insight into sph (small penis humiliation)

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  1. silverheart

    silverheart New Member

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    This post was maybe a long time coming. I think the female audience here is very small and almost non-existant when u compare it to the male population. Therefore one could argue its not a statistically valid sample of women. However these are women I have gotten to know over the years in their posts. Unlike some women they have a preference for men who represent maybe the top 10% or even 1% in terms of penis size where as maybe the avg female prefers something slightly over average maybe 6.5 inches x 5.5 circumpherence. But I think these women closely resemble the majority in their dislike for small penis humilation encounters. You associate it with bullying and pure evil. But it just proves to me that men and women think very differently.

    I do enjoy small penis humiliation. But when I am told I have a small penis it's not the same as being told I'm stupid or fat or ugly. It doesn't hurt the same way in fact it doesn't hurt at all. It is actually a source of arousal but it's certainly not the only way I can be aroused. I suppose If i felt I was more than enough for a woman than I could experience the same level of excitement. SPH doesnt leave me sad at all during or after the humiliation and that's something these women don't grasp which is why they stray from sph.

    The 1st few times i was told I was small however it did hurt. It struck me at my core. However after having experienced reptition of this something just changes in a man's psyche. What we once feared we soon crave. And it has a lot to do with how much we love women and want to please them sexually. We are finally comfortable with the reality of what turns a woman on and we just want to be a part of it some how even if it means being ridiculued.

    By being told we are inadequate we gain insight into just how great your sexual lives could be with someone well equipped. We picture you with your hung lover in ecsatsy and we are reminded that we could never come close to giving you that much pleasure. We feel like less of a man but we feel like we are understanding you women more and theres comfort in that. It's a safe place to be in when u a woman is being honest with you.

    The medical community is trying to spin the idea that size doesnt matter. And of course the makers of the pills are trying to spin the opposite idea that size is on womens top 5 list. The truth is some where inbetween in that size matters but its not at the top of the list or the very bottom, it's some where inbetween.

    all we want more than anything is to just understand u women more. Just be honest. And sph doesnt have to be such a cruel thing. It could just be where u voice an inner desire and we will love u for it.

    And yes we like to feel inadequate. Its a lot like are real life experiences in which we cant perform a certain position or we slip out. We dont know anything other than that other than what we see in porn. We just want re-experience it in a more safe setting where emotions arent running so hot.

    so please give an sph guy a chance every now and then and try to better understand where we are coming from. We aren't crazy we are just a product of this day and age. Try to embrace that.
     
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    Thanks for the post Silverheart.

    Would you be disappointed if you fell for a woman who really didn't care about your size?

    I do understand what you are saying, but I don't see the male psyche as you describe, I feel that there is so very much more to manhood than cocksize as there is to womanhood than weight for example.

    I think that it is a somewhat underdeveloped part of the male psyche to wish to be attractive to every single woman in the world. I think that this has its roots in our sexual imperative, whereas women come from a rather different place. If men get beyond this desire to have every woman wish to rip their clothes off, you can develop a better understanding of what you need and want. I see SPH as a dead end cul de sac because you didn't pass stage one of human relationships and sexuality. This is more the reason why a lot of women find it unattractive, and why those who will indulge you, do it for you not for them, because they like/love you also.

    I don't want that to sound harsh, it's just my personal analysis of the phenomenon.
     
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    of course it would be nice to fall for a woman who didnt care about my size or was in fact turned on by it. it would be nice to fall any women at all and have her feelings being reciprocated.

    u are thinking about the big picture and im just talking about a fetish which is a small part of who i am. I know there is much more than that to a relationship. Maybe u dont understand cuz u never had my experiences.
     
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    True and I would take the negative reaction to large over the reaction to small every day. My point is that there are 3 billion women in the world. A woman can come on the internet and talk about her personal prefences and this gets broadcast around the world as if every woman has the same opinion. Incredible power, but in reality utterly irrelevant.

    If it is a personal fetish then fine, but in terms of being representative of all male Psyhe, I do not agree. I am not attacking your fetish, I am disagreeing with the general interpretation. I quote this quite often, but in a proper full survey in the UK recently, 90% of women said that they were happy with their sex lives. Many of these women no doubt are with men of below average size.
     
