Interacial couples (taboo ?)

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NJ, thats a pretty clear sign. Ok then more questions: In what ways do you non verbally express your sexual interest in a man?

This is embarassing but I didn't learn how to flirt until I was in my 20's. So I tend to do stereotypical stuff I've seen in movies. Such as: smiling, eye contact, that girly 'hair flip' thing, crossing & uncrossing my legs seductively.
 

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Interracial gay couple here for over 10 yrs, so we get double stares sometimes. I hardly ever pay attention any more. Sometimes i think the stares are more like, damn i've always wanted to do that but never had the guts...
 

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A stare isn't always a criticism. I take notice of interracial couples but I think it's nice when skin color doesn't prevent two people who like eachother from getting together. So you'd get a look from me, but nothing negative is meant by it.

I'd only consider staring to be negative if they're completely obvious about it and don't either stop or smile when you return their glance.

My father's black and my mother's white. I can't recall ever noticing any hostility about it. I asked my parents if they ever encountered any, and they said only once, back when my mom was pregnant with me, from some punk kids.

In my own personal experience, the only negative comments I've ever even heard about it have come from some individual black women. And they were just the type with really nasty personalities that no guy would touch, and rather than blame themselves for being complete bitches, they blamed white women for stealing all the good black men. That's individual women though, definately not black women as a group.
 

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It's very taboo in some areas. The farther south you go, and the farther out in the boonies, the worse it is. I don't have a problem with it myself. It's not too well accepted around here in general, though. Neither is homosexuality.
 

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In my are in the Northeast it's not as bad, people don't normally stare at mixed couples.

People in the age group around 40 or under are pretty cool with it.

In the 80's I had a good friend, she is black and we hung put at a mall all the time and we never got stared at. Maybe we didn't look like a couple, we didn't hold hands or anything.

For some reason people get more upset that a black man would be with a white woman, than a white man being with a black woman. I guess the whites do not want the black man to take "their" woman.
 

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It's very taboo in some areas. The farther south you go, and the farther out in the boonies, the worse it is. I don't have a problem with it myself. It's not too well accepted around here in general, though. Neither is homosexuality.

I find if you go very south and are in south Florida people are not as racist as other parts of the south. I think it's the influx of northerners to that area.
 

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In the end, I say date whomever you want to date and fiercely protect the love you have. I know it is not easy, but it is rewarding. I have dated black and white women and have dated white men since I realized I was gay.

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These days, I am starting to think that some of the most beautiful people are bi-racial and the celebrity status of some bi-racial people is bearing that out.

This will all pass by us in the next five generations or so, when the entire world population will be a nice golden hue from almost everyone being of mixed race, I think.

I agree.

See: Halle Berry, Mariah Carey, Vin Diesel, Wentworth Miller, Kimora Lee Simmons and others.

Of course, most people do not realize some of those folks are interracial, but that is another story.

Interracial gay couple here for over 10 yrs, so we get double stares sometimes. I hardly ever pay attention any more. Sometimes i think the stares are more like, damn i've always wanted to do that but never had the guts...

My current hubby is the first man I have dated who can tell when people are giving us stares (probably because he was in an interracial marriage with a woman and has interracial children). I have to be honest, in my experiences in the gay community, we get more vicious stares from Black Men than white men. Most white men are like--that is so cool. Occasionally, we get a really nice note from a black or white guy who is into is attracted to other ethnicities saying how great they feel seeing an interracial couple madly in love.
 

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I find if you go very south and are in south Florida people are not as racist as other parts of the south. I think it's the influx of northerners to that area.

That could be. Major urban areas, and those with a high influx of outsiders would be different. Try the rural, small town, backwoods, or mountain areas of the south, and see what you think.
 

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It's ashamed how old and ugly habits die hard. A couple of months ago I started getting really deep with a guy. I'm black and he's white. We started out as good friends but things began to get more serious as time passed. I had always dated black guys until him. Texas is a big state but there are still quite a few people with small minds. Not all of my friends and co-workers were happy about us being together and I believe that his friends weren't either. I even had one friend tell me that it would never really work because he'd never see me as good as women from his own race. Didn't matter to me, I cared for him then and still do now.

Unfortunately, he seemed to take the bad behavior harder than I did and this was a contributing factor to us breaking up. I guess if you're use to experiencing racism then the strange looks and rude behavior is a part of life. It's almost a damned if you do and damned if you don't kind of situation. No one can pick who you fall in love with. I say screw them and live your life with as much happiness and joy as you can.


