Internet influence on sex

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  1. trulybig

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    Actually, there is a lot I wonder about on this topic. For instance, prior to the internet, you generally could only view x-rated video or go to x-rated movies which limited the general population and perhaps even more limited women's exposure to nudity and sex. Now, with the internet a lot of the mystery about penis size, sexual actitivies, etc. are no longer true. I had no idea how I compared erect to other men in general (except for those who appeared in porn) prior to the net.

    Well, in this post, I guess I am wondering if the net has influenced both gay and straight guys in their willingness to try other sexual things. For instance, I see myself as mildly bi, but never ever would have had a remote interest in receiving anal sex prior to the net. I am not even sure, prior to the net, that I would have considered sucking another guy either. But, after several years now of constant exposure on the net to all these various activities is doesn't seem so strange, or scary, or even that unusual to think about or possibly try. I am not saying I am running out and doing this today. What I am saying is by seeing these things so much on the net (whether I intended to or not), it just doesn't seem so strange. And, in reverse, I have to believe that most gay guys who access the net have seen pictures and videos where a guy is fucking a woman and perhaps that holds some equal curiosity or doesn't seem as so far fetched for them either. In other words, the constant exposure to things you didn't normally see before, makes it seem more common and acceptable.

    Am I wrong? For my gay friends out here, does seeing straight sex make you any more curious or willing to give it a try just to see what it is like? And, for my straight friends, seeing guys touch or suck another guys dick make it less repulsive to you, or something you might try? Has the net influenced you in these matters at all?
     
  2. ClaireTalon

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    Before there was the net, there were neat little magazines sold under the counter, and "blue" movies just the same, just in case Playboy wasn't enough anymore. It was just a lot harder to get these things, with the net, you can stay mostly anonymous and the only institutions learning about your little fetishes is the video company where you order, and maybe your credit card company. Back in the pre-internet days, all you could rely on was the trenchcoat and the big hat. So, I'd not say it has changed much in the willingness to try more things, but it has definitely made it easier to access stimulating output.

    However, this has put some pressure on men and women, too. With all this XXX stuff so easily accessible well before your eighteenth birthday, and before your first time even, teens start into sex with a lot more knowledge than then. I had my first sex aged eighteen, and knew NOTHING about it until then, which is a joke considering that the average age of the first sex has dropped under the eighteen-mark.
     
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    A great post. And a good topic.

    (The answers to follow should prove interesting.)

    Personally, for me, a man in my early fifties....the internet has proven to be both good and bad.

    GOOD in that I too, have been able to see other erections and "size them up" to my own, thus enabling me to gain some self confidence (finally :wink: ) and also learn sexual techniques and other sorted bits of useful info.

    BAD though, in that in being around the net and forums like this one, I tend to find my mental focuses to be centered far too much on sex. Everyone knows how riveting this particular LPSG site can be and ....is. Why, I'm here (with the rest of you) way, way too much.

    Fostering good (i.e emotionally healthy) sexuality cannot ever be achieved without honest one-to-one personal contact with another person who's there physically with you. The unfortunate result of this site (and others similar to it) is that they seem to take the place of genuine friendships/relationships. This site is a haven (often, I think) for those men (even women) who dare not even venture out socially and "try" to find that special someone or....give themselves a chance at being accepted sexually. (Yes, that would include positive affirmation and acceptance of their physical body size, too. Certainly it does.)

    Instead though, these individuals turn to the photo galleries and...... they fantasize. Next, many of them become further disillusioned with their own bodies ---when they compare themselves. Or, (perhaps worse) they imagine sexual encounters with mere photo images...not real people there with them.

    And then--there's the chit-chat we read over (and, participate in!) amidst all the various (often titillating) discusions we get involved in. Reading about "how much better bigger is" doesnt' help a lot of people either---especially if they're already down on themselves to begin with.

    I'm no expert. And, I don't have all the answers. Otherwise, even I wouldn't be here so much! :cool:

    But, there has to be a way though, to take from discussion groups like this one only what will help, inform, and educate in those areas we're needing encouragement, you know? And then--- just politely dismiss (and walk away from) the rest of the hype and other "bunk" which only complicates (and actually hinders) us from being able to live happily and well-adjusted.

    I believe the internet has greatly enhanced our lives for the information and the awareness it brings us. But it's a dangerous place, too, when we allow it to mislead us and ....allow it to alter our otherwise normal lives into accepting the unreal and (often)the delusional. I can truly understand now, how excessive internet use is an addiction. This "bad habit" begins so subtly and then builds over time. --It certainly has for me. I still seem reluctant to admit that! I'm wondering right now ...am I really on line again with the LPSG typing away? --GOSH !

