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[StrictlyAvg]

I think you put this really well. Acording to the social sciences the idea of "races" being biologically different is a myth, but the social creation and perpetuation of that concept is real. So people basically are racist based on ideas that are outdated and scientifically disproven. There is only one race, but many variations on it. You never see orange cats discriminating against black ones or striped ones.

That's because they're domesticated/more docile and usually well fed, which means they tolerate other other cats under the same roof - the battleground of the suburban back garden is where you see the true nature of the little beast. The only truly social cat species is the lion. And a white lion can often end up rejected at maturity by its tawny compatriots because its colour compromises the ability of the pride to hide and hunt (if the lack of pigment doesn't make it a target for other predators or buffalo).

But humans don't face those kinds of challenge, so in theory we ought to be able to get over race and cultural differences more easily than that. America particularly, with its wide range of imported cultures.

 

[B_curiousme01]

Okay.. :-( Do black women joke about black men and their hair? Just curious, as usual. Not picking or anything.

Good hair/bad hair distinction is a problem that has existed in the black community for a very long time. There's nothing sexist about it. Black men can also have "good" or "bad" hair.

A good movie about this issue is Chris Rock's, "Good Hair."

 

[ConstantComment]

Okay.. :-( Do black women joke about black men and their hair? Just curious, as usual. Not picking or anything.

I'm a black woman, so I'll answer it. The answer is either "no" or "not as much." Sometimes it's a back lash as we contemplate what our children might look like with his own pickanneny ingrown scalp hair. At the balck unviersity I went to, I noticed a lot of the darker guys would pre empt things by accusing the fair skinned black women fo being racist. So of ocurse, she would go out with him to prove him wrong.

Guys are lucky as they can cut their hair short and it's easy to take care of.

A lot of studies on attraction always conclude that men prefer long hair on women, whatever the race. I have shoulder length and would never cut (I get it trimmed regularly though for maintenance)

 

[B_curiousme01]

Thanks for the reply. I had no idea hair was that important!

 

[D_Maurice Mountlilly]

Black girls won't even look twice at me, but let me walk with a white, latin or asian woman, all hell break loose. The stare, lips curl, balled fist. And also I get the angry looks from black girls on their dates with white guys. Just anger. I don't care. Please go on date with whom ever. That's how the world always been.


Anyway folks are going to look, even if you were with someone from your same race, or etc. Folks look, you look back and smile. Folks say something tell them don't knock it before you try it.

LOL!!!!! the balled fists,and curled lips,with the stare!
that's a "hey how you doing?" type black female greeting here in Philly...

 

[Smooth88]

My big question is youre 19 OP? Why the hell are you married?

 

[Harold81]

But it's different for you to date a white guy just because you are gay? SO UNFAIR!!!!!!!!! Granted, there are imbalances in everything in life, but the problem is that until people get beyond thinking "race" in relation to life in general, we will still be where we are today talking shi-t about and being suspicious of people who simply look different than we do. I do understand your suspicions but, honestly, I think a few of the things you said that border on being racist and/or derogatory towards women. Bad hair vs. good hair? Uneducated white girls??? C'mon! Not very cool and well-rounded discussion topics about any female! HAIR is a popular discussion topic and a "joke" at that??????????? SO VERY WRONG.

I may be wrong, but I think one reason white men do not date black women more is because the black community does not approve of white men - in general - and especially dating "their" woman. I know that my husband finds black ladies very attractive. It is not about anything other than he LIKES THE WAY THEY LOOK. Period. What is wrong with that? Nothing in my book. He could like Latino's, Asian's, or ____ ? However, I think if he was single and fell in love with a black girl they would have a very rough road...considering he is 6'2, blond hair and blue eyes. How well do you think that go over at her families house on Christmas day? Do you think he would be treated the same as if he was black, Latino or Asian?

Our young people are the wave of the future. Let us all hope and encourage that they grow up thinking differently than us "adults."

bad hair? I cannot get over that comment. :-( It really just....bothers me. Every girl is different no matter her color. Hair "type" included.

First of all, is it safe to assume you are not a Black American? I ask because that may shed a little light on why it seems you basically misinterpreted my entire post. From reading your response, it appears as if you think I am the one who refers to Black people's hair in "good" and "bad" categories. It appears as if you think I am the one who make jokes about dark skin. It appears you have somehow taken my PERSONAL and common observation of the the types of women many successful black men are marrying, as a attack on ALL women. That is all wrooooonnnng! Many of the Black men dating women of other races speak of Black women's hair in good and bad categories NOT ME. Many of the Black men who date women of other races make jokes about how "Black" a woman's skin is, NOT ME. I DID NOT SAY ALL White women were poor, uneducated, unattractive, overweight, strippers, porn stars, cocktail waitresses, and babysitters. I said it has been my and many others observation that a lot of the women these "successful" Black men date and mary often times carry the characteristics I listed above. Those type of women ACTUALLY exist and by acknowledging they exist does not mean it is racist and derogatory to all women. For example, recognizing prostitutes exist and are frequented by men does not mean I am trying to demean all women of the world. I'm pointing out they exist...which is true.

With regard to it being ok for me to date white men because I am gay and not straight black men to day white women...you got that wrong as well. If you look at what I typed immediately before that, you will see I prefaced it with "this is going to sound strange". I was referring to the fact that many people find it strange that I care about STRAIGHT Black men dating White women, considering I AM GAY. One would think I would be suspicious of Black men with white men considering I am gay. But I find myself suspicious of straight Black men who date white women because of the huge imbalance, and the self-hate that goes on in the black community. IMO, one of the biggest purchasers of "white standards of beauty" has been the Black American man. I hear Black men who date women of other races subtly and not so subtly disparage Black women too often to just ignore it. Couple that with the GIGANTIC imbalance of Black men with white women and you have a recipe for the suspicion I often feel when I see it.

Lastly, with regard to your reasoning we do not see White men with Black women as often, well I have to admit I believe your theory has some validation and is indeed a factor. It is not the ONLY factor but a factor I believe it is. White men not being accepted in the Black community is far from the reason as a whole IMO. Black men who marry into White families have it just as hard as well. In some ways I believe Black families seem to be more accepting on some levels once they get to know you.

*note* I am very much aware that race shouldn't matter, love is love, some people don't see race, if we just leave issues of race alone everyone would be so happy, etc. I believe we are on our way to those days but we also live in a reality and I'm not just going to hope things go away. I'm going to continue to wonder WHY things are the way they are and discuss them.

Peace.