Hello All,
just wanted some advice as I feel I need an outside perspective on this.
I am a gay guy and I have a straight male friend living with me.
We have always got on well and he always seemed to have been comfortable with me, making jokes etc.
Yesterday he found out one of his best friends from school, he had not seen in years, sadly past away. This news hit him really had. Which I believe had a bearing on what happened next...
We were walking around a shopping area and his personality seemed to change instantly, seemingly out of no where. He said 'Fuck this, I need a drink' and stormed off.
I walked after him, trying to ask him what was wrong.
He become very angry with me saying 'Just get away from me, leave me the fuck alone'
Taken aback by this I let him walk off a bit, then walked after him. I attempted to grab his arm to slow him down, he recoiled, raised his fist and said 'Dont touch me you fat c**t. I am not gay stop trying to touch me, just get away from me'
I tried to ask him why he said that but he would not answer, I also tried to explain I know he is not gay and that I have never shown any signs of thinking he was or trying to be any more than friends.
It ended with his brother coming down and talking him down in the end.
All night last night and this morning there has been an atmosphere between us.
I am not sure if he said what he did purely out of anger and grief, or if there was something more to it.
I know this sounds conceited asking why he would say something like that to me, when I know he is upset.
Does anyone else agree that no matter how upset you are you would not say something so personal and hurtful to a friend or can people truely not help or control what they say in the heat of the moment out of anger....
Should I confront him and ask if he is uncomfortable with me or just let it go as he was upset and reacting to something else?
Thanks in advance
just wanted some advice as I feel I need an outside perspective on this.
I am a gay guy and I have a straight male friend living with me.
We have always got on well and he always seemed to have been comfortable with me, making jokes etc.
Yesterday he found out one of his best friends from school, he had not seen in years, sadly past away. This news hit him really had. Which I believe had a bearing on what happened next...
We were walking around a shopping area and his personality seemed to change instantly, seemingly out of no where. He said 'Fuck this, I need a drink' and stormed off.
I walked after him, trying to ask him what was wrong.
He become very angry with me saying 'Just get away from me, leave me the fuck alone'
Taken aback by this I let him walk off a bit, then walked after him. I attempted to grab his arm to slow him down, he recoiled, raised his fist and said 'Dont touch me you fat c**t. I am not gay stop trying to touch me, just get away from me'
I tried to ask him why he said that but he would not answer, I also tried to explain I know he is not gay and that I have never shown any signs of thinking he was or trying to be any more than friends.
It ended with his brother coming down and talking him down in the end.
All night last night and this morning there has been an atmosphere between us.
I am not sure if he said what he did purely out of anger and grief, or if there was something more to it.
I know this sounds conceited asking why he would say something like that to me, when I know he is upset.
Does anyone else agree that no matter how upset you are you would not say something so personal and hurtful to a friend or can people truely not help or control what they say in the heat of the moment out of anger....
Should I confront him and ask if he is uncomfortable with me or just let it go as he was upset and reacting to something else?
Thanks in advance