    Breaking the (daily) routine of going on-line for a few sexual jollies is proving to be a very difficult task for me and so many others!

    And, you know? It's not like I don't know better! :frown1:
     
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    It's an interesting question for sure.
    It's hard to say really, and though I am quite open-minded in the first place, I think being able to explore sexual topics on the internet has made me more open and I have certainly experienced that it has tickled my curiosity about subjects that I would not necessarily have sought information about if it was not so readily accessible.
    I have had sufficient 'straight' sex to know exactly what it's like, but I enjoy reading about and watching bisexual encounters now and then, and have even felt inspired to explore it somehow allthough it hasn't led me to actually try it out - not yet at least. But if I ever do, or what regards any those things I have actually explored in real life, I wouldn't say it's because of the internet - though I have met quite a few people I would most likely not have met in any other way.

    I think it is a good point that ClaireTalon makes though - about it putting a certain degree of pressure on young people. But most seem to handle it well however, and I think that ultimately it's all for the better. - I made my sexual debut quite early, and I was always on the lookout for some real information about sexual topics. I am absolutely certain that I would have benefited greatly from the internet had it been available back then.
     
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    Yeah I think net has certainly influenced me. I know I do tend to use it perhaps a bit too much as a 'crutch' too, particularly this site, as the other gentleman suggested. But it's also cool to read about peoples' experiences, sexual and otherwise, and sometimes even use those experiences & knowledge in our own lives and perhaps in our fantasy lives. I have managed, thus far, to NOT experiment with a male, though I certainly would if I knew some of the people I know ONLINE, in my regular day to day life. Some of my best friends, and some of the hottest guys I talk to are thousands of miles away - no danger there. I think it's helped me to remain sane but at the same time I must fight to not become envious of the sex lives some people have. When I start comparing, things go downhill in a hurry for me, mood-wise ;)
     
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    That is one of the better aspects, it has become easier, and more comfortable to get information on STD, contraception, sexuality in general. Real information is always welcome, and I appreciate it if starters to the world of sex get them this way, but there's also the other side. Especially if you google up information, or use other search engines with only a vague query for sex-related things, you'll be misguided. However, if you end with the more serious services and sites, you can really profit from the net.
     
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    Wonderful topic.

    I've been able to relieve myself immensely through my connection with the internet that there are many other sex fiends like myself.

    It's been extremely heartening.

    With regard to the straight/gay question you pose... I find I'm immensely turned on by heterosexual (male on female only) pornography. Who knew?:rolleyes:
     
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    "Well, thanks to the Internet, I'm now bored with sex." - Fry, from Futurama


    i do think the internet has answered a lot of questions, and its generally a safe, anonymous way to research things...however on the flipside, since its anonymous you cant always take it as gospel...

    i think one of the things its done is almost desensitized me...if anyone's heard of moid.org, you know what i mean...if you havent heard of it, its a collection of some really scary stuff...i mean, its scary to a straight white-bread guy like myself...there's lots of fecal stuff going on, body mutilation, hentai...i'm sure some people get off to that stuff (no offense if you do), but it doesnt turn me on in the slightest...if anything, i have the 'car-crash' reaction, where i'm disgusted but i cant look away...

    back in the day, when i discovered sex, it was thru the B-movies on USA's "Up All Nite" or whatever...chicks running around in bikinis, that did it for me :smile: some of the more risque videos on MTV worked too...then i discovered chicks with no clothes, and my mind was blown...but after a while, you get tired of just seeing a playboy spread of a naked girl...you want to see some action, some penetration, some cumshots, etc...

    with the internet, you can skip all that stuff & jump right into "cum-crazed coeds taking on 4 monster dicks at once!" or "asian nymphos squirting all over double-dildos!" or "midget sluts fucking barnyard animals" or whatever weird shit you search for...

    i dunno exactly what point i'm trying to prove, so just take it for what it's worth :tongue:
     
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    I think what the Internet did for porn was expand people's minds concerning sexuality. People that were too afraid to go out and buy magazines now can do it from the comfort of their own homes. Also people that are into fetishes now have a way of connecting where as in the past it was hard or impossible to meet people of like mind unless you lived in a big city. Of course the same can be said for all aspects of life, movies, books, especially music has benefited from the Internet. It's made everyone more aware especially when it comes to sex.
     
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