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I was at a local abs/theater and there was a gentleman with obvious mental deficiencies who was giving head to one and all.
Once i noticed what was going on I left but it has bothered me ever since.
Any thoughts? Should i have expressed my disapproval?
 

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I was at a local abs/theater and there was a gentleman with obvious mental deficiencies who was giving head to one and all.
Once i noticed what was going on I left but it has bothered me ever since.
Any thoughts? Should i have expressed my disapproval?

If he was truly disabled, engaging his services may have fallen under statutory rape protections.

Not sure what you could have or should have done, but the situation sounds very sketchy...
 

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That sounds pretty messed up. But how do you know that the person had mental deficiencies? There are conditions that can affect a persons body or nervous system, which most of us might see and make assumptions about their mental state, even though the condition might not have any impact on their mental abilities.
 

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If you're talking about someone who is clearly mentally retarded, or otherwise mentally compromised,
I would be severely torn. I don't know if I would be able to control myself from intervening.
As a NYer, I learned early how to mind my business in public, but that would probably make me forget my training.
There's something so wrong about taking advantage of someone who has no capacity to make good decisions for him or herself.
I guess it would depend on the circumstances, how many guys were involved, access to get out quickly if needed, etc, but my gut reaction, just hearing the story at face value, would be to intervene.
 

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This is actually a very dicey subject, even from an academic perspective.

It comes down to this: does the person have the capacity to give meaningful informed consent for the activity? If so, then their ID isn't germane to their sexuality. If not, then many jurisdictions have laws on the books specifically protecting them from abuse or exploitation.

It was common to think of people with disabilities (not just ID) as asexual babies. Which does a great disservice to those who have normal healthy adult libidos and sexual needs.
 

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I've actually experienced the opposite situation where the men who were not
severely disabled, just borderline real dumb where the men getting blown because
they had unusually large endowments. They were loving it. It was kind of semi public.
 
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If he transported himself knowing exactly what type of place it was and consented, I don't see a problem
 

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Stop infantilizing the disabled. They are adults in a world where adults have rights to choose their own conduct.
They have sexual drives and needs like ANY functioning human being, and even if they are not capable of the kind of fully realized relationship average people enjoy, they still have these cravings and must come to some accommodation between their desires and what other people are willing to engage in with them.

Was he being taken advantage of? ASK HIM.
If he was happy to service a room full of dicks, then let him be happy.
 

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I was at a local abs/theater and there was a gentleman with obvious mental deficiencies who was giving head to one and all.
Once i noticed what was going on I left but it has bothered me ever since.
Any thoughts? Should i have expressed my disapproval?

No. That scene I learned about pretty early in life. The dim lighting. lost souls (young and old) standing in the shadows waiting to feed like vampires. And seeing these acts. It taught me so much about life. It almost a rush, many times scary to witness so much and realize that a lot of these men were quite rich, or married with big families leading double lives.
 
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As a social worker, I may have a little different perspective. In my career, I have had a few persons with intellectual disabilities who have gotten HIV. At least three times, the infection occurred due to the person having no understanding of risk associated with unprotected sex. I realize the OP cited an example of oral sex here and that would have minimal HIV risk.

But in my gut, I cringed when I read the post and I would hope that someone is looking after the risk reduction education that this person may need. I respect autonomy, but I always want people to understand the risk of their behaviors and that is what I question in this instance. Persons with intellectual disabilities can be very interested in being people pleasers and are often very outgoing. I remember being in what they call sheltered workshops where persons do jobs and are paid based on production and what I remember most is how friendly the folks were . They would drop their work to come over shake hands and say hi, tell me their name and then ask mine. It was a bit overwhelming at first. Then I learned to appreciate their innocence and child like friendliness.

I guess I just cringe at the thought of someone taking advantage of that innocence. I wasn’t there with the OP, but I can appreciate his gut reaction and questioning his own response of witnessing the behavior.

To tell you the truth, that is what I admire in my good friends and partners, they all have that moral code that at the very least makes them think and question stuff like this. We will all come up with different answers at time, but it is those who realize that it requires a gut check make this a better world.
 

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Stop infantilizing the disabled. They are adults in a world where adults have rights to choose their own conduct.
They have sexual drives and needs like ANY functioning human being, and even if they are not capable of the kind of fully realized relationship average people enjoy, they still have these cravings and must come to some accommodation between their desires and what other people are willing to engage in with them.

Was he being taken advantage of? ASK HIM.
If he was happy to service a room full of dicks, then let him be happy.


Well said.