Initiating sex

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  1. fak_et

    fak_et New Member

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    Well i haven't had a sexual experience yet so I promised myself it's about time to start, 19 btw.

    I completely turned myself around over the past year. I worked on my image(bodybuilding etc.), confidence, and game. I have no problem meeting and picking up chicks, dating, etc.

    Problem is the sex part, I don't have experience here and it is hard for me to proceed forward. I want my first time to be with a decent girl, not just anyone, which isn't a problem for me. I am getting farther and farther with girls and im just about as far as you can go.

    So basically, I am seeing this one girl. She invited me over to spend the night with her the other night. It was good, lots of making out, some play etc. Im a nice guy and don't feel like pushing girls. I completely choked up though. She started talking about a past relationship being soo bad and the guy forcing her to have sex and it sort of killed the mood and we ended up falling asleep. What would be a good way to initiate sex? Just start taking clothes off? Take her clothes off? Ask? etc?

    How do i ask without being insulting or sounding like im desperate?

    Im sure I could setup a similar date or something like that. What would be a good way to go about doing it? The girl seems interested for sure.

    Im thinking a decent way would be doin some exercise w/ her, inviting her over for a shower after and going for it after that.

    Any other things to try?
     
  2. simcha

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    Why don't you try to let it flow naturally? It seems like you're naturally disposed to letting nature take its course. Don't rush things. And if this girl is interested but had a bad experience with a guy who forced her then let her initiate some.

    Obviously she's turned on by you and you by her. You've been making out. Let that be fun. Experience all of it. Let the experience unfold. Penetration may not happen with this girl, but it will happen with some girl someday, probably soon.

    Just be yourself, that's the biggest turn on.
     
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    I have found the best way for sex to start is to start it.

    Girls generally, but not always, need time to warm-up. Much depends on how much she trusts you. Believe it or not, that whole sleeping thing probably upped your stock like no tomorrow. You behaved as a gentleman and that means a lot to any decent girl. She made a huge mistake by bringing-up another guy. She's not perfect either, probably unsure of what she wants. That's ok.

    I find that if you start heavy kissing and petting, just keep going a little bit further. Go under the bra, lift her shirt up to kiss her nipples. Just do it slowly, kindly, with all the affection you feel for her. By going slowly you give her the chance to always say no. She'll stop you if she's not ready to go beyond a certain point. If she does stop you then just let it go at that and continue with what you were doing and let it go. While you may not have sex that time, the fact you were willing to listen and accomodate her will raise her opinion of you even more for the next time.

    When you get to the point that your naked and she's naked and you've done your oral homework, then just ask her if she's ready for you. I have to say, this is one of the most wonderfully intimate and moving experiences a man can have. It's just so beautiful to have a girl look up at you and say, "Yes, I want you in me."

    If you haven't done so, look for a condom that fits you. Condomania has the exact measurements of every condom they sell. At least look at the chart to find one that will fit you, buy a few from where ever and try them on. If you feel constricted then skip it, go a size higher. If it seems to come off easily (a hazard if you precum a lot), then go for a size smaller. Bring them with you.

    This does raise an issue. Some girls might wonder WHY you brought condoms unless you were planning to have sex. Tell her that you bought them with the hope that someday she would be ready for you and they have only her name on them and you wanted her to be safe. If she was ready, you wanted to be ready too. That should allay any suspicions.

    You haven't said if this girl is a virgin or not or if you're in the large catagory yourself. The real key is to make sure she's wet. If you're pretty thick, say over 5" around at your widest point, then use your fingers to open her up and get her ready. When first aroused the vagina balloons a bit. The cervix and uterus move up into the abdomen and the walls begin to expand and emit lubricant to allow introduction of the penis. You can feel this happening with a finger or two. When that happens, then she's ready for you. It can help to introduce into the vagina as many fingers that approximate the girth of your cock because after the ballooning starts, the entrance to the vagina shrinks to the width of your cock. If you introduce one finger and your cock is actually three fingers thick then when you take out the finger and try to insert your cock, things may feel way too tight for her because her vaginal entrance has shrunk to fit your finger. When you can easily move two or three fingers in and out, then you should be ok unless you're much larger or much smaller than that.

    For many girls the first time is really painful and not all that pleasant. It usually takes a few times to get comfortable. If she asks you to stop, then stop. If she asks you to go slow then go slow. Try to introduce your cock slowly and gently. Get yourself entirely inside her first and then literally ask her how she feels. If she's ok then try long slow strokes, leaving your cockhead inside to help keep her open. Just repeat that a few times and then begin to move a little faster and watch her reaction. She may be in pain but she may also really like it too. Ask her how it feels and then pay attention to what she says (difficult when your dick is discovering paradise for the first time). She may even bleed a bit. That's normal though it can be distressing for you. Particularly for the first few times you have vaginal sex, be communicative and responsive. Women love considerate lovers. As time goes on you'll come to know what each of you likes and what is pleasurable and things will become much easier.

    I hope this helps and always remember that it's not the cock that matters nearly as much as the man it's attached to. The more you focus on what she likes and you communicate to her what you like, the more enjoyable sex will be for you both.
     
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    Thanks a bunch Jason, that was exactly what I was looking for. I pick up on stuff fast so I doubt it would be a problem. Ill give her another shot in a few days and go from there. If it doesn't happen, I now know for the next girl.

    Im all set with the condom situation and all.
     
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    I think her talking to you about the forced past was her way of saying to just let it happen. Don't try to force it, but when making out, casually let yourself wander with your hand. I don't think she has any problem telling you what she does and doesn't like and if you reach a spot she doesn't care for, it has been my experience that she will either tell you or just move your hand to where she wants the attention focused. Jason and Simcha both have given you good advice. Don't worry about how you perform, just do what feels right and natural, you can't fail.
     
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    I just take all their clothes off
     
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    So married. So very, very, married.

    Lucky bastard:wink:.
     
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    Ask her to an indoor activity you both like (a special movie or tv show is good). Start getting physical (without getting sexual) with her in the quiet or boring parts, in a natural way. Hold hands, rub her neck...whatever feels good to both of you.

    Start kissing her, or making out, or petting, with your clothes on...whatever she will let you do. The key is: you're in no rush. You've got all night, and if kissing her is as much as she'll let you do, that's fine with you.

    If she's willing, you can get her and yourself more and more naked. (Try to avoid any clothes that are hard to take off while your hands and lips are occupied: A button shirt is easier to remove than a t-shirt) Eventually, you'll enjoy intercourse with her.

    Don't be in a rush, but always look for an opening to escalate the action.
     
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