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I have been exclusively into men for the last 10 years.

A coupe months ago I had one of those "come to Jesus" experiences with my profile on a couple of gay sites. It shook me up and I deleted my anonymous profile that I stupidly shared personal information with another on.

Since then, I haven't been able to feel aroused or slightly interested in another man. I have missed it but there's no interest. Still functioning, I relieve myself daily...but if I got and email from an old friend looking to get together, it's just not there.

Anyone else have the same kind of slump I'm in?
 

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I have been exclusively into men for the last 10 years.

A coupe months ago I had one of those "come to Jesus" experiences with my profile on a couple of gay sites. It shook me up and I deleted my anonymous profile that I stupidly shared personal information with another on.

Since then, I haven't been able to feel aroused or slightly interested in another man. I have missed it but there's no interest. Still functioning, I relieve myself daily...but if I got and email from an old friend looking to get together, it's just not there.

Anyone else have the same kind of slump I'm in?

I think it happens to some guys when they get older. My partner is in his 50s and hasn't been interested in sex in a while. It's a shame because I'm more than willing to suck his cock all day long.
 
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Sounds like a very bad experience. Don’t worry about it too much. I’m sure it will come back when you are ready.

When you relieve yourself, do you watch porn?
 

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It could be psychological or physiological. If it’s the former, time will help. If it’s tha latter ignoring it isn’t prudent.
In any event, seeing and discussing this with your PCP is a very good idea. If you aren’t comfortable talking to your PCP about this or any topic, find a new provider.
 
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There are also many studies that state that excessive porn desensitizes men from enjoying actual sex, in both hetero- and homosexuals.
You say you relieve yourself daily. Do you watch porn regularly? If so, perhaps give yourself a break from porn and see what happens to your desire regarding real life sex.
 

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I am going through this now. I am 43 and i am not interested in being with men, not interested in sex or masturbation at all. I have an appointment to have my Testosterone checked. I don't watch porn much accept a few minutes of a scene and i just stop it and go to be and sleep.
 

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I am going through this now. I am 43 and i am not interested in being with men, not interested in sex or masturbation at all. I have an appointment to have my Testosterone checked. I don't watch porn much accept a few minutes of a scene and i just stop it and go to be and sleep.
if and when you decide to get back on the ride i would love to help you out! just wish was closer to FLA.
 
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if and when you decide to get back on the ride i would love to help you out! just wish was closer to FLA.
Thanks so much for your kind words. I will be back. My appointment is October 2. So I will see what is going on with me. I am focusing more on the meditation and yoga and fitness side of my life. Good times are here for me and I have to be open and honest with me and open to all opportunities before me. I would love to visit Canada some day. Thank you for your kindness and support.
 
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You may simply need emotional stroking to be interested, rather than just the physical.
If there is no emotion involved, I cannot be involved. The term is "demisexual".
There was a post for you to se your PCP, and that is a good start for any issue to make sure nothing is physically out of kilter.
 

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You may simply need emotional stroking to be interested, rather than just the physical.
If there is no emotion involved, I cannot be involved. The term is "demisexual".
There was a post for you to se your PCP, and that is a good start for any issue to make sure nothing is physically out of kilter.
So true, @Hard Times . People sometimes forget the emotional parts of sex, and like you, I always want that.
PS: Thanks for teaching me a new word. I didn't realize there was a name for it.
 

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This sounds a lot like what I have been going through. I just turned 50 and my partner is 35. Over the last 12 to 18 months, I've noticed that my sex drive was non-existent, my energy level kept decreasing, my hair was falling out faster and my body weight was going up. I thought that most likely my testosterone level was low and/or my blood pressure medicine was causing these problems. I see 4 different doctors for various health issues I have. I discussed the problem with 3 of my 4 doctors and was told it was up to my heart doctor. The heart doctor ordered a testosterone test and after the results came back as lower than normal, he said that the blood pressure meds wouldn't change but he would let me PCP decided about my testosterone. My PCP told me that he could order testosterone shots to help, but with my health problems, they could do more damage than good. He said it was up to me. I told him that my heart and kidneys are back to normal. This non-existent sex drive has been really tough for my partner and I don't want to continue living with these low testosterone problems. I would like to at least try the testosterone shots to see if they help. So far, I've had 3 shots. I've noticed that my energy level has gone back up. My weight has dropped a little bit. And for the first time in a couple of years, I do pop a random boner every so often. But my sex drive is still very low.
 

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You may simply need emotional stroking to be interested, rather than just the physical.
If there is no emotion involved, I cannot be involved. The term is "demisexual".
There was a post for you to se your PCP, and that is a good start for any issue to make sure nothing is physically out of kilter.
Yes
 

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Thanks so much for your kind words. I will be back. My appointment is October 2. So I will see what is going on with me. I am focusing more on the meditation and yoga and fitness side of my life. Good times are here for me and I have to be open and honest with me and open to all opportunities before me. I would love to visit Canada some day. Thank you for your kindness and support.

Just checking in my friend. Hopefully your appointment went well and you’re doing better.
Add testosterone with caution as there is a correlation with an increased risk for an enlarged prostate (BPH).
 
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Yes I'm also curious to read an update if you can. I'm also feeling more indifferent about sex these days. I still think about it and want bodily contact but I want an emotional connection rather than physical. I could hug all day. I must google demisexual ("I have it"). I just hope it's nothing serious. I have thought about sex since my teens so am not ready to get a paunch and give up. I look at younger people in their twenties recently with envy - what is happening to me!
 

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Just checking in my friend. Hopefully your appointment went well and you’re doing better.
Add testosterone with caution as there is a correlation with an increased risk for an enlarged prostate (BPH).

Thanks for the kind words. The appointment date was changed until October 22, 2018@ 7:30 a.m. it was an indurinsu issue (which I have) but it's all straightened out now. Yes, I will be asking questions and getting plenty of information. The prostate check is something I am going to get more information about and schedule an much needed appointment. At 43 and a black male. I am grateful for the opportunity to get checked out. I did a complete blood work because I have a job that gives me the opportunity to get my health in check. I have to work on my cholesterol because its low and my vitamin D was super low. I have been working on improving that right now. I take supplements for it. All in all, everything is going well. I appreciate you for saying hello. I will keep you updated and I will have some great news.