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    Silverheart, I think what you wrote is quite brilliant.

    If I understand you correctly, it's not so much that you have a fetish for being humiliated for your small penis.

    It's that you have a fetish -- if it can be called that -- for the woman you love being satisfied by the best-looking, most well-hung and most sexually skilled man she can find. Because you've come to understand what really satisfies a woman in her deepest core, and you realize that you -- like most guys -- don't have the ability to provide that, any more than you have the ability to play professional basketball or swallow swords in the circus.

    At least, that's how I feel.
     
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    i think the poll for whether women are happy with the size of their mans penis is like 85%. However u forget that these women are in a relationship with these men. who's to say they didnt encounter a man with a small package and rejected him. If they were unhappy with his size they probably wouldnt be in the relationship to begin with.

    and the psyche of men im talking about are the ones who fall in the bottom 10%.
     
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    i dont know if im going to read all of that, its really long.
















    unlike you lol.
     
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    no im not saying women dont desire other traits like intelligence and personality which i think almost 99% weigh as more important than penis size. But i do enjoy talking to size queens who can accentuate their desires more than most women. Lot of women feel like they cant even articulate the desire because society tells them not to. They have a fear they will be called a slut or loose or a man hater or some sort.
     
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    What is your size silverheart?
     
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    From my perspective as a woman it has very little to do with it being cruel or evil. It's just not attractive. If I'm with a man I want it to be because we are at least somewhat compatible on every level. I openly say small men don't satisfy me. I don't make that claim based on some abstract idea that small men can't satisfy some women, I say that from personal experience. I don't want someone to want to be with me because of some attraction to the fact that in my opinon only guys with larger than average cocks satisfy me. Above and beyond that I am attracted to very confident men. I don't feel like anybody who wants me to tell them they aren't good enough to satisfy me is very confident.

    Taking those two things into account I am not and never will be attracted to sph men. I don't think they're horrible people but I'm most certain I would never be in a happy or fruitful relationship with one.
     
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    When we are seeking out sph we aren't looking for a girlfriend. We are kinda looking for a cheap thrill. Im not saying its something we are proud of but for some some small endowed man thats about as close they are gonna get with a woman.

    if u saw a man begging on the street u would give him some of your pocket change. its the same with a guy with a small dick begging for some intimacy even if its sph. We are deprived.

     
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    u could ask NJQT that cuz shes measured it but ive seen her off as much as half an inch

    if im measuring correctly i would say im 4 1/2 inches long and 5 1/4 inches around

    and i dont like sph from other guys. I think if i was gay i would enjoy that but being that im straight its actually a turn off.
     
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    I don't care to be the one to provide that cheap thrill either. It is not my problem you are deprived and I don't care to be the source for your satisfaction if I'm getting no satisfaction from you. As harsh as it may seem I don't give handouts to the homeless on the street so why would I throw a bone to sph men?



     
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    sort of hard to discern your original point. First, what is "small"? If you're under 5 inches, that's getting small. The important thing is thickness and also appearance. Small penises can be attractive, to both men and women. Second, women's attitudes: I think women are happy to have a nice caring man to love them ,physically and other ways. If a woman's preference for a guy is based mainly on a large penis, well she's not one to stick to very long.
     
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    would u give a bone to a cute lil puppy?
     
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    A cute lil puppy isn't a man who gets off on some perverse fetish.
    So that comparison does little good here. You can't expect women to like/love/accept sph the way we would other things. It's ok if you're into that just don't expect free handouts.
     
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    Well, there are *some* women who are into it. It's kind of a major part of being a dominatrix.
     
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    A friend of mine used to know this dude who would pay her $200 to come over and insult him while he masturbated ... "No wonder you don't have a girlfriend, you could never please a woman with that miserable excuse for a cock," and that kind of thing.
     
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    I could never be in a relationship where a fetish involved a negative thing. Being mean about something a guy can't control is just horrible. It would be the equivalent of making fun of a girls eye colour. If you need to focus on something negative to get off.. then really do you have a positive relationship.
     
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    I played a dominatrix for awhile to some boys... but I would never do SPH, it's just not my thing.
     
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