Insecurity over Gf's past (large encounters)

[8x6w]

lol - amazing how a guy with a big dick can have zero self confidence and appear, at least by this post, to be a total loser.

Hm, I'm not sure how this is helpful whatsoever, and you don't exactly know me or the other aspects of my life.

To everyone else being understanding, thanks. I think this will just be an exercise in willpower and realizing that we have a great sex life regardless of her ex's.

 

[Careym]

My friend, my question to you would be "do you love this girl?" If not, and this is just something you are doing for fun, then what does it matter anyway? If so, then that is what you need to focus on.
My lover was in a relationship with two guys when I met him. I have seen photos of one of them on the web and he is a lot bigger than me. I thought about that a lot and obsessed over it for a long time. We talked about it many times; I accused him of cheating on me, looking for a bigger dick. But I was wrong. I was creating unnecessary friction between us. He loves me and he tells me that many times every day. More than that, he shows me that he loves me. Our sex is amazing and we both are very satisfied. How do I know? Because he tells me and because I can see it in his eyes and feel it in his body. Our love makes the sex even better. We have fun in bed and there are times when we even tease each other about our fantasies with a bigger dick. But, I don’t obsess over it any more. He’s with me, I am more than satisfied, and I am deeply in love. What more could I ask for?
I am sure that he fantasizes about bigger cocks from time to time. But not when he's with me. And, I have some fantasies of my own...

 

[Mike7]

You are way above average so don't worry at all. She's with you not them, women look at the whole package. Confidence and skills trump an extra inch in the bedroom.

 

[D_Leonna Javelincatcher]

You have already received some very good advice, but I thought I would jot down some thoughts from a female perspective. Some of my sisters who have had more experience w/ "larger guys" may have some other thoughts, so be sure to listen to them as well.

Frankly, there is not a man alive that would turn my head JUST because of their size, they would have to have the whole package. (Okay, not the best language-but you get the idea.) That was the LAST thing on my list when picking my husband. Now the fact that he is an incredible lover and perfect size for me is a bonus.

The point is, she isn't w/ the 9 inch guy, or the larger guy, she is WITH YOU! Your feelings aren't right or wrong, they are just yours. I suspect that your feelings may be tied to other issues of security in the overall relationship, which you haven't addressed here. If so, address them and deal w/ them lovingly and head on. If not, move on and be proud that this fine lady has chosen you.

Likely she was drawn to you because of lots of good things she sees, and your good size is just a wonderful bonus. Just my 2 cents. Breathe, relax, and have fun. Good luck,

Renee

I know this shouldn't matter to me, as she tells me she loves my size and that any bigger would mean less sex (it's true, I already make her sore quickly even if she's very wet, she's a fairly petite girl), but for some reason it still does. I don't think she really understands the odds against being with that many well-endowed men lol. And, for some reason, it's ingrained in me that bigger is better. It's kinda like, even if it meant less sex, it would still be "impressive". Sounds dumb I know. Now, a really strange thing about this, is sometimes I find myself fantasizing about her having sex with a really big dick. So, I have these conflicting emotions, as she is telling me this I felt both disappointment/insecurity as well as being slightly turned on. Wtf? For reference, I'm 8x6, so I know I shouldn't worry about this.

Any advice? Anyone that is already "big" have a gf that's been with several other large guys?

 

[No_Strings]

My friend, my question to you would be "do you love this girl?" If not, and this is just something you are doing for fun, then what does it matter anyway? If so, then that is what you need to focus on.
My lover was in a relationship with two guys when I met him. I have seen photos of one of them on the web and he is a lot bigger than me. I thought about that a lot and obsessed over it for a long time. We talked about it many times; I accused him of cheating on me, looking for a bigger dick. But I was wrong. I was creating unnecessary friction between us. He loves me and he tells me that many times every day. More than that, he shows me that he loves me. Our sex is amazing and we both are very satisfied. How do I know? Because he tells me and because I can see it in his eyes and feel it in his body. Our love makes the sex even better. We have fun in bed and there are times when we even tease each other about our fantasies with a bigger dick. But, I don’t obsess over it any more. He’s with me, I am more than satisfied, and I am deeply in love. What more could I ask for?
I am sure that he fantasizes about bigger cocks from time to time. But not when he's with me. And, I have some fantasies of my own...

That was an excellent post, thank you.
Those who can or do feel insecure should make sure to read it. :smile:

 

[doctorro]

get over it, or just watch some big dick porn with her. If you fixate on it to much either you'll ruin the relationship, or make it some sort of necessity to your getting off. Like she said bigger isn't going to help you only make sex less likely and if she needed bigger she'd be cheating on you or not seeing you.

I totally agree.
Damn man, you are way above average with 8x6, so be happy and enjoy sexuality with your girl, no matter how many inches she had before.
May some role plays in terms of being big can pep up your sexuality, but don't let that topic become the mayor part of your relationship!