Insecure couples

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  1. novice_btm

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    When I'm out and about, I'm never sure which of these responses I find more hilarious...

    So, here's the situation:
    There's a couple, and there's me. Even if I'm honestly just innocently looking their way, or I'm admittedly busted checking the guy out (checking out the girl is a different thread than this), these are just casual passings.

    The two responses:
    The guy nervously grabs the girl, and acts all "I'm STRAIGHT dammit!".
    -or-
    The girl nervously grabs the guy, and gives me a "back-off-bitch" look.

    I just had the first one happen (the second one just happened a few days ago), which reminded me of this happening to me every once in a while. He grabbed her, and got all affectionate. She gave a surprised look like, "OK, I have NO idea what brought THIS on, but it's about time, and I'm not gonna question it".

    I'm baffled that anything about me would bring about either of these responses, and I find these responses absurbly and totally hysterical. Anyone else have this happen, or any ideas why?
     
  2. B_spiker067

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    [oops, hetero scenario here, my bad]

    Can happen to me. Or should I say it used to because it hasn't recently.

    The guys sometime looks like he wants to start a fight or something. Best thing is when she has to reassure him somehow with a look, or a held hand, or conversation. No its not a total figment of my imagination. People don't walk around with poker faces drawn and so give a lot away. Nor am I good looking, just average and not ugly. I think its the leftover, un-evolved monkey mentality.

    Either young couples or red neck/jock like guys.
     
  3. Principessa

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    Hmm, maybe the guy sees you and thinks damn he's hot if I were gay, I'd do him in a heartbeat.

    Then he thinks oh shit, maybe I'm gay!?

    No, I'm not gay and to prove it I will now makeout with my girlfriend on the sidewalk in front of this Starbucks.

    That hot gay guy will now know that I am straight and tell the entire gay mafia to back off. :tongue:

    Okay, the truth is I have no idea.:biggrin1:
     
  4. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    Maybe its the person's own insecurity and nothing to do with you. Like tonight me and my mate went to this takeaway place. This guy was in who I know vaguely but my other friend knows quite well. We got to chattin. Then all of a sudden this random guy was all over his girlfriend. As if to say 'SHE's MINE, SHE'S MINE!' or something...

    Bearing in mind my friend and I are both handsome and (I am, he says) hung fellows. And his bird wasn't that nice.

    Yet, after that....we got back here and there was this amazingly attractive woman, who we had seen earlier. I got to talkin to her...then it turns out she's married! But her husband is a really cool guy. We played pool with him. And he looks exactly like Dave Grohl. That was a cool couple.

    What I say is fuck the insecure couples. Check people out! That's what they're there for :tongue:

    Night.
     
  5. novice_btm

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    Well, that whole idea IS a theory that I didn't think about, that is the insecurity in himself about being gay. Unfortunately, I'm just not that hot in person to really warrant any of these reactions. :shrug:

    Yeah, that's what I think too, it's just like I said, it's odd that *I* would cause that insecurity. :ponder:
     
  6. hypolimnas

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    I do think it is human nature for many men to like attention though. The gay photographer who made a name for himself approaching and photographing naked marines, and other service men (don't try this at home),did get complaints from the guys he didn't choose. They challenged him over his choice to photograph their colleagues, rather than themselves, on the grounds that they thought that they were more attractive than their buddies. Classic peacock syndrome.

    If the guy was so in to his girl, he wouldn't even notice you checking him out.

    I used to have a buddy who crossed dressed, and straight guys (out with their wives, and girl friends) would always look. He did make not only a convincing woman, but a very attractive one, in conventional terms. It was always funny to see the girls giving their men disapproving looks when they realised their partners were staring another man's legs.

    I think the guys were generally just curious and impressed. I don't think most of them were thinking about having sex with a guy. They were "just looking".

    That was amusing to me because I don't find men dressed as women (even if they have fantastic legs) attractive or sexy at all... well not at all so far, I should say.

    On the other hand, if they become aware that you are checking them both out, then who knows what might happen? (Well we do actually, ok I plead guilty -- only once or twice.... so long ago ... now I'm feeling really old)
     
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    I used to go to Provincetown every summer and would be constantly amazed by the amount of daytrippers who seemed unaware that it was a gay destination. The freak-out and terror was obvious, usually from the guys, but occasionally from their wives/girlfriends as well. It was always good for a laugh.

    Here in SoFla it's a different world, but we're living in different times as well. The Metro thing's big down here, and sometimes the most obvious-looking types are the straightest. Wives/girlfriends like to show off their men and are more likely to seek approval than disdain it.
     
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    Where I used to live, the biggest gay bar evolved into "THE place for trendy straight women to hang out." I hated the atmosphere, but friends always wanted to go there, so I would occasionally acquiesce. There was usually a long line at the velvet rope at the front door (really!) and a sign that said "This is primarily a gay bar. If that's a problem, you shouldn't be here."

    And you could always tell who were the straight couples with the guy dragged kicking and screaming by his girlfriend. He always had the deer-in-the-headlights look, and was squeezing her arm so tight it was dripping blood. Pretty entertaining.
     
  10. Big Dreamer

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    The guy didn't want to accidentally bump into you and get some 'gay' on him, DC. It's hard to wash off.

    I personally hate people that use sexual orientation as entertainment, and I don't mean watching pornography whose sole purpose is to entertain. It demeans gay relationships if the straight community treats them as 'cute' but not as 'legitimate'.
     
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