Each woman is an individual, just as each man is.
The sooner we all snap out of viewing each other with a stereotypical, gender based lens in regards to sexuality the better both sexes will be.
There is NO right or wrong sexual practices or tastes SO LONG AS IT IS KEPT WITHIN A CONSENTING ADULT FRAMEWORK.
No one person has the right to tell another that the way their sexual organs work is wrong.
No one has the definitive answers to all aspects of arousal. Male or Female.
There is far too much ignorance and not nearly enough informed advice to people who seem to take what they view in porn as "word".
Telling a woman that she is wrong if she can't get off via clit/oral/vag stimulation is to display your ignorance, your lack of empathy and an immature and fragile ego.
Sex (good sex) is about the other person.
Creating an environment where the one you share it with is comfortable enough to bare the very essence of who they are.
It's a privilege not a right, so when a person tells you in that moment how you can help them get the most satisfaction from that shared moment, you'd better listen up or get dressed and leave.