to dry herself a little bit. It seems to me that this is bound to affect the sensation of me in her which might also be a factor in her considering me to be average size? (I really do slide in very easily due to her lubrication and this makes me wonder about the comments that Mr Big was very thick even more - when dry she seems reasonably tight). I was hoping some female posters might be able to help on this question - I assume it is not unique but mu girlfriend is a little sensistive about it.
Thanks for reading.
Stataboveav (for what it's worth!)
Inches don't mean anything!
Let me explain. Like lots of guys I have always had a bit of a hang-up about my size (probably not helped by not having my first experiences until my 20s for religious reasons - things were just left to be analysed and over analysed in my head).
Like lots of you I did my reseach on the internet, average seems to be about 5.5-5.75 in length and about 5inches in girth - and then my research at home! I was about 7.5inches long and 6 around (at the widest part, 5 around at the base). All good so far.
Had a few relationships, they both made unsolicited comments about my penis. One said "nothing to worry about there!" - in a complimentary tone and the other said that it was "thick in her experience". All good so far.
I then started a long term relationship with a girl who never made any comment about my penis ever - and I didn't think very much of it (at the) time.
About 6 months ago we had a very horny (and jocular) conversation about sex and we both started fishing around a bit for information about each other's ex's. Basically I wanted to know how I ranked in her experience size wise and tried to get the conversation round to that topic (I'm sure I'm not alone in doing this?).
I explained my theory that women don't carry tape measures around with them haven't spent hours reseaching on the internet and that they are completely informed by their personal experiences. I said that if a woman's first partner or few partners are average sized if her next boyfriend had a 7inch penis she would probably think this was pretty big. On the flip side if her first boyfriend had a massive penis the next few would probably seem small.
I joking said that knowing my luck (i had just scratched my car on a wall and damaged my shoulder in the gym - for background) her first boyfriend was probably hung like a donkey (fishing for details at this point!).
She laughed and said that this was exactly her experience. Her first boyfriend was significantly bigger than any of the other 7 partners she has had (and he was over 10 years ago). She said that over the next few years at university she though that both of her boyfriends from that time seemed small (later she came to realise they were about average and what she could expect to find in most guy's tousers!).
It all seemed to make sense - she hadn't commented becuase it probably seemed pretty normal to her. My precious 2 extra inches meant nothing!! because her perceptions were based on the frame of reference which started with Mr Big (not his real name!). The numbers meant nothing to her.
I tried to find out how big Mr Big was, she couldn't say in inches but she said he was significantly bigger than all her next partners (including me) and that at first she though it would "split her sides" - which I took to mean that it was very thick indeed. The whole conversation was quite funny and this seemed to help on the honesty front (at times since then I think she has regretted being quite so candid - and I have told her that if we ever split up she shouldn't be too graphic if a future boyfriend asks her the same question!).
Out of her 8 partners she said she thought that I was probably 3rd biggest. Ignoring Mr Bigg there was another guy who was "very thick" and maybe a "bit longer". However, she mentioned that her immediately previous boyfriend was quite a bit smaller than me (and she said had absolutely no hang-ups with it at all - good for him).
We joked that it was better for my ego to be following her last boyfriend than Mr Bigg!
Since we had the conversation the whole thing has been analysed in minute detail in my head and every time we talk about sex I end up almost involuntarily trying to fish for details about Mr Bigg and whether size matters to her.
The closest I have got to any details is that she said it felt "different". In particular that her vagina (i think she meant her lips) would grip it more and be "sort of pushed in then pulled out" which she said "felt good".
When pressed she has said that she thinks she was "quite pleased" when she saw mine for the first time.
Here are my conclusions so far on the whole size thing:
1. Unless you are above 9inches your wife or girfriend has probably had a bigger penis that you have (and for most of us she will have had a much bigger penis).
2. Because of point 1 inches don't mean anything (but it is nice to know the stats even though her experience is the key thing).
3. Bigger penises feel "different" and this different feeling is probably pleasurable for most women (to a point). This means I can take a bit of an ego boost from knowing that mine probably feels better than an average penis even if I have to live with the fact that a Mr Big might feel even better (conundrum is - I actually want size to matter because I am above average!).
4. Despite point 3, penetration is only part of sex so keep things in perspective.
I do have a question arising out of the conundrum at point 3, how sensitive to size differences is the vagina. i.e does a 5 and 6 inch penis pretty much feel the same? Does there need to be a significant difference in size for a woman to feel the difference (likely to be a different answer for every woman I imagine).
My second question arises from the fact that my girfriend gets very (very) wet during sex - to the point of sometimes having to dry herself a little bit. It seems to me that this is bound to affect the sensation of me in her which might also be a factor in her considering me to be average size? (I really do slide in very easily due to her lubrication and this makes me wonder about the comments that Mr Big was very thick even more - when dry she seems reasonably tight). I was hoping some female posters might be able to help on this question - I assume it is not unique but mu girlfriend is a little sensistive about it.
Thanks for reading.
Stataboveav (for what it's worth!)
The same thing happens if a penis is .5" smaller. Dont but that he was 9, 10 or 11 inches. I am not saying it wasn't possible it was 9 inches but to tell you the truth her first bf could had been only 7.5" or 8" at most with decent girth... it will look massive besides a 7" penis if u are bone pressing then u are 6's inches. but half an inch idoes make a big different !!!