That makes me mad. If he couldnt take the heat then you are better off without him. He should have been proud to be with you. Be they black white or asian if a man cant take the heat then he needs to keep stepping as far as I am concerned. He needs to be able to be seen with me in any situation. Day or night. I am not someone to be hidden.
 

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My wife and i constantly get staired at, i wish people would just grow up.
Not that we don`t like the attention but sometimes it`s the wrong kind if you know what i mean.
Sometimes i`ll have a new affiliate that treats me like a friend and when they find out i`m in an interacial relationship sadly that`s where the friendship ends.
Sometimes i`ll be working and someone or even the homeowner will say something like, those damn N*****s, that`s when it`s really hard for me to keep my cool. When i show them a picture of my wife they go, uh...uh....uh....., then their all apologetic. That`s when i just shake my head and bite my tongue, will the world ever grow up? I know it`s their ignorance but it`s so hard to not just stomp the shit out of `em.

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In my hometown, Provincetown massachusetts, you 2 wouldn't even get a second look.......(thAT is unless the 2 of you are HOTTIES>>LOL)
 

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You know what's funny? I've been in multiple relationships with Asian men and not once did I even stop to think that I was in an interracial relationship, which I was. On the other hand, when I briefly dated a black man, I definitely was cognizant of it. I guess in my head, rightly or wrongly, interracial has always meant black and white which isn't the case at all. On the other hand, the parents of the asian men I dated for the most part didn't like their sons dating a white girl.
 

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I appreciate that this thread is mostly about the US. But here is my experience for what it is worth.

White male (me) SE Asian GF, no issue.

Me, African GF, racism from SE Asian women and men but not other raced women and men.

Me, S. Asian looking GF, but actually Eastern Med - major major shit form S. Asian (islamic) men.
 

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You know what's funny? I've been in multiple relationships with Asian men and not once did I even stop to think that I was in an interracial relationship, which I was. On the other hand, when I briefly dated a black man, I definitely was cognizant of it. I guess in my head, rightly or wrongly, interracial has always meant black and white which isn't the case at all. On the other hand, the parents of the asian men I dated for the most part didn't like their sons dating a white girl.


SNoozan,

I think you have touched upon something there. In America just about any other culture other than Black if not totally accepted at least gets a pass for good behavior card. I think that may be a reason for so much of the animosity seen. I actually had someone say to me, (Mind you this person was Italian and DARKER than I am) say to me that black people in America are not accepted fully because there is still the stigma of having ancestors who were slaves. EXCUSE ME? Since when is the victim held responsible for the crime?
 

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It's all about ther person. Who cares what color they are if they are a good person and you make each other happy. What others think doesn't matter. If you're happy and fulfilled, good for you. Racism makes me really mad. It's the sign of a small mind.
 

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That makes me mad. If he couldnt take the heat then you are better off without him. He should have been proud to be with you. Be they black white or asian if a man cant take the heat then he needs to keep stepping as far as I am concerned. He needs to be able to be seen with me in any situation. Day or night. I am not someone to be hidden.
Exactly. That's why I dumped him. There were some other issues but that was the biggest. I come from a long line of strong women and no one is going to make me feel inferior. I just chalked it up to a learning experience. Not to mention it expanded my dating pool. We still come in contact with each other sometimes. I've even caught him staring at me like he's waiting for me to acknowledge him.
 

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We are so ready to move it`s not even funny, we just have to be patient and put some money away so we can, as you can imagine it`ll feel like an eternity to do so. We`re seriously considering moving out to the north west.

lafever:cool:

Just make sure you are moving to the right area for the right reasons. I would highly suggest securing employment at a competitive pay scale before you relocate. Life is NOT cheap here.

Interracial relationships are tough; when I was younger, I ended one because I could not take the constant feeling of being on display. Now, 10 years later, I do notice there seems to be less taboo about them. I’m basing this observation on going out on more than a few interracial dates the past year and receiving very little attention, but they were in NYC and L.A., sooo?

My mother passed away longing for the one love of her life she rejected only due to his color. She didn't want us or his kids stigmatized by the relationship, especially since none of the grandparents were in favor of it.

Remember this thread?Be careful where you choose to move.Don't jump from the frying pan into the the fire!:wink:

http://www.lpsg.org/60715-why.html

Brother Ed, you hit on it. For every area accepting, there is a smaller town with a much older demographic that is not as accepting, I would not want to live on the West side of the state due to that reason. Not everywhere, but enough that it is of concern.

There is only one race. The human race.

This is why I respect you. Your ability to look beyond the veil to true personae. If only all people were as astute about human relations as you.