From my point of view, it's entirely about a woman's confidence and attitude...both in and out of bed. If she dresses in ways that flatter her figure, regardless of her shape and size, and looks a man in the eyes. A woman who's not afraid to talk about her desires with a man. If a woman assumes that a man should automatically know how to arouse her, she may be repeatedly disappointed. Women should recognize that men can and will have sex quickly and agressively if you play along with that. She can help to slow things down by teasing, touching and massaging her man, passionately kissing and licking all parts of his body, hands, neck, nipples, thighs, ass. Once things get hotter, respond to his touches, don't hold back. When he licks your pussy, run your fingers through his hair and pull him into you with confidence. Don't be afraid of pushing new things on him, 69, standing up, licking his balls for 10 straight minutes, use a little lube on his cock with your hands, tickle his ass while you're at it. When he cums, kiss him deeply and stare into his eyes and don't let him pull away. When he pulls out, show gentle passion for the mess the two of you have made, massage his softening cock, enjoy the mess.
...attitude and passion my dear.