I have similar views. While I have no problem with interracial dating,( I have been in love with a white man myself), as a Black man in America I look at interracial dating with a bit of suspicion at times. As someone who has very much been culturally aware since childhood, I know the effects Black American Slavery had on the Black community psychologically and I know they still linger in our minds as a whole.
(Some of the things I am about to say my be offensive to some but that is not my intent at all). This is going to sound weird but as a gay Black man I find myself most most suspicious of interracial relationships of Black men and White women. I will be the first to tell anyone that love is blind if no other reason than my own history, however I do consider myself well informed and have no problems with being Black. In the Black American community however, I feel many of us subconciously still have self-hating issues. Subconciously, many of us still believe anything that is associated with "White" is good or better. So many Black men will date women of other races but will talk about a Black woman's "bad hair" and a bi-racial woman's "good hair". Many of us will joke about how "black" a woman is but will never joke about how "white" a woman is, etc. If I have seen it once, I have seen it a million times of Black men dating women of other races, but eventually witnessing certain types of language creeping into their conversation thus giving away their own issues that they carry. Usually the language is disparaging about Black women or Black people as a whole.
There are interracial relationships in America of White men and Black women, however in terms of Black Americans dating interracially, there is a HUUUUUGGGGGGEEEEE imbalance of Black men with white women than Black women with white men, and I don't believe it's just coincidence. In this day and time many of the black communities most prominent, well-off, smartest, most talented are with women of another race. But the same cannot be said of White America's most prominent, well-off, smartest, most talented men. How many white CEO's have black wives? How many White professional athletes in the NBA, NFL, MLB, NHL, etc., have Black wives? How many famous white actors, singers, etc., have black wives? NOW ask the same question of Black men in those same categories and how many of them have wives of another race, and see if they are anywhere near balanced? Considering Black people are now the second largest minority group in America (Hispanics are the largest) and make up only 12%-13% of the population, that imbalance in dating SCREAMS! I read a study about 3 years ago of interracial relationships involving Black Americans and 74% of those relationships involved Black men. With such a wide percentage gap, I wondered why? Not in that the relationships shouldn't be, but as to why it was so imbalanced.
Some may wonder about the white women in these relationships with Black men. Well, in the Black community there has been a stereotype of those women, and from personal experience there is a bit of truth in the stereotypes I must say. Among Blacks, many of the men would be "at the top of the foodchain". But many of the White women they choose have come from nothing, were not educated, by white standards of beauty would not be considered attractive, and many of whom were overweight. In the all black neighborhood I grew up in in the 80's the military officers, the doctors, the star athletes, the lawyers, etc. of the community always seemed to marry the " fine pretty girls" of the Black community who were well educated and whose families were upper middle class. Well today, those same "cream of the crop" men are marrying white women who are strippers, and porn stars, and high school dropouts, and cocktail waitresses, and baby sitters. Is this every case, of course not but in many of the cases yes. Also, in many cases when the white woman is considered "attractive" the black man she is with is really well off financially. This has been my experience.
Are there interracial relationships out there that is soley based upon love and not the persons finances, status, or perceived sexual prowess.... of course. But as common as that is, people getting together for what I call illegitimate reasons are just as common. Just my opinion and not meant to be offensive.