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My wife and I were virgins when we got married 15 years ago. Well, it’s not working out anymore. She was never sexually adventurous. She made sure she got pleasured, and hen she would just lay there until I finish. I don’t think we’ve had sex more than 50 times in those 15 years. Anyway, now that I’m free, I’m looking for some hook ups. To be honest I’m looking for a woman to make sure I’m taken care of....if I gotta pay for it fine. What’s the best way for some down low hookups? Where can I find some girls who know how to take care of their man...get the most out of them (if you know what I mean). I’m in the US.
 
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I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, and haven't had it since. That was 12 1/2 years ago. Enough about me.
Best of luck to you man.
 

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Many avenues for you to take. Join some swinger sites and or clubs. Learn about the lifestyle and be respectful. While backdoor and CL are not putting up personals, you can still find escorts in even the yellow pages (if you are in the USA)-- and depending, if you are in Reno area, there are even legal (but super expensive brothels)-- Getting NSA sex is not as hard as you might think. PM me if you want more info. What state are you in?
 

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i think with your lack of sexual experience and lack of sexual partners, i would highly recommend that you do some inner-self-sexual-soul-searching and really learn about yourself. it seems like you've missed out on the last 15 years.

if i was you, i would take my time to read up on sexual activities, watch a lot of videos, pay for some of those experiences since you don't seem to object to that, and then reach out to available women and be honest about who you are and where you are sexually and go from there.

sounds like you've got a lot of catching up to do and jumping in head-first will not yield you the positive results you're looking for. when you say "girls who know how to take care of their man", sounds to me like you're a good guy and looking for a good girl... hate to break it to you but to do that, it takes time and a lot of self-awareness; and i think your missing a lot of self-awareness.

if you just wanna fuck, just look up local escort services.
 

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My wife and I were virgins when we got married 15 years ago. Well, it’s not working out anymore. . . . now that I’m free, I’m looking for some hook ups . . .

. . . . recommend that you do some inner-self-sexual-soul-searching and really learn about yourself . . . .

. . . jumping in head-first will not yield you the positive results you're looking for. . . . you're a good guy and looking for a good girl... hate to break it to you but to do that, it takes time and a lot of self-awareness . . .

if you just wanna fuck, just look up local escort services.

I'm truly sad your marriage was such a disappointment, and it sounds like it's now over. What were your ages when you married?

I'll take a guess that marriage and sex were linked in your mind when you married. Like @marriedasian said, please give some thought to what sex means to you. I'll also suggest that finding a sexually skilled partner will not truly substitute for what was missing in your marriage. I was a wedding-night virgin, and I was honestly surprised by the mental dimension and emotional dimension of sex are linked to the physical experience. Like @marriedasian said, it takes time, deliberate intentions, and personal commitment to develop the mental connection, and the emotional attachment for truly satisfying sex.

Your wife's lack of responsiveness may have been due to your technique and general approach, or it may have had nothing to do with you. I doubt that getting laid by a strictly casual partner will correct the problem.
 

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Hey guys, thanks for the feedback. We were married in our early 20’s and both wedding night virgins. I had thought sex was going to be a bigger part of our relationship. To be honest, I didn’t even think that she wouldn’t want it. We fooled around a lot when we were dating but never had sex. When we did have sex, I did my best to make sure she was satisfied (I watched a lot of porn). After that, she would just let me finish. I never seemed to get the same attention from her that I gave. She never seemed to try to make it exciting for me. It was disappointing. I know I’m no Bruce Venture or Mandingo...or whoever else, but I always wanted her to enjoy it and made sure she got off. I just wanted more effort out of her. We’ve talked about it and her answer has been that it wasn’t a big deal to her. Good to know that now. :-(

While this isn’t the main reason things aren’t working, it’s certainly a piece to the puzzle.

How are the escort services? Are there good sites or are they all trashy? If it matters I’m in SE Michigan, USA.
 
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Hey guys, thanks for the feedback. We were married in our early 20’s and both wedding night virgins. I had thought sex was going to be a bigger part of our relationship. To be honest, I didn’t even think that she wouldn’t want it. We fooled around a lot when we were dating but never had sex. When we did have sex, I did my best to make sure she was satisfied (I watched a lot of porn). After that, she would just let me finish. I never seemed to get the same attention from her that I gave. She never seemed to try to make it exciting for me. It was disappointing. I know I’m no Bruce Venture or Mandingo...or whoever else, but I always wanted her to enjoy it and made sure she got off. I just wanted more effort out of her. We’ve talked about it and her answer has been that it wasn’t a big deal to her. Good to know that now. :-(

While this isn’t the main reason things aren’t working, it’s certainly a piece to the puzzle.

How are the escort services? Are there good sites or are they all trashy? If it matters I’m in SE Michigan, USA.


Do NOT pay for sex.
A. It's illegal.
B. You will feel shitty about yourself having to pay. It is much much MUCH more satisfying to have sex with somebody that desires you.

Do what myself and everyone else does. Download Tinder and Bumble and go to town. Ignore the part in the bio that says "not here for hookups". That is complete bullshit, I promise.

Clean your eating, hit the gym, and explore your sexuality.

Good luck.