Insecure when soft, and about being a "grower" (pics inside)

[peterchristian]

Ok everyone...

For my entire life I have been insecure about being soft. In shower rooms, etc., it seems like all guys hang much lower than I do when soft. It doesn't help that I have VERY big balls so it makes my dick look kind of small.

I live in a country where most people are uncut, and I am unfortuantely. Therefore I feel a bit different from all the other guys.

I wanted to ask, do I look like I'd have a small dick when soft? I HATE being a grower, I wish I could at least look normal size wise when soft like everyone else. I have sort of a phobia about showering with other guys my age for this reason. So do I look like I fall in the small category when soft?

In addition, I am insecure about that dark area on my shaft that shows a lot when I am soft. If you look closely, midway at my shaft, you'll notice that it's much darker than the rest of my cock. I think this is from grip marks while jacking off. I have had darkness in that area every since I started jacking off, and I can't seem to get rid of them. It's like a permanent bruise. I am the only guy I have ever seen with them, is there anyone else here with that?

Here are some pics of me soft and hard...I wish I could go into the showers feeling like everyone else, because I feel that if people see my dick soft they'll think, "woah..he's tiny".

PS...my dick can look quite smaller than that when soft...

 

[D_Roland_D_Hay]

Bro, you are not tiny...it looks good both hard and soft.

 

[B_Italian1]

Hey bud, your pics look fine so don't stress over what other guys think in the showers. You're a grower and there's nothing wrong with that. Could be some of them don't get much larger when they're erect. Your balls and girth looked good sized as well. As far as the discoloration goes, I wouldn't worry over it. Some people may find it a turn on. If you think it's from masturbation put some lotion on it at bedtime.

 

[B_blackkid]

You are your own worse critic, and remember you never see what others see. It's the truth; what I see never seems to correlate to what my partner sees and when I threaten to "grow" she freaks out saying I'm an idiot and immediately thwaps me upon the noggin. No, the other noggin.

Regardless, point being, you will always sell yourself short so to speak. It's because you are always with your penis, and so to you your penis looks les signficant, and thus after a while in which the devaluation holds you simply look "lesser".

It happens to a lot of men. Other factors and whatnot, but that's generally the jist. Even extremely large men feel the same way both flaccid and erect. Some actually even hate being showers.

 

[frgman]

Sometimes we are our own worst critic.We are too hard on ourselves. Ease up, you are not tiny. Anyone who thinks you are, well, they have tiny minds.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

A lot of guys have darker pigmentation on their dicks, me included, and I'm like totally too white everywhere else. Also, part of that is your circ scar.

Maybe you feel that way more because you're cut than anything.

 

[B_blackkid]

Quick Intervention: I wouldn't believe being circumcised would have anything to do with not wanting to be a grower. The Foreskin does add some, but that "some" isn't in length, and for the most part it isn't an extreme amount for most either.

Just my $.03.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Just my $.03.

Yeah, but he says he lives somewhere where no one else is cut. That would make most of us insecure.

 

[All of that?]

I'm also a "grower," going from about 3" soft to 9.25" hard. It's sometimes a little embarrassing in the shower, but I have to keep telling myself that it's ok and that when I get boned, I measure up pretty well!

 

[Adam875]

I'm also a "grower," going from about 3" soft to 9.25" hard. It's sometimes a little embarrassing in the shower, but I have to keep telling myself that it's ok and that when I get boned, I measure up pretty well!

Blimey! 3" to 9.25" ! That IS growing - a world record, I should think. And some very good replies to Peter, IMHO. Quite agree!

 

[randomokyeah]

I'm a grower as well. I had similar experiences, but got over it. Flaccid size doesn't matter after all, anyways. Who cares if you are big flaccid? You aren't going to be penetrating a woman with your small, flaccid penis. I'm pretty sure that's where the big erect penis comes in, and I guarantee you that it'll be the erect size that the girl is going to tell her friends about. Have any women ever said to their girlfriends "Yeah, Bob is awesome in bed and has a huge cock, but I saw him in the shower before when he wasn't hard, and yikes!" ? No.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

I'm also a "grower," going from about 3" soft to 9.25" hard.(!)

Wow, that is extreme. Post some pictures if you please.

 

[D_Ignatius Demonfahrt]

Peter - Here's another important point - it has to do with the way our eyes measure size.. try this: go into a bathroom where there is a full sized mirror; one where you can see your cock in the mirror when standing; look at your cock in the mirror, then look down at it on your body... you will notice that your dick looks bigger, hanging, in the mirror, then it does when you look down at it on your body.. ..

So why did I mention this? Simply that when you see other guys in the showers, it's the same as looking at your dick in the mirror.. So, you could be looking at a guy and think "gosh, his hangs longer than mine" , when the truth is that you guys are exactly the same size!

Cheers!

Btw.. I'm a grower too!

 

[long legs]

:smile:

Ok everyone...
you have such a beautiful body,nice chest and nipples.your penis is wonderful,the coloring is very sexy.nice balls too.how old are you and how long hard and soft? your soft size looks normal to me
For my entire life I have been insecure about being soft. In shower rooms, etc., it seems like all guys hang much lower than I do when soft. It doesn't help that I have VERY big balls so it makes my dick look kind of small.

I live in a country where most people are uncut, and I am unfortuantely. Therefore I feel a bit different from all the other guys.

I wanted to ask, do I look like I'd have a small dick when soft? I HATE being a grower, I wish I could at least look normal size wise when soft like everyone else. I have sort of a phobia about showering with other guys my age for this reason. So do I look like I fall in the small category when soft?

In addition, I am insecure about that dark area on my shaft that shows a lot when I am soft. If you look closely, midway at my shaft, you'll notice that it's much darker than the rest of my cock. I think this is from grip marks while jacking off. I have had darkness in that area every since I started jacking off, and I can't seem to get rid of them. It's like a permanent bruise. I am the only guy I have ever seen with them, is there anyone else here with that?

Here are some pics of me soft and hard...I wish I could go into the showers feeling like everyone else, because I feel that if people see my dick soft they'll think, "woah..he's tiny".

PS...my dick can look quite smaller than that when soft...

 

[bca8954]

Looks fine to me! You have nothing to worry about.

 

[camper joe]

You shouldn't worry dude you look normal to me.

 

[viking1]

You look perfectly okay to me. Nothing to worry about at all.

 

[i_wont_tell]

FYI

Most guys in the showers are probably thinking the same thing about themselves.

 

[B_VinylBoy]

With a shower, you know exactly what you're gonna get. No guess work.
With a grower, there's always the potential of something much bigger than expected. And who here doesn't like pleasant surprises?

 

[SpeedoGuy]

Looks fine to me.