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I'm used to talking about these things very openly, but maybe that's because I'm a college student, have a diverse set of friends, and was in Cultural Studies last semester where we had to write papers about it. It's probably not anywhere near as common to discuss this sort of thing outside of the bubble I live in. At least not in an intelligent/inquisative/or academic way. If it comes up at all it's usually in the form of repeating stereotypes, and then other people agreeing or disagreeing.
to naughty: I agree with most of what you're saying but I think you may be oversimplifying on several points. There are many different reasons that different people may choose to marry within or outside their own "race," and many different reasons why they may classify themselves or others as belonging to some group or another. I know, for instance, there's a pretty popular discourse among African-American women that they should marry White or Hispanic because their kids will have "nicer" hair. (don't know why Asian isn't typically included on that list, since they've usually got even straighter hair than anglos) The discourse that fairer skin is desirable is not unique to the USA, either. My ex-girlfriend's grandmother, who was mostly African by ethnicity and Panamanian by nationality often encouraged her children to marry lighter-skinned people because of some belief that fairer-skinned people were somehow superior. Of course Latin America has also had a similar history to the United States of institutionalized racist social hierarchies based on skin color. I know men who want to marry Asian, because they're supposed to be quiet, deferrential and submissive. Women who want to date black men because they like "thuggish" guys. and guys who only go out with latinas because they think that they're wild in bed.

I think I had a point but I may have lost it somewhere, and it's time for me to leave for my next class now. So... draw your own conclusions I guess.
 

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THank you NIC,

Much of what you brought up is unfortunately the fall out of centuries of slavery and colonization of peoples of color across the world. It is especially prevalent in the Americas and Carribean. Yes, it is a shame that people feel in order to have a chance for themselves or their children they need to marry or have children with white or lighter skinned people. I just think it is a desperate grasping at some way to solve a problem that has plagued this country for centuries. The pathology of skin color and hair texture as a means to freedom and acceptance is overwhelming. It is so deep seated that often people are loathe to discuss it even within their own families. I have seem individuals who after feeling they had the formula for success and acceptance grow deeply disappointed when they realize that assimilation and self hatred has not really gotten them that much further up the scale.
You mention that an ex girlfriend was Panamanean. Once again, this is not someone from the continental USA. But some of the attitudes may mirror those of a generation past in African Americans. I think the closer to immigrant roots or a lower socio economic level the more blatant the striving for having children assimilate by whatever means necessary. THere is a reason that women the world over use skin lightening creams , and blond and red hair color are the most popular hair dyes. It actually breaks my heart . I have had African American men approach me for the wrong reasons and have also felt the anger and frustration of some darker African American women. Though I am not the lightest in the spectrum (AA range from blond hair and blue eyes to deepest ebony)I have felt the burn. What really saddens me is that they often don't realize that long hair, light eyes or light skin are not the keys to the kingdom. Life is hard and not everyone gets their fantasy or dream life to come true. In fact, be we black, white, asian or hispanic that holds true.










NineInchCock_160IQ said:
I'm used to talking about these things very openly, but maybe that's because I'm a college student, have a diverse set of friends, and was in Cultural Studies last semester where we had to write papers about it. It's probably not anywhere near as common to discuss this sort of thing outside of the bubble I live in. At least not in an intelligent/inquisative/or academic way. If it comes up at all it's usually in the form of repeating stereotypes, and then other people agreeing or disagreeing.
to naughty: I agree with most of what you're saying but I think you may be oversimplifying on several points. There are many different reasons that different people may choose to marry within or outside their own "race," and many different reasons why they may classify themselves or others as belonging to some group or another. I know, for instance, there's a pretty popular discourse among African-American women that they should marry White or Hispanic because their kids will have "nicer" hair. (don't know why Asian isn't typically included on that list, since they've usually got even straighter hair than anglos) The discourse that fairer skin is desirable is not unique to the USA, either. My ex-girlfriend's grandmother, who was mostly African by ethnicity and Panamanian by nationality often encouraged her children to marry lighter-skinned people because of some belief that fairer-skinned people were somehow superior. Of course Latin America has also had a similar history to the United States of institutionalized racist social hierarchies based on skin color. I know men who want to marry Asian, because they're supposed to be quiet, deferrential and submissive. Women who want to date black men because they like "thuggish" guys. and guys who only go out with latinas because they think that they're wild in bed.

I think I had a point but I may have lost it somewhere, and it's time for me to leave for my next class now. So... draw your own conclusions I guess.