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I have had a penis that is significantly above the average size for a long damn time. I was bullied for it when I was younger, and that seemed to go on for a long damn time. I've received admiration for it later after cursing this physiological difference for a long damn time. I have been on LPSG for a long damn time. My history has been the foundation for a complicated relationship with one part of my body. However, after a long damn time, I have reached some sort of "good place" with it all.
That opening paragraph is there to give some sense of where I'm coming from with this post. To some of you, the following sentence may seem obvious, but to others… it really needs to be said and hopefully understood:
The behavior caused by your insecurity about your size is so incredibly unattractive.
I mean the way you write about it. The way you talk about it. The way you joke about it. The way you obsess over it. The way you insult others about it. The way you lie about it.
Why are you insecure? There are so many reasons: our social structure, the idea of what masculinity is and isn't, the culture of competition, media hyperbole, capitalistic concepts of more is better, unrealistic models of what a man should look like, etc.
Your insecurity is important here because it affects your self-concept and your self-esteem: how attractive you feel you are. What I am trying to make you realize is that your insecurity makes you behave in a way that is far less attractive than the size of your penis. A sound-minded person doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who wants to make his cock the center of his own universe. They're not turned on by someone who lies about how big he is. They're not impressed by finding out the reality is not the same as the edited photographs that make it look like you have an elephant trunk between your legs. They don't feel that indescribable, soulful satisfaction after making love with someone who thinks that his size means tenderness, effort and listening to his partner is unnecessary.
And yes, the same thing applies to the SPH people going the other way, not from a kink but from a place of insecure doubt.
For the vast majority of people, insecurity and the actions that it prompts are simply unappealing and sometimes repulsive.
LPSG has a focus and that's just fine, as long as the people here learn how to be comfortable with themselves and stop with the insecure bullshit. This is a place where we can have some lighthearted fun around a topic that should literally be about lighthearted fun. We can also help newcomers who are confused and insecure find out how a sense of perspective can be a valuable foundation for feeling good about ourselves without being creepy, dishonest, aggressive or stupidly competitive.
Knowing who and what you are, realizing your flaws and working to improve yourself, acceptance and confidence in what you have without exaggeration, sensitivity and trustworthiness, a sense of fun and exploration, a self-concept that is built mostly on honest self-evaluation rather than others' opinions… these are attractive, and can all exist with the equipment that you have, regardless of its actual size.
That opening paragraph is there to give some sense of where I'm coming from with this post. To some of you, the following sentence may seem obvious, but to others… it really needs to be said and hopefully understood:
The behavior caused by your insecurity about your size is so incredibly unattractive.
I mean the way you write about it. The way you talk about it. The way you joke about it. The way you obsess over it. The way you insult others about it. The way you lie about it.
Why are you insecure? There are so many reasons: our social structure, the idea of what masculinity is and isn't, the culture of competition, media hyperbole, capitalistic concepts of more is better, unrealistic models of what a man should look like, etc.
Your insecurity is important here because it affects your self-concept and your self-esteem: how attractive you feel you are. What I am trying to make you realize is that your insecurity makes you behave in a way that is far less attractive than the size of your penis. A sound-minded person doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who wants to make his cock the center of his own universe. They're not turned on by someone who lies about how big he is. They're not impressed by finding out the reality is not the same as the edited photographs that make it look like you have an elephant trunk between your legs. They don't feel that indescribable, soulful satisfaction after making love with someone who thinks that his size means tenderness, effort and listening to his partner is unnecessary.
And yes, the same thing applies to the SPH people going the other way, not from a kink but from a place of insecure doubt.
For the vast majority of people, insecurity and the actions that it prompts are simply unappealing and sometimes repulsive.
LPSG has a focus and that's just fine, as long as the people here learn how to be comfortable with themselves and stop with the insecure bullshit. This is a place where we can have some lighthearted fun around a topic that should literally be about lighthearted fun. We can also help newcomers who are confused and insecure find out how a sense of perspective can be a valuable foundation for feeling good about ourselves without being creepy, dishonest, aggressive or stupidly competitive.
Knowing who and what you are, realizing your flaws and working to improve yourself, acceptance and confidence in what you have without exaggeration, sensitivity and trustworthiness, a sense of fun and exploration, a self-concept that is built mostly on honest self-evaluation rather than others' opinions… these are attractive, and can all exist with the equipment that you have, regardless of its actual size.