I understand why race seems to be a very sensitive topic for you, but i find very ridiculous to be called racist for what i said. I´ve heard plenty of black people saying the same thing and i haven´t seen this kind of energy towards them
Being called a racist hurts. Just because you find it ridiculous to be called racist for what you've said doesn't mean it isn't true, and saying "I've heard plenty of black people say the same thing" is just...wow. Just because someone else does something doesn't mean its OK for you to do it. This isn't about what other people said, its about what you said.
Saying people 'should stick to their own' is close minded in the very least interpretation, and at worst, well, lets just say it begins with the term racist. Ever hear tell of a pseudoscience called Eugenics?
Eugenics: the study of how to arrange reproduction within a human population to increase the occurrence of heritable characteristics regarded as desirable. Developed largely by Francis Galton as a method of improving the human race, it fell into disfavor only after the perversion of its doctrines by the Nazis.
The argument that people need to stick to their own race is a form of racism that lead to the idea of racial superiority. People like Hitler, Henry Ford, and a lot of other unsavory people throughout history were proponents of this idea.
Now....to broach the topics of dating outside of your own race...
Dating outside of ones own race can be hard. I never said it was easy. Yeah, love is not the only thing you need in a relationship. You need to be friends. You need to talk, and be able to listen to someone else talk, and understand. When you add in the fact that someone isn't the same race there are a whole set of challenges you have to face. So yeah - you don't need ONLY love, but I will amend my statement to say that communication is the key to a good relationship, second to friendship.
The book "Beyond Loving: Intimate Racework in Lesbian, Gay and Straight Interracial Relationships" is a wonderful book to read through to educate yourself on the challenges inherent in an interracial relationship.
But race as a qualifier? Remember you don't have to be a white supremacist or wave a nazi flag or the stars-and-bars to be racist. There is such a thing as 'casual racism' and 'microaggressions' that stem from racism. Crossing the street to walk on the other side because someone looks scary, calling the cops on someone because 'they look out of place,' or saying things like 'you don't sound black,' and not wanting to have a relationship with someone because of their skin tone?
Think of this....lets say you found the most compatible person ever. Wonderful personality, wonderful sense of humor, the sex is perfect, you always get that feeling when you know they're coming over, all of it. But - they're black. You're saying you'd turn them down because you'd rather 'stick to your own?'