Interracial Relationships

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  1. eddyabs

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    I met my partner Patrick 2 years ago now...we fell in love and moved in together...it all happened very quickly and unexpectedly...I guess as love does...Patrick is Caribbean, and was on holiday here from Guadeloupe...he never returned lol :wink:
    Maybe it's funny but I never even think about Patrick as being of a different race...he is my companion, my lover, my pal....but sometimes people ask questions, as if it differs from being in a relationship with a guy or girl of caucasian nationality, something I find rather strange. To me it doesn't differ, and it never did. Do you believe that it is the way we are brought up by Family/Guardians...or does it go deeper, something that is inherent in our character.....the fact that some would feel that there is or might be a difference in a relationship because of a different racial mix?
     
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    Unless your physical well-being is in danger, I think it'll only make a difference if you let. In the end, your relationship becomes what you allow it to.

    P.S.
    Interracial Dating: very hot.
     
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    People of different nationalities may have been brought up in different cultures. Even within a nation there are cultural differences. ( contrast a bible belt state with New York )

    Now compare that to guy-girl dating, which for those in the relationship can feel like they are dating another species altogether.:rolleyes:

    The race issue just makes it a visible trait that nosy people feel entitled to inquire about.
     
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    Congrats....I am Carribean too....I really don't see color myself....Most of my friends are from every ethnicity imaginable....But I do think some people may not grow up in a diverse environment so of course they have some preconceived ideas and thoughts of different ethnicities....Love sees no color....I am glad I live in a city that has a great mix of different ethnicities and we all blend together....
     
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    My previous boyfriends and partners were all different races. Sometimes other people had problems with it. I've discussed this extensively in previous threads. The problems we had came from other gay men. White ones. Always. One BF I had was cute, well educated, polite and clean-cut. He was totally delicious and fuckable. One night we were leaving a club and a random drunk queen yelled "what's that hot blonde guy doing with that Mexican! I wanted to kick his ass but my BF persuaded me to leave it alone. This was not an isolated incident. My partner after that came from an aristocratic Central American family. I couldn't believe how people couldn't stand us being together and treated him like he was from the gutter. He was handsome, spoke several languages (some obscure), well mannered and was basically the total package. He too told me to "leave it alone" on more than one occasion.

    I hope we've made some progress. I broke up with the last BF I mentioned almost 10 years ago. My partner of 6 years is a white guy. I don't miss the (occasional) racial problems from before but I never shrank from them. I'll underscore this: the problem was always with white gay men.
     
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    I totally agree with Sorc on this one. Gay White men have a lot of issues when it comes to interracial dating. That said, dating someone who isn't the same race as you is no different from dating someone of the same race in my opinion. We are all people and if you find someone interesting that should be the link. Ethnicity, color of skin or beliefs shouldn't come into play unless they are brought into play.

    :cool:
     
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    Damn right!

    Robert
     
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    I wouldn't say it's exclusive to white gay men. It's not unheard of among straights. Many a woman or man has taken offense to someone from their perceived dating pool swimming in different waters.
     
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    I left this part out. We never thought of ourselves as different races until someone reminded us.
     
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    I will second that. But I will broaden that by saying I will have more problems with white people regardless of sexual orientation looking down upon my boyfriends and looking at me with contempt because my boyfriends have all been outside my race. And before you blame it on the Bible Belt (a place I live right now) let me just add this: I lived in NYC for 5 years and when I would date white guys I would run into the same problem there. Bigotry, unfortunately, has no favorite geographic location. I will say this as well: Occasionally one of my black brothers would ask me why I was dating such and such white person. And my response was always the same: "Where were you, my strong black brother, when I was single?" :biggrin1:
     
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    This is beautiful...and you ARE the same race...the human race.:smile:
     
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    I think it's how people view the world and others. If a person is surrounded by diversity, he or she will not think twice about an interracial couple. This would be the "ideal" setting for all children, but society and the world are not so "ideal."

    Appreciating and accepting takes work for most of us. I have had even the most liberal, accepting people I know say and do things that show a complete disregard for diversity. I don't think we as a society will ever achieve the ideal, in my opinion. It's an unattainable goal.
     
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    I was in L.A. when all this happened. Hate has no geographic boundaries. I have to tell ya... when I was in Oklahoma I sure watched my step and my partners.
     
  14. kinda like the poster of this message ... :wink:
     
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    Thank you.
     
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    I think I'm in love....
     
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    You guys should take some pics together.

    I have the worst crush on a girl I know, who is from Trinidad. She is beautiful in every sense of the word. I would have no problem dating her. I think, if people have problems, I would just tell 'em to piss off.

    If people see we are happy, that is all that matters.
     
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    Haha, that's nice and all, but I think we're just a feeew states away from each other.
     
  19. but it would be fun ... :rolleyes: :tongue:
     
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    Photoshop something sinful and you can both use it in your galleries.
     
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