Initiating anal play.

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  1. Drifterwood

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    I hope that this is an interesting one.

    I have experienced very little anal play. But there is no doubt that the prostate is extremely sexual.

    I am sure that a lot of str8 guys have a sexuality conundrum and I wonder whether women do to, in the sense that you feel that this is not the type of thing that you are supposed to initiate?

    Thought I'd better get this question in before this section got banned :rolleyes: :biggrin1:
     
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    I would think it's something you and the partner would talk about while in the act. I can't imagine people would be all that impressed at the idea of someone shoving a finger up there ass, no lube, while being blown. At least not the first time.:rolleyes:

    But, I'm no woman. Just a guy who's had one or two people attempt to place a finger in my bum without giving me any warning.
     
  3. got_lost

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    I don't think I'd think of it first, no.

    It'd need to be suggested.
    And probably some direction given! :laughing:
     
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    Is anal still that taboo a subject? I don't thinks so and I think women are alot more used to asking for what they want, I certainly have no problems asking for what I want or initiating it.

    The way I see it if you don't ask you don't get!
     
  5. The Dragon

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    I ask for it.
    I will take charge off the session and tell them exactly how I want it done.
    I do explain that I know my body and I know how I can enjoy it with the least amount of pain.
    If during the session they fail to listen to instructions the session finishes and I never offer anal again.
     
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    I just walk up to ladies in the grocery store and say, "Hey, can I play with your ass?"
     
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    It's true - the worst thing is they look at me funny when he does it!! What's with that??

    :rolleyes:
     
  8. Drifterwood

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    Maybe they are seeking your approval? :smile:

    Anyway back to men's asses.
     
  9. Principessa

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    What is up with the blitzkrieg on the booty?!? :irked: :12: Why do guys think I won't notice a 8x6 dick being shoved up my ass? :mad:

    If you need directions to find his ass that explains a lot. :rolleyes:

    Hmm, I wonder if I said that to guys I see in Publix if I would get arrested? :confused::rolleyes:
     
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    Oh..sorry..I thought this was about initiating anal play with women not men...sorry dear thing to get the wrong end of the stick.
    I don't tend to ask.
    (It is much easier to ask forgivness than permission)
    I will generally put pressure on the perimeum and the rim of the anus with the ball of my thumb while giving fellatio.
    You can tell when a man is enjoying the sensation when he starts to rock himself against the movents of your thumb to increase the friction.
    His sphincter will lossen and grasp.
    Applying gentle and steady pressure I have worked my finger into his anus without him being fully aware of just how far I have gotten.
    I strike the odd one who whinnies and bucks, but on the most part, after a explaination they rarely forbid me from doing it again.
    When I get them to the point of giving fellatio and stroking their prostate at the same time, their first climax using the technique has them sold on the whole idea.
    From what I can see the fellatio/prostate climax is the closest thing a man can get to a womans G-spot orgasam.
     
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    Don't ask questions like that QT, some of us have posting tourette's :biggrin1:
     
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    The thing is if they had asked first I wouldn't have said no. :flirt:
     
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    Thanks DF, this is precisely why I asked. Your MO would be correct for me :smile: :rolleyes:, but I do think there is a lot of taboo on both sides. I don't think a lot of str8 men are going to ask.

    Do you think a lot of women aren't aware of the effect of this on men?
     
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    No I don't think they know or are not inclined to ask for fear of being judged.
    For me "if it feels good, do it"
    If doing this I can increase my partners pleasure 100 fold they why not.
    By not asking and letting then just experience it as it slowly unfolds I remove all the angst out of the act.
    They tend to go with it and lose themselves more in the moment without having the "oh fuck AM I GAY" thoughts running through their heads and taking their minds off the sheer pleasure of the activity.
     
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    I have always gone by the theory i am the one receiving so i should be the one to initiate anal. And i don't feel a need to sit and discuss it beforehand, just letting it happen works for me
     